8 days of NC broke over jealousy from Ex wife. now I'm torn

[ridinbikes247]

Both 27 years old, with 4 year old boy. Been legally separated for almost 14 weeks now. I left her for being dis respectful. After I left she chose to stay single and party. I tried for the first 11 weeks to get her to come back. She told me to leave her alone, blocked my facebook... So after about week 12, I did - I went 8 days without contacting her.I went to the beach the last 3 days and today she had the nerve to text me and say - Dont forget its Wed., you have to get Jake tonight.... I replied "yes i know" and left her alone... Well, an hour later she texted me back and said "I got on your facebook and seen you took your sister and her friends to the beach- There 17 -

I replied "Well i offered to take you but you kept saying no that we are finished, so i took my sister and her friends "

Her reply - - "I just want to know which one slept in your bed ?? I see you took pictures with them and I can tell you liked them so which one did you screw"

So Seriously ?? Instead of telling her "its none of your business" I explained to her . they were to young. I slept in my own bed and the girls did there own thing. I took my sister, and they're her friends. she said "ok what ever we are really done now I dont want nothing to do with your lieing ass and bla bla"

AHHHH - 2 hours of argueing with her - a sign she may want me back ? or just wants her cake and eat it to

[AllieKat]

I think its a sign she still cares what you do and who you do it with! Seems like she may be jealous! Us women well some of us get that way especially if we think your with somone else! Kinda like she doesnt want you till she thinks someone does. She sees you moving on and having fun without her and it bothers her

[Jstub]

I agree with Allie - I can't say about the "she cares" part, it might be an ego thing.

 

My experience: My wife had an affair and we separated. After this she THOUGHT i had a gf/ was seeing someone and started going crazy on me, saying things like "I bet you are seeing your new b****" when I was actually getting an oil change etc. (even though I did not have a gf, I simply did not deny or admit that I had a gf).

 

Hope that helps.

[ridinbikes247]

After we argued all morning about what girl I slept with and all that crap I did call her this evening

I told her "Sorry you dont believe me about my sisters friends, but I still love you, and I think we could make our marriage work, it just takes 2. she said "no the damage is done and shes ready to move on"

I said ok, we have 9 months still so maybe if you date around you will see I really I'm a good husband"

she just got silent for about 5-7 seconds,... so i said "but, you know my number and if you ever want to just have a date night call me. I'm not looking to move back in first thing or even hang out as a family, because I dont want our boy getting confused seeing us apart and together, I just want to show you the guy you fell in love with... Then i said, am going back to giving you your space so I want call you again

We both ended with ok bye

[ridinbikes247]

I will just turn this into my journal - 2 days no contact - I hate when people tell me things !!!

First, the daycare tells me My ex wife has been going to the bar alot for the past 2 weeks .

Then, when I get my boy home - he is only 4 so I dont know if he is to young to understand or if he is just saying off the wall things...but,

He said "daddy, your friend kris came over to the house"

I asked him when and he just said "nevermind i was joking"

I told him not to joke around and he said "

"kris came over to mommys and we played with him"

Then he keeps saying "No nevermind he didnt"

Looks like i may break No Contact because Kris is my BEST friend

[ridinbikes247]

Made it 5 more days ! She text me tonight around 8:30p.m and to inform me our son has a red mark on his head and she wants to know what happend

She picks our son up from day care around 4:30-5:00pm.... so why wait 4hours later to text me ??

I really didnt feel the need to reply so I did not - She never sent another text or bothered to call - I think she wanted to see if I would answer her and start argueing - No telling

[marqueemoon4]

Ok.. whats going on right now is pretty standard.. she's gonna poke at you every chance she gets, you have to stay composed and DO NOT let her get to you. Most likely she'll contact you alot about your child, knowing that you are hurting and panicking, and when you don't play into her games she'll accuse you of not caring about your child. This all comes out of the crazy b*tch playbook, and she is going to run it to the letter. I know its hard but you need to focus on you right now and don't let her psychosis get to you. I really feel for you man, I've been through it myself and I wouldn't wish it on my worst enemy.

 

Stay strong!

Edited May 1, 2012 by marqueemoon4

[ridinbikes247]

I gave in today -

She started blowing my phone up

She text about 3 times and kept saying - "answer me ! our son has a red mark, you ignored me last night"

Finally i told her "I dont know what happend, he is 4 years old and theres no telling"

She then replied "I know hes 4 and accidents happend so ok, all I wanted you to do was answer me"

Then she goes on about she is taking him for a week vacation to the beach and she wanted to make sure it was alright

[ridinbikes247]

For 2.5 months i BEGGED for her back - not cry beg, but I called her everyday and asked how her day was and sleep good. . I asked her out for dinner and lets work on our marriage and etc. she blew me off everytime.

Now, I dont ask her No questions and I really think she is just bugging me to try and get me to talk to her ????? I think she misses the control she had over me.

Theres no telling i guess.

3 months separated tomorrow and it does get Easier

[Chi townD]

What's disturbing to me is your son. First he says Kris came over, then it was like, "Oh what a minute....no he didn't." Then, he says "Kris and I played." Then, he says, " Wait a minute, no he didn't." "Just Joking!"

 

Sounds like somethings going on there and she's trying to coach her son. " Remember, don't tell your Dad Kris was here."

 

Well, he's four! OPPS! "I forgot I wasn't supposed to say anything."

 

I'd look into this.