sal110104 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I apologize if this is already a topic - I searched a few pages back on the thread but couldnt find anything. My question is this (mainly for the guys) but girls can chime in with their experiences. Do you guys like to be approached and hit on by women? How forward is too forward? Is it ever ok to offer up my phone # without you asking for it? I am an attractive woman - mid 30's so its not like I dont have guys hitting on me a lot of the times. But if I see a guy who catches my eye - I am not the best at sending "signals" I am kind of shy when it comes to that or I always feel akward & I have been told I look angry a lot of times & I really do try to be concious of that. So would guys think it was wierd or desperate for me to do the approaching? Just curious as I embark on my dating journey & adventures & I am trying to learn as much as I can Thanks
Chs Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 It's perfectly fine, really flattering and feels good to any guy when a girl approaches him. We are in 2012 and i think it's so old fashioned to think only women can approach
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I apologize if this is already a topic - I searched a few pages back on the thread but couldnt find anything. My question is this (mainly for the guys) but girls can chime in with their experiences. Do you guys like to be approached and hit on by women? How forward is too forward? Is it ever ok to offer up my phone # without you asking for it? I am an attractive woman - mid 30's so its not like I dont have guys hitting on me a lot of the times. But if I see a guy who catches my eye - I am not the best at sending "signals" I am kind of shy when it comes to that or I always feel akward & I have been told I look angry a lot of times & I really do try to be concious of that. So would guys think it was wierd or desperate for me to do the approaching? Just curious as I embark on my dating journey & adventures & I am trying to learn as much as I can Thanks Your pickup line better be good. Like for instance, don't compliment my incredibly muscular arms, rather tell me how smart I am.
oaks Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I like to be approached by people I find attractive.
Author sal110104 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Your pickup line better be good. Like for instance, don't compliment my incredibly muscular arms, rather tell me how smart I am. Crap - now I have to work on a pick-up line thread Thanks for the insight - see how much I am learning!
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Crap - now I have to work on a pick-up line thread Thanks for the insight - see how much I am learning! It's good you're being proactive though. Assertive women like you seem to do well. (All the ones I know are married.) But, trust me, men love having their ego's stroked.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 It's perfectly fine. I'd think a woman would be a little weird if the first words out of her mouth are "here's my phone number" but it depends on the persons. My brother was a traffic cop and his now wife just stuck her business card out of the window to him. I myself have stood on a subway train and grumbled at a lurch and had a chick damn near throw herself at me asking me what I said. I got her number and had a fling for a couple of weeks until she made too much of a nuisance of herself that she had to go. I'd much prefer women to initiate conversation than to have to be pried open with my savoir faire. It's always a good day when some prospective lay initiates conversation.
Necromancer Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I apologize if this is already a topic - I searched a few pages back on the thread but couldnt find anything. My question is this (mainly for the guys) but girls can chime in with their experiences. Do you guys like to be approached and hit on by women? How forward is too forward? Is it ever ok to offer up my phone # without you asking for it? I am an attractive woman - mid 30's so its not like I dont have guys hitting on me a lot of the times. But if I see a guy who catches my eye - I am not the best at sending "signals" I am kind of shy when it comes to that or I always feel akward & I have been told I look angry a lot of times & I really do try to be concious of that. So would guys think it was wierd or desperate for me to do the approaching? Just curious as I embark on my dating journey & adventures & I am trying to learn as much as I can Thanks If i would be approached by a women i find attractive my jaw would drop and i would think shes something worth talking to.
ednadean Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 hmm. don't shoot me but this is my opinion. all of the nice guys I know would think the woman was desperate if she did so (although it depends on the context and how it's done). all of the not-so-nice guys I know would think similarly -- but still go at her for sex, and probably not much else. it's 2012 --- but basic evolutionary principles still prevail. ---- that being said, i come from an area where there are NOT a lot single males vs single ladies. so perhaps it's a geographical thing.
Nistan Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Most girls that approached me did a terrible job. :/ I think alot of women are under something like the Dunning-Kruger effect. There seems to be a subconsious delusion, among women, that thet they are some sort of expert mind readers. So Women are the ones to judge and measure guys. In such a possition of power I think it's completely natural to begin to believe that you have some sort of spidersense or superpower. I'm completely fine with this. Your life, your delusions. The problem is that you def. can't approach, and be the one to be judged with those notions. Please don't put your hand on my crotch in the first few minutes because you 'sensed' some 'connection' between us. Or start to explain what 'type' of guy I am and what type of girl I like.(These things have happened to me several times).
somedude81 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 It's completely fine but be tactful about it. Butter me up with some conversation first, then I'll let you take me home. 2
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 It's completely fine but be tactful about it. Butter me up with some conversation first, then I'll let you take me home. But if I put butter in my purse it's going to melt by the time I find an attractive man to talk to and work up the courage to talk to him!
