tommycapnpants Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hi, I originally posted this in the coping forum, but it seems more applicable here. here is the link to the original post, but i went ahead and pasted my last post on that thread, which i am asking advice for now. thanks everyone! http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/coping/322562-deactivate-facebook so interesting weekend. apparently she went on a little family vacation with her dad and sister. i didnt know she was doing so, and tried calling her around 3am her time. she texted me saying please dont call, as she is with her family in their travel rv. i reply with an apology for calling. the next day, she texts me that she had a wonderful day with her family, and had a very long conversation about her and i with her father, and what she should do with her life, saying "it was a very nice conversation." long story short, we text back and forth and she eventually she texts "i love you." my heart shot up into my throat. then she keeps texting about wanting to speak with me, but i was busy pretty much til sunday night. we eventually talk on sunday night, and she still seems confused. i did not go the mushy and dramatic route. rather, i said if we get back together we need to take it slow and write down whatever problems we have had in the past and find solutions to them before we consider trying again. she asked me to call her again, but i still have not. i dont really know where to proceed. should i stay in contact and try to work things out? i am supposed to be flying near where she lives at the end of may, and she wants to spend those couple of days with me. i am so confused, i want her back but do not know how to proceed with this. if i jump right back in she may just toss me to the side so easily again. if i do not keep in contact she may think i have moved on.... perhaps, i should text her saying that i am taking some time to really think about the possibility of us again. and, that she should as well????????????????? i eventually texted her last night that i do miss her, but really want some time to reflect on us. and that i wanted to wait until next monday to speak again. in which time i will be writing down the problems i created in the relationship and solutions to correct them. and ultimately, i want her to be sure about trying again. because if we did try again we would not be perfect, but we would be amazing.
Reddice Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 If I understand you correctly, she never stated she wanted to get back in a relationship with you, right? It was you who who came to this conclusion after she wrote "I love you", right? After all, she's still confused right? Sounds like breadcrumbs to me. My advice: Don't fall into this trap.
Author tommycapnpants Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 well, she did say "she can't stop thinking about getting back together." but, i kept repeating to her that i think we need to take it slow. and that i dont want to pressure her. the last thing i said when we spoke was "i don't want to make you think about this right now." her reply "i cant help but to think about it." breadcrumbs, perhaps. not really sure. will see how this week plays out. thanks for the advice dice
Reddice Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Well... If she can't stop thinking about getting back together with you, what's stopping her? Perhaps she does seriousy want to get back together though, but in that case let her actions speak for themselves. As so many of us have had to experience, words are just words. In many cases they mean nothing at all. It's the person's actions that truly reveal their intentions.
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