xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I feel like texting " Hey (name), I was just at the ice cream parlor with this girl that we used to go and it reminded me of the good times we had together there. Take care ." This did in fact happen, reminded me alot about her. I have been ignoring her text and calls, but feel like texting her this. I don't expect to see a response or anything from this, just want to be on friendly terms with her. Should I?
Chi townD Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hey I was at this Ice Cream Parlor with this girl and it reminded me of you? Well, If I got a text like that.I would assume one of two things. 1. Why would he tell me he's out with this girl? Is he trying to be vindictive? or 2. Why would he have to TELL me that he's out with another girl? Is he trying to make me jealous? Or is he desperately trying to show me that he's moving on to which I don't really care. Pathetic. You have to learn that silence speaks volumes. Leaves her in the dark. She doesn't deserve to know that you're doing fine. She gave that right up. 2
dsw31 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 If you mention being there with another girl, you are trying to make her jealous.If that's what your're looking for..go right ahead.I don't know your whole situation but, doesn't sound like a good idea to me
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Oh please....not again....! How many more times, xztjohn...? 4
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 my bad replace that girl with someone
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 my bad replace that girl with someone No - replace the whole damn thing with - "what the hell am i thinking - ?!??" 5
robkris8079 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 so you were with a new girl and you brought her to a spot where you use to go with your ex who you are clearly not in any way over? Wow please go NC on this new girl for her sake and your ex for your own sake. New girls doesn't deserve to be used as a pawn in this game she doesn't even know she is playing probably.
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Okay I'll just stay no contact. I post on here before I do anything so it helps ease my need to contact her in a way.
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Just re-read your threads.... you have to get through this, fellah....
nanbullen Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 she will see right through that. Telling her you were there with another girl is not going to make her jealous in any way. As a matter of fact, it will have the opposite effect because it sounds like a blatant attempt to make her jealous and/or get her attention....and she will see that. Not trying to be mean....I know how much you want to say that one thing that will *get through to her*!! 1
Jono85 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 really dude? how pathetic. "i'm with this girl..." give your head a shake. that's on some high school sh-t.
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 lol to be honest when I wrote it I really did not mean it in a way to get back at her. Ment it as a way to reduce any anger towards one another. Replacing girl with someone would make it better.
Jono85 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 so you were with a new girl and you brought her to a spot where you use to go with your ex who you are clearly not in any way over? Wow please go NC on this new girl for her sake and your ex for your own sake. New girls doesn't deserve to be used as a pawn in this game she doesn't even know she is playing probably. also this. you're clearly not ready to be dating at all.
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 im not dating her we are friends. Its unfair how she can immediately date afterwards after the break up and I can't?
Jono85 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 lol to be honest when I wrote it I really did not mean it in a way to get back at her. Ment it as a way to reduce any anger towards one another. Replacing girl with someone would make it better. no, it wouldn't. there is no need to tell her you're with anybody. seriously. if not consciously, then subconciously you're trying to make her jealous by insinuating you're spending time with another girl. don't lie to yourself. "someone" would still be silly. don't mention a person at all as it doesn't really have anything to do with your msg. that being said, don't send her a msg, period.
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Yeah I didn't as you can see from my earlier post I said ill just stay no contact. Why can she date after the break up and I can't?
Jono85 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 im not dating her we are friends. Its unfair how she can immediately date afterwards after the break up and I can't? it is unfair. but strive to be a better person than her. as hard as that might seem. i don't know your history, but she might be more over you, than you her. a lot of girls emotionally disconnect from the bf well before the actual breakup. if you try and date right now, you will try to fill the void in your life of your ex, and this new girl will be just that, the girl who fills that void for a while, aka rebound. you'll still be thinking about your ex, and would probably run back to her if she came crawling back. this wouldn't be fair to the new girl.
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 no if you read from my previous posts she was clearly not over me, cause she contacted me for 7 months straight and eventually wanting to get back with me after 4 months, but I refused. It left me bitter and angry towards her she was not over me, she contacts me from time to time now, but its alot less than what it used to be. I have been going no contact for 4 months now......
Jono85 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 you can date if you like, BUT, just be honest with any new girls. that you're still not entirely over your ex, and that you don't want to jump into anything too soon. however, the problem lies when ppl in the situation you're in, don't INTENTIONALLY look for rebounds, they meet someone, and this new someone makes them feel loved again and really good, but in reality, they were missing that feeling, not really falling for the new person. i was a rebound for one of my exes, and i fully believe she didn't do it on purpose, she thought she was in love with me. but in reality, she still wasn't over her ex, and used me to fill the void in her life and rid her of all the hurt/suffering she was dealing with. so i ended up suffering in the end, once i built back up her self-esteem and she left me.. 1
Author xztjohn Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 yeah i was reading one of ur threads you sound like a homewrecker. You probably had what was coming to you.
Jono85 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 yeah i was reading one of ur threads you sound like a homewrecker. You probably had what was coming to you. what on earth are you talking about? if you're going to throw accusations around like that, you better reference where the hell you saw that. you're speaking out of your a** kid.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 im not dating her we are friends. Its unfair how she can immediately date afterwards after the break up and I can't? She is ready to...you are not. She is over you; you are not over her...not fair to put a new person through filling the shoes of the ghost of your ex....if you intend to date date. But I digress...Seriously, don't send any texts. That idea is an epic fail. Don't feed the animals/don't feed her ego and you so need to try and heal from this. What if she texted you and said "I was out with this guy and we went to a place that reminded me of you!"--I would hate to get a text like that from my ex. youre not thinking clearly, friend and trying to rake in the dying embers, maybe.
HollyBolly Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 yeah i was reading one of ur threads you sound like a homewrecker. You probably had what was coming to you. Where did this come from, all of a sudden? 1
Jono85 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Where did this come from, all of a sudden? right? what's worse is i've literally never even been on a date with someone who just came OUT of a relationship, nevermind someone already in one ...silly kid. 2
Frank13 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 You have to learn that silence speaks volumes. Leaves her in the dark. She doesn't deserve to know that you're doing fine. She gave that right up. I agree 1000%. 2
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