BSs in the hot seat once again. WHY?

[Danie]

LHI, It’s pretty obvious to me (maybe others) that you are very angry with sparks for…what? You thread jacked her whole thread and now you won’t even share how this thread reflects on your own story. That’s pretty telling to me. You have a problem with this concept, why?

 

The whole concept of this thread isn’t that hard to grasp. Basically, treat other’s with respect when speaking to them. Simple.

 

You keep ringing the same bell but won’t say why you ring this particular bell in the first place. To my way of thinking, it’s kind of pointless to continue this discussion if the content is the same-same-same as to what you’ve already said. Regardless of what I think you, obviously, have the right to keep saying what you feel you need to say...I'm just telling you that it gets kind of old traveling the same ground.

[Spark1111]

I never threw my wife out either. After D-Day 1, we were going to MC and turns out she was lying her butt off to me and the MC. She never established NC with the OM and just went underground. I was being loving, forgiving, etc. But, after D-Day 2, I told her to choose and get the Hell out if it wasn't me. She stayed, quit her job and we are happily reconciled after a ton of hard work.

 

She will tell you that faced with the "slap in the face" reality of having to leave her husband, children and home, DID factor into the decision.

 

Her behavior is very common, very typical, unfortunately.

 

I am happy for you, as for me, that the cold, hard slap in the face reality, woke her and a lot of others up too when it came to reconciliation.

 

After DDAY1, did you consider yourself a cuckold? A ball-less wimp? For giving everything you had to try and heal and reconcile?

 

Or did that take trememdous fortitude and courage on your part?

 

I know, no I LIVED that scenario. No reply necessary, but please do if you want to.

[Owl]

It's interesting to see that exact behavior that the OP was about being demonstrated specifically in this thread.

[Spark1111]

Oooh. Who's "shouting" now, spark and seren?

 

Not only using ALL CAPS (classic internet code for "shouting"), but also ALL BOLDED IN CAPS. That's like shouting as loud as you can.

 

I already told you I am wise to the thread-jack tactic of asking me to post about myself, which I choose not to, and then attempting to make this topic about lovehateindifference, which it is not.

 

What it IS about is the fact that some people don't recognize just how "angry" and "hostile" THEY are, and are still in denial about it.

 

But using BOLDED ALL CAPS is a dead giveaway.

 

You love to provoke. You do it in every thread you post on.

 

Ok, LHI, you win.

 

You can be right.

 

I will still be happy.

 

Us holier than thou posters, me, Blue Knight, Seren, Owl, Danie, Jwi, Finding Nemo, Bentnotbroken, DonnaMaybe, thomasb, will still be happy too, I assume.:bunny:

 

We will continue to be our poor, misguided, deluded, inferior selves.

We will light incense, pat each other on the back and sing Kumbaya every chance we get.

 

And since you will not share your story, I guess, you are not totally confident in the decision you made...the advice you do give.

 

But you can continue to try to convice of of the "rightness" of your opinion.

 

And I WILL STILL be happy.

[Spark1111]

It's interesting to see that exact behavior that the OP was about being demonstrated specifically in this thread.

 

It couldn't be more perfect an example OWL.

[Danie]

LHI, Ok, I just read that long post of yours…now I understand that it’s not really just sparks that you have a problem with.

 

Seems to me that you want to *manage* the lives of other posters here…you want the BSs to do as you say they should do…without question…and regardless of whether it makes sense to them at this point or not…just DO IT because an anonymous poster on an internet forum says to DO IT already. Sorry, I really do believe anyone, anywhere, would follow blindly what doesn’t make sense to them. I’m not saying that it’s not good advice (maybe delivered in a bad way) but until the person is ready to make that decision it’s not going to happen. And you know what? It’s Ok. They get to live their lives as they want to live. It’s not our decision it’s their decision.

[SomedayDig]

LMAO...this LHI guy is still around!?? I thought he may have tired himself out on my "mind movies" thread. Guess not. I asked him back then why he was so angry, but he never answered. I decided to just put him on IGNORE. Now, all I see of him is a pathetic little line with his name. Which is perfect.

[jwi71]

LHI,

 

I've noticed that the sense of community grows stronger when participants share of themselves. This is perhaps MORE true in a online group such as LS.

 

I'd be interested in knowing of any connections/experiences you have with infidelity LHI and how they color and shape your views and subsequently your posts and/or advice.

 

Might we see a "Get to know LHI" thread?

[William]

While we determine who exactly is in the hot seat and why, let's take a breather from the off-topic discourse and regroup.