jamesj33 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 have been working with this girl for over a year now, i have always liked her but thought it was pointless trying anything as we work closly together although she definately flirts with me all the time i thought could make things complicated.. recently we have been seeing each other socially with mutual friends etc etc. then a few weeks ago we both got far too drunk and ended up kissing. after i went home only to be woken up by her at 3 in the morning demanding i come and see her. she was very very drunk by this point. i decieded to meet her and her friend and ended going back to her friends house with the two of them. at which point she exclaimed that she loved me but it wasnt a drunken i love you, it was suprisingly coherant and theatrical, where she went into detail about how much she loves me and for how long etc....i was just a bit shocked by this to be honest as i did not think she felt this way. i didnt say anything back as i thought it might makes things awquard. we ended up sleeping on the same couch and cuddled for a bit but didnt have sex or anything. anyway the next day she said she didnt remember any of what happened and was really embaressed about the whole thing as her friend told her what had happened. we did talk about it at work but she still says she doesnt remember, and goes all coy and shy when i try and talk to her about it. the more i think about it i think i do love her and would love to be in a relationship with her, im just not sure if it was just drink talking or if she actually does love/like me at all. i know alcohol can make people waffle on, but i can see how she is around me and i think we could be a good couple, id even be willing to get another job as working together would evntually become a problem. im just wondering what people think of this situation an if i should go for it or leave it. lastly i do think that i love her, but dont want to say it if she was just talking through the booze.
truth_seeker Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I've heard that alcohol is a truth serum. She told you the truth and is now embarrassed she confessed her feelings to you. She feels at a disadvantage because she gave you the power of knowing the truth. What does she do? She now pretends. She hopes she can convince you and confuse you into thinking it was nothing, but it wasn't! She's doing this to protect her image. Give it some time. I can tell you from an experience I had, don't pressure her. Give her space and let her feel comfortable around you again. There will be another outing, and when it happens, I'm sure she will bring it up or want you to bring it up. This will be your chance to confess your true feelings for her.
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