wwwjd Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 there is no 'checking in' when he is out with his mates wish more peeps understood THIS part of it also. When you love and TRUST someone, this is one less level or worry you have in life.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 What do I have to offer the opposite sex? I can lift heavy things and reach the top shelf on most fixtures. I can also make a mean omelette. Otherwise, not much. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 I'm kind hearted I often want to do what's right for the people I love I enjoy making those I love happy and doing special things for them I have a keen intelligence I have a good sense of humor I am open to new experiences I am extremly loyal I tend to be a little sassy and keep a man on his toes. Joystick, you didn't respond to your own question. What about you?
El Brujo Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 1. A place to live, with her own room 2. **I** do the cooking 3. **I** do the sewing 4. She can grow whatever she wants in the back yard 5. She'd never have to put up with me begging and whining for sex 6. If she wants to run around the house in a chicken suit all day, take a dump in the middle of the living room floor, paint the inside of her room fluorescent pink, belch at the dinner table, or play with RC toy cars in the middle of the night, hey... who am I to tell her not to do it?
sid3 Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 6. If she wants to run around the house in a chicken suit all day, take a dump in the middle of the living room floor, paint the inside of her room fluorescent pink, belch at the dinner table, or play with RC toy cars in the middle of the night, hey... who am I to tell her not to do it? You sure are a laid back kinda guy. I'm much harder to please, I'd put a litter box in the corner.
phineas Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 It isn't what you have to offer, it's all about the "chemistry"
ThaWholigan Posted April 28, 2012 Posted April 28, 2012 You know....I'm finding it difficult to answer this question . Maybe this is why I don't have a date lol.... I can cook extremely well I suppose.... I am intelligent, I am considerate of others and like to take care of others I like to learn new things and discover stuff, this can help during dates and spicing up relationships etc. Despite where I am now, I actually have ambition and want to be somewhere I happen to be deceptively good looking 1
Jane2011 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Mixing some superficial stuff with meaningful, heartfelt things. -- I'm physically fit and can be counted on to stay that way long-term (I weigh only three lbs more than today than what I did 10 years ago, and that's not by accident...) -- I am supportive. My ex-boyfriend had a lot of crazy ideas, both for himself career-wise and for us as a couple for 'fun activities'. No matter how weird I thought it was, I supported it with enthusiasm because I just believe in being a cheerleader-type / encouraging. -- Ironically, even though I *want* a very progressive-minded man who believes in equal responsibilities around the house / chores-wise, I wouldn't mind doing most of it, anyway. I happily did all the cooking when I was with my ex-bf. -- I will try new things that a man likes that I didn't necessarily have interest in previously. Recent guy I dated wanted to do ballroom dancing, something I've never really desired to do or would do on my own. But I was like "Sure!" when he suggested it. I like to embrace other people's interests to make them happy. -- I believe I am intelligent without being too arrogant about it. I believe I am intellectual in some ways, but also that I have intellectual shortcomings in other ways. But most guys, I think, feel that I am able to carry on a decent back-and-forth about most topics. -- I try to read a variety of things to create fodder for good conversation. -- I'll make a guy feel like he's the most important, most awesome guy in the world, if I love him. I'll stop here, but basically, I believe I have a lot to offer. I have flaws, too, of course. 1
Anela Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 It isn't what you have to offer, it's all about the "chemistry" Didn't you have good chemistry with the girl you met at the concert? The one you told me about, in that one thread? I don't know that I have much to offer at the moment. That's part of my problem.
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 What I have to offer really depends on what women actually want. There is no point in making a list of things that I think I can offer if women actually don't give a damn about them.
