TheSingleGuy Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I posted another thread here on LS and someone eluded to a female break-up strategy. Basically, the girlfriend meets a new guy that she's interested in, but she has a boyfriend. So she decides to get rid of the boyfriend. So she says or does something inappropriate to a get a reaction out of the boyfriend. The boyfriend reacts poorly, and she uses his poor reaction as an excuse to break-up with him. Basically, he's the bad guy now. He's the one that screwed up. When women do this are they doing it on a conscious level? Is it pre-planned? Or do they do this without even realizing they're doing it?
wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 wait. are you saying women do things they won't admit even to them selves? NOOOOOO say it isn't so! hahahahahahahaha You can't get girls on here to admit "things they won't admit" even on the internet. It's pretty fun to watch though. Yes, women do that, and I have yet to find a woman that DOESN'T have a "backup" guy... even though none of them will EVER admit it. Or it could be something THEY don't even know they are doing.... which is puling on another closed thread.... Luckily through all this, we still love them anyway.
wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I don't love "bitches", will never know any. I love sass, spunk, joyfulness, playfulness The whole bitches thing is only 4 weeks in college isn't it?
Philosoraptor Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Eh it's not just women, it's immature people. I've seen guys do the same thing and call the woman crazy and use it as a reason to bail. It's because they don't have the "balls" to speak like a mature adult, and they don't have the self esteem to look themselves in the mirror after ending a relationship and hurting someone, even though they were previously unhappy. Cowards sums it up correctly. 3
wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 No, bitches rule the world. EVERY single good looking bitch has men chasing them....that is you proof bro. WE allow girls to THEENK they rule the world. If this were NOT true, all wars would be run by women. HE SHOOTS HE SCORES!!!! [chalks one up for self]
RedRobin Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 WE allow girls to THEENK they rule the world. If this were NOT true, all wars would be run by women. HE SHOOTS HE SCORES!!!! [chalks one up for self] don't feed the animals, wwwjd...
zengirl Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Eh it's not just women, it's immature people. I've seen guys do the same thing and call the woman crazy and use it as a reason to bail. It's because they don't have the "balls" to speak like a mature adult, and they don't have the self esteem to look themselves in the mirror after ending a relationship and hurting someone, even though they were previously unhappy. Cowards sums it up correctly. Yup, I've certainly experienced men doing this, and I've seen both women and men do it. Generally it's done when young and immature. If someone is still doing this in their 30s or beyond, I'd consider them very immature. But many people do it when they first have to break up with someone, I think, so in one of someone's first relationships, I'd view it differently, honestly. Sometimes it's conscious, and sometimes I think it's not even conscious -- the person is just unhappy and picking fights.
TigerCub Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I have never known a girl friend of mine to do this, but I have had guy friends that do that. It totally comes down to being passive aggressive and cowardly. I'm sure that just like there are guys out there that do that, there will be girls guilty of it too - but its certainly not a tactic that's reserved for women only. 1
DuchessKaye Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Men love bitches and all that...there is a book titled even as such. Bitches rule. And they do get away with a lot more.
truth_seeker Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 It totally comes down to being passive aggressive and cowardly. I'm sure that just like there are guys out there that do that, there will be girls guilty of it too - but its certainly not a tactic that's reserved for women only. You are 100% right! Lots of people look for that exit strategy. Instead of being direct with your S.O., and breaking up with them, people will opt for an easy way out.
truth_seeker Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I posted another thread here on LS and someone eluded to a female break-up strategy. Basically, the girlfriend meets a new guy that she's interested in, but she has a boyfriend. So she decides to get rid of the boyfriend. So she says or does something inappropriate to a get a reaction out of the boyfriend. The boyfriend reacts poorly, and she uses his poor reaction as an excuse to break-up with him. Basically, he's the bad guy now. He's the one that screwed up. When women do this are they doing it on a conscious level? Is it pre-planned? Or do they do this without even realizing they're doing it? It is absolutely pre-planned. If a woman breaks up with you today, that means she's been planning it for at least 2-3 months. During those months she will either pretend everything is just fine, while setting herself up for her exit and go to her next guy, or will suddenly start arguments and complaining a lot more than usual. The latter is an obvious sign, but the former can be a low blow.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Is this about your dating life? What do you need help with?
