Just heard she's getting married

[brokendreamz]

Don't know whether to laugh or cry!

 

Together nearly 9 yrs she leaves (my fault admittedly) but after 15 months of splitting up she's marrying the bloke she left me for!!

 

she's known him for ages through work so I guess it's not actually 'too soon'.

 

Trying to make sense of it - guess it really doesnt matter anymore!

 

Gutted!

[Philosoraptor]

The focus is still too much on her and not enough on you. As you said, it shouldn't matter. You still offer too much power to someone who left you.

 

If things work out and she finds her happy ever after, great for her. It's out of your control. What is in your control is you, so take it and make your happy ever after come true.

[davesterr]

If you love her then you should want her to be happy however that's not the most important right now.

Most important is for you to become happy yourself.

I'm sure people have given you all the advice already so all i can say is: Watch the movie 500 days of summer.

It won't change anything but it's a great movie relevant to your situation and i think you will feel better after watching it.

Goodlucks man.

[jphcbpa]

wish them the best, say a prayer for them....say it every day until it feels right inside you.

[brokendreamz]

I really am happy for her. All I ever wanted for her was to be blissfully happy.

 

I suffer from depression - I was never going to be able to help fulfil that if I didn't get diagnosed. Her leaving forced that diagnosis so in a lot of ways I owe her.

 

It's still just so painful. I still love her. So much but I know she is far better off without me!

[Feelin Frisky]

 

The perfect song

[brokendreamz]

 

The perfect song

 

Thought about emailing her that link. Then I slapped myself about a bit and went to bed!!

 

Cheers Frisky ;O)

[smudge21]

Know your pain here. Finding out she was engaged then knowing the day of the wedding really hurt, more than I thought it would. But oddly, as the day drew closer I started to feel better. It was as if I could never find that closure I truly needed, yet here it was, being forced upon me. Up until that date, I knew there was always that little tiny voice of hope lingering somewhere, yet her being married, destroyed all that for good.

 

When the day came and went I felt fine still. Thought I'd be a mess truth be told, but it was all okay. I guess you could say I felt free for the first time in a ages. I had no interest in finding out about it, seeing pictures, hearing from mutual friends so as far as I know, it all went ahead, she's now wed and that's that. None of my business.

 

It will hurt, especially if you know the date of the wedding, but try to stay away from it all and just make plans to be busy, seeing friends or taking a trip, but nothing too overboard as that could make you think why you're doing this and in return think of her. Either way, see it as the end of it all. The fact it hurts means you still care and still have that tiny bit of hope hidden away. Like me, hopefully this will mean the end of all that, and the start of something new for you too.

[BewitchedandBothered]

 

The perfect song

 

Oh man, why did you have to post that???!!! LOL...Listen to "Go your own Way" by Fleetwood Mac instead;)

[broken-and-lost]

Really sorry m8 i know how much she meant to you and that you've been working on yourself hope you can stay focused and not let it drag you down

 

Sometimes life just isn't fair even when your doing the right things

[djmm]

i was with my GF for 10 years and it ended. So I am mentally preparing myself when i hear she is getting married too. It has almost been a year since the break off but even if she marries a year or so in the future, it'll still be hard to take (though i will be happy for her).