Woggle Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 But if I put butter in my purse it's going to melt by the time I find an attractive man to talk to and work up the courage to talk to him! Carry squirtable butter or Molly Mcbutter sprinkles. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I never heard of Molly Mcbutter sprinkles Woggle.
Woggle Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I never heard of Molly Mcbutter sprinkles Woggle. It's usually in the spice and seasoning section and it's dried butter flakes. That is what I used when I was really broke. I don't know if they even make it anymore. Here is what it looks like. http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=molly%20mcbutter&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CFkQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mollymcbutter.com%2F&ei=NJqYT8arC-r06QHQjZHDBg&usg=AFQjCNHBbM32XaDqV7No6eQfHrddX8e-Mw
joystickd Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Hell yeah! I get approach and its cool. Less work for me:p
DuchessKaye Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 It's usually in the spice and seasoning section and it's dried butter flakes. That is what I used when I was really broke. I don't know if they even make it anymore. Here is what it looks like. http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=molly%20mcbutter&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CFkQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mollymcbutter.com%2F&ei=NJqYT8arC-r06QHQjZHDBg&usg=AFQjCNHBbM32XaDqV7No6eQfHrddX8e-Mw Wow! I followed the link, I saw the Spinach Stuffed Chicken Roll- Ups! Now I'm hungry
DuchessKaye Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I apologize if this is already a topic - I searched a few pages back on the thread but couldnt find anything. My question is this (mainly for the guys) but girls can chime in with their experiences. Do you guys like to be approached and hit on by women? How forward is too forward? Is it ever ok to offer up my phone # without you asking for it? I am an attractive woman - mid 30's so its not like I dont have guys hitting on me a lot of the times. But if I see a guy who catches my eye - I am not the best at sending "signals" I am kind of shy when it comes to that or I always feel akward & I have been told I look angry a lot of times & I really do try to be concious of that. So would guys think it was wierd or desperate for me to do the approaching? Just curious as I embark on my dating journey & adventures & I am trying to learn as much as I can Thanks I know of lots of men who like to be approached. On the side of the girl, it shows confidence, and men love confidence! We are on 2012, women are CEO's, women are presidents, women run companies. Women can also do some work, let's not just rely on men.
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 It's usually in the spice and seasoning section and it's dried butter flakes. That is what I used when I was really broke. I don't know if they even make it anymore. Here is what it looks like. http://www.google.com/url?sa=t&rct=j&q=molly%20mcbutter&source=web&cd=1&ved=0CFkQFjAA&url=http%3A%2F%2Fwww.mollymcbutter.com%2F&ei=NJqYT8arC-r06QHQjZHDBg&usg=AFQjCNHBbM32XaDqV7No6eQfHrddX8e-Mw Oh gosh! That is like a blast from the past! I remember that myself now. I think we had it once in awhile in my own childhood.
Imported Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I like women that I would approach to approach me. That is fine. I don't want women that i don't feel attracted to to approach me. Hell, sometimes I don't even want a girl generally considered to be attractive to approach me. Sometimes I don't want any women to approach me for reasons that doesn't even have anything to do with them. With all the crap that comes with it, I'd rather women didn't overtly approach me and just stick to showing me interest and wait for me to approach them........if I want to. So much better. I am horrible at rejecting I guess, even though I try to be nice. I think many women just do not take rejection well and feel entitled just because they put forth the effort to approach or maybe they're just crazy. 1
verhrzn Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 If you're attractive, yes. You could do pretty much anything and guys would still be into it. If you're ugly, no.
joystickd Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 If you're attractive, yes. You could do pretty much anything and guys would still be into it. If you're ugly, no. Sometimes you would be surprised the guy that are attracted to you if you put yourself out there
verhrzn Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Sometimes you would be surprised the guy that are attracted to you if you put yourself out there Yeah, been there, done that, gotten mooed at. Like I said, attractive women get a clean pass to do whatever ya want, but as an ugly woman, don't even bother.
TheBigQuestion Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Same rules apply for women approaching men as in the opposite, more usual scenario. 1. Be creative and humorous in your approach. 2. Don't be creepy about it. Yes, men can be creeped out.
phineas Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I love it when a woman approaches me however, i'm seeing that most women who do are just attention whores.
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