OhHey Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 A good days trip on the mountain bike trails and omlettes I can make great omletts.
fortyninethousand322 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 A good days trip on the mountain bike trails and omlettes I can make great omletts. Hey! Stop stealing my talents. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 You know....I'm finding it difficult to answer this question . Maybe this is why I don't have a date lol.... I can cook extremely well I suppose.... I am intelligent, I am considerate of others and like to take care of others I like to learn new things and discover stuff, this can help during dates and spicing up relationships etc. Despite where I am now, I actually have ambition and want to be somewhere I happen to be deceptively good looking You are also a very good listener and are compassionate and sensitive to women and men alike..in like a totally masculine way *wink. You got a skill there to captalize on Wholigan. 3
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 You are also a very good listener and are compassionate and sensitive to women and men alike..in like a totally masculine way *wink. You got a skill there to captalize on Wholigan. So being able to listen and have compassion is considered a skill by some? 1
Jane2011 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 You are also a very good listener and are compassionate and sensitive to women and men alike..in like a totally masculine way *wink. You got a skill there to captalize on Wholigan. Agree. I am a fan of ThaWholigan also. And that's saying a lot because I'm judgmental and picky about men, both online and off. 2
ThaWholigan Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 You are also a very good listener and are compassionate and sensitive to women and men alike..in like a totally masculine way *wink. You got a skill there to captalize on Wholigan. Agree. I am a fan of ThaWholigan also. And that's saying a lot because I'm judgmental and picky about men, both online and off. Ladies your flattery warms the heart . So being able to listen and have compassion is considered a skill by some? Active listening is a skill of sorts, being able to really feel what someone is saying, even if it doesn't agree. Some people find it hard, believe it or not. As a kid, I was always daydreaming, so I often zoned out while people were talking to me, sometimes I still catch myself drifting off.
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Active listening is a skill of sorts, being able to really feel what someone is saying, even if it doesn't agree. Some people find it hard, believe it or not. As a kid, I was always daydreaming, so I often zoned out while people were talking to me, sometimes I still catch myself drifting off. Honestly, I thought active listening was a basic requirement of being a decent person. To think of it as a skill is just goofy to me. Does that actually mean that women are dating guys who don't listening to them? Why even bother if they don't?
spookie Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 1. "Not a normal girl" This phrase has been as a compliment by every single guy I've ever dated. I interpret it to mean that I'm not passive-aggressive, irrational, nagging, or needy. Which I'm not even sure is even that true, but if that's the consensus, I think I can say I bring it to the table. 2. Masculine interests and sense of humor I am good company for those seeking a girl who can be one of the boys. 3. Attractiveness I clean up alright. 4. High sex drive. I'm lecherous enough that the risk I will turn frigid, is low. 5. Financial stability Woo hoo
El Brujo Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 You sure are a laid back kinda guy. I'm much harder to please, I'd put a litter box in the corner. ...or for the ultimate Bliss Piss, just use the back yard.
ScienceGal Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 I do want someone with sarcasm. I could careless about bjs. Nice. I hate giving them!! Seriously, I am petite and have a small face/mouth. I always feel like I could be "better" if I could handle it.
OhHey Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 2. Masculine interests and sense of humor I am good company for those seeking a girl who can be one of the boys. Great, let's go for a Mountain Bike ride and crack some fart jokes.... Seeya at the trailhead.....:bunny:
ThaWholigan Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Honestly, I thought active listening was a basic requirement of being a decent person. To think of it as a skill is just goofy to me. Does that actually mean that women are dating guys who don't listening to them? Why even bother if they don't? It's not gender specific, some girls are rubbish listeners too . Advanced communication these days isn't quite as prevalent, so it's a highly desired attribute. It's just how it is nowadays.
oaks Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 My ex says I'm a catch and that I have awesome bedroom skills. (Yes, we've been talking since getting dumped.) I should get her to write my online dating profile!
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 So being able to listen and have compassion is considered a skill by some? Yes, sometimes people need to learn how to listen and have compassion for others. Of course, other's are given these traits..but they are traits you can learn too....And traits most women will very much enjoy in a man if he uses those traits to support his own strengths, not his weaknesses. 1
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Honestly, I thought active listening was a basic requirement of being a decent person. To think of it as a skill is just goofy to me. Does that actually mean that women are dating guys who don't listening to them? Why even bother if they don't? Listening is absolutely a skill SomeDude. LIke, take my brother. I love the guy but when you talk on the phone with him he is easily distracted. You will be telling him something and you can jsut tell he zoned out or he starts laughing at something his dog did. Listening takes focus. Yes, women will date men that don't listen to them. Why? Because women aren't perfect either and don't always know how to combat their feelings with certain less desirable traits. This is why when men see hot girls with douchebags and guys get all upset, it's ridiculous. Men think hot girl = automatic perfection and bliss...Nope!
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