M2155 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 All my guy friends (and girl friends) say go for it, especially if you are attractive. I'm all for finding a way to show interest- easier said than done sometimes- and then most guys with a pulse and an ounce of confidence will engage you in some conversation or banter if they are single and looking. Smile and say something like "You just looked like someone I needed to come say hello to" and let him take it from there!
Feelsgoodman Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Same rules apply for women approaching men as in the opposite, more usual scenario. 1. Be creative and humorous in your approach. 2. Don't be creepy about it. Yes, men can be creeped out. You forgot the most important one: 3. Don't be unattractive.
monkey00 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I love it when a woman approaches me however, i'm seeing that most women who do are just attention whores. Women don't do it enough and I would love to be approached. Unfortunately I've dealt with the above in that a lot of them are AW...most of the time they have SO's already. I've had women grab my attention or hover around me while waiting for the train. I don't think much of it to be honest in that case, but if they were to break the ice or make conversation..then it's already a good start to be honest.
DjinnAgain Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Some do. Some don't. However, if you can't get the message across and you are interested - he is not approaching anyways, so what do you have to lose?
AKollegeGuy Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I wouldn't mind getting approached. Especially if she buys me a drink, then I'm all hers !
DuchessKaye Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I wouldn't mind getting approached. Especially if she buys me a drink, then I'm all hers ! WOW! I once heard this from one guy that I dated. Haha! "You bought me a drink, now I am all yours. You can do whatever you want to me... for one hour!" 1
Bob_Funk Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Even after all those years in school and all those nights out, I've only been approached twice. The girls were probably tired of getting pumped and dumped by male models and decided to try someone in their league for once. Of course I was so confused, I wasn't able to capitalize. Definitely approach. It's always welcome when a girl approaches us. You don't even have to be good looking really.
AKollegeGuy Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 WOW! I once heard this from one guy that I dated. Haha! "You bought me a drink, now I am all yours. You can do whatever you want to me... for one hour!" How'd that turn out?
DuchessKaye Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 How'd that turn out? He was sorry, I did all what a wild tiger wants to do!
AKollegeGuy Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 He was sorry, I did all what a wild tiger wants to do! Too bad we never met.
MaxNoob Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I don't care how tactfully it's done, I love being hit on. Even the "pretending to like video games as a ploy to seduce me" tactic. 3 different girls have tried that one on me. Then once they have me, I feel quite shocked and nerdy when I realize that they don't actually like video games at all. But it's just adorable that they put in all that effort.
collegeguy_24 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Personally, I fully support women approaching men. Its worked out for me, my current GF asked me out, and we 've been together for 1 year 6 months, all because she asked me out first. I'm living proof that it works.
Ross MwcFan Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I'd really like it as it would prove that some women are attracted to me offline (unless it was a joke). But unfortunatley it has never happened yet. Maybe one day eh?
Bob_Funk Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I'd really like it as it would prove that some women are attracted to me offline (unless it was a joke). But unfortunatley it has never happened yet. Maybe one day eh? I remember you being kind of chubby from your pic. If you're over 15% body fat, you aren't even in the running. I'd also do something with your hair and update your wardrobe. Get plastic surgery if you have to. Women are more looks bigotted than the KKK, I tell you.
newmoon Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 i have always heard and read (as many of these replies also indicate) that men would love to be approached by a woman. so, i finally found a guy about a year ago that i just had to approach - he was so handsome and smart and etc. he was attracted to me as well, so i made the first move and and went for it. reaction? he was put off by my forwardness and called me 'aggressive' and said that 'aggressive women are not attractive to him.' so... it depends on the guy and his morals/standards and you won't know what those are until you try. but, happy ending... my guy decided a few weeks later that having a hot woman hit on him wasn't so bad after all and he asked me out, and we're still together a year later. my lesson though? let men be men and let them take the lead. they like to be in control most times and having the woman ask them out and hit on them is more fantasy-based than reality-based.
Nistan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 i have always heard and read (as many of these replies also indicate) that men would love to be approached by a woman. so, i finally found a guy about a year ago that i just had to approach - he was so handsome and smart and etc. he was attracted to me as well, so i made the first move and and went for it. reaction? he was put off by my forwardness and called me 'aggressive' and said that 'aggressive women are not attractive to him.' so... it depends on the guy and his morals/standards and you won't know what those are until you try. but, happy ending... my guy decided a few weeks later that having a hot woman hit on him wasn't so bad after all and he asked me out, and we're still together a year later. my lesson though? let men be men and let them take the lead. they like to be in control most times and having the woman ask them out and hit on them is more fantasy-based than reality-based. Like men, there are right and wrong ways to approach. Maybe you just did it poorly? You can approach and not be aggressive you know.
musemaj11 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 I want to be approached by a woman I find attractive. But so far it has not happened. Only the fuglies whom no one else wants have approached me.
musemaj11 Posted May 7, 2012 Posted May 7, 2012 i have always heard and read (as many of these replies also indicate) that men would love to be approached by a woman. so, i finally found a guy about a year ago that i just had to approach - he was so handsome and smart and etc. he was attracted to me as well, so i made the first move and and went for it. reaction? he was put off by my forwardness and called me 'aggressive' and said that 'aggressive women are not attractive to him.' so... it depends on the guy and his morals/standards and you won't know what those are until you try. but, happy ending... my guy decided a few weeks later that having a hot woman hit on him wasn't so bad after all and he asked me out, and we're still together a year later. my lesson though? let men be men and let them take the lead. they like to be in control most times and having the woman ask them out and hit on them is more fantasy-based than reality-based. Chances are you didnt do it right and came across aggressive and desperate. To be fair though, probably due to lack of practice, women generally arent the smoothest at initiating romantic feelings.
Pierre Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 IMHO, a woman approaching a man works when the man is extremely shy and in need for the woman to do all the leg work. These are general the so-called NERDY type shy guys. If you approach a player he will tell you you are awesome and a 2012 woman to reinforce your behavior. But, the end result will not be good. It would be like feeding Bambi to a lion without having to go out and hunt. If you must approach men make sure these are men tht are basically too shy to make a move. IN my case a woman that chases me is a major turn off. I see them as strange and desperate. I rather go for a woman that knows how to flirt and send the signal in a discrete manner. 1
newmoon Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Chances are you didnt do it right and came across aggressive and desperate. To be fair though, probably due to lack of practice, women generally arent the smoothest at initiating romantic feelings. not quite... but, imo any woman who initiates will come across as aggressive to (most) men because it just doesn't fit with the norm of men being in control. and, unltimately, that is what women will find - most men do prefer to be in control of the relationship and moves, so making that first move, while nice in theory, just isn't worthwhile. to the OP, don't do it
musemaj11 Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 (edited) not quite... but, imo any woman who initiates will come across as aggressive to (most) men because it just doesn't fit with the norm of men being in control. and, unltimately, that is what women will find - most men do prefer to be in control of the relationship and moves, so making that first move, while nice in theory, just isn't worthwhile. to the OP, don't do it But dont you think its ironic though because no matter how you see it your own relationship basically came out of you initiating it? For me personally people should just do what works best for them. If you are happy just picking out of the few that come to you then do that. But if you arent satisfied with what come to you then you have the choice get out of your seat and go for what you want. Edited May 8, 2012 by musemaj11
LittlePrince Posted May 8, 2012 Posted May 8, 2012 Last time I was hit on by a woman she was with her bf right next to her. Women who hit on men usually don't have the most honest intentions so I would be very leery.
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