fucpcg Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 My ex when she broke up with me, got really nasty with me, accused me of horrible things (including abuse and harassment), and blocked me and her son from my FB account, and has since refused to talk to me. She has three young sons, 11, 10, 6 when we started dating. She brought them on our 2nd date, and really threw me into their lives, as they had a father that didn't take any interest in them. I took her boys to do soo many things, and spent every weekend with them while her and I were together, never missed a chance to be with them. They used to tell me they wished I was their stepdad, and to me they were no different than if they were my own kids. We are broken up one year this month, and in recent encounters with the ex, her hatred of me is still very strong, even though I have tried everything possible to at least bring civility into our relationship. One of her son's birthdays was yesterday, which of course was a tough day for me, as I am not even allowed to send a card. I thought it was pointless to look and see if I was still blocked from his FB page, and shocked to find out that I am not. The only way this would be possible is if he went in and unblocked me, meaning he is thinking of me, and I guess looking at my page. He is 13 now, so a young man not a child. I want to contact him so bad, but with a mother who has accused me of abuse, harassment, and not taking an interest in her children's lives as a reason for breaking up with me, I guess this could be a very high risk proposition. Just to give you quick example what our lives were like, my last weekend spent with the boys, I took them sledding on the new $100 each sleds I got each one of them for Xmas, came back to my house made us homemade sloppy joe's, played together some around the house, then all cuddled up on the couch and watched a movie together. This was a typical weekend for us. The next weekend, the mother and I were broken up, and it was because of an argument about this exact son, where I felt she was putting an unfair amount of stress on him, and not standing up for him regarding something that happened. Thoughts?
HollyBolly Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 IMO if you contact her son, you will open yourself up to more accusations. I am sorry that they were yanked out of your life like that. My ex has a daughter, too, whom I don't get to see anymore.
Reddice Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I agree with Holly. It's a difficult situation, and seeing as you're not the biological father of the child, it might put you in a bad spot if your ex finds out you've been in contact with him. Who knows what kind of accusations she might make when you contact a 13-year old boy... This thought alone would scare the crap out of me to be honest. 2
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