Emilia Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I posted another thread here on LS and someone eluded to a female break-up strategy. Basically, the girlfriend meets a new guy that she's interested in, but she has a boyfriend. So she decides to get rid of the boyfriend. So she says or does something inappropriate to a get a reaction out of the boyfriend. The boyfriend reacts poorly, and she uses his poor reaction as an excuse to break-up with him. Basically, he's the bad guy now. He's the one that screwed up. When women do this are they doing it on a conscious level? Is it pre-planned? Or do they do this without even realizing they're doing it? You are the first man I've heard complain about this. It's usually a male strategy.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I find it offensive when you guys claim to have all the insight about what "females" do. "Females" are capable of a gigantic range of behavior in all aspects of life, just like you are. 2
Emilia Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I find it offensive when you guys claim to have all the insight about what "females" do. "Females" are capable of a gigantic range of behavior in all aspects of life, just like you are. That's why he does it
truth_seeker Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 You are the first man I've heard complain about this. It's usually a male strategy. It goes both ways. I've seen this happen to guys.
dasein Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Quality women don't do this, here's how to spot it in threads here and generally IRL. Threads where a woman complains that "the butterflies" have gone out of an existing relationship, and their departure isn't conditioned on specific BF behavior, are more often than not rationalizations of a pending upgrade. Sometimes they will have niggling behaviors of the BF that they have been using to stir up drama. Do a search and you will often find another thread where the same OP is discussing a crush on the boss, a new guy who has entered her life, etc., usually with no mention of the existing BF (these types have no shame at all , some are so emotionally stunted they can't even see what's happening, only what they want in the moment). You will find none or almost none of this type of posting behavior by men on relationship forums. Men will generally just admit they want free as opposed to taking that little extra "self-promotion" step to hang around, blameshift and slander their existing SO with "there's just something wrong with us....(with you;))."
wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I find it offensive when you guys claim to have all the insight about what "females" do. "Females" are capable of a gigantic range of behavior in all aspects of life, just like you are. But repetative and obvious patterns are... well... obvious. I haven't been around the block THAT much, but ALL the women I have ever known (including just friends types), had backup guys on standby, whether they admitted it or not. And most would not admit it. Even after it happened. "Well... I never knew...." yeah, HAHAHAHHAH whatever!
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 but ALL the women I have ever known (including just friends types), had backup guys on standby, whether they admitted it or not. And most would not admit it. Even after it happened. "Well... I never knew...." yeah, HAHAHAHHAH whatever! Your experiences of ALL the women you have EVER known, and how most of them don't admit things to themselves or to, says a lot about your choices in women. And little about women in general. 1
dasein Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I find it offensive when you guys claim to have all the insight about what "females" do. "Females" are capable of a gigantic range of behavior in all aspects of life, just like you are. People learn human relations by observing repeated behavior over time. If 5/10 women walk up and put a pie in a guy's face, he will start wearing a bib when meeting women. That doesn't mean he thinks he has women all figured out even though he might say "women ALWAYS are putting a pie in my face." He knows it's 50%, not "always," as does any reasonable audience. This is exactly the same for women, in a recent thread a female poster identified men as weird based on behaviors she thought unusual. In another thread, a woman identified a man as a "loser" for using cheezy pickup lines. I don't see many posters complaining that they think those women have men all figured out because it's understood they are simply referencing and qualifying their experience. The "loser caller" got some heat for expressing a nasty attitude, not the same thing. Men don't lie around in bed thinking up things to say "that women do," we see things women do repeated over and over and draw conclusions. Men are more variable than women in behavior, we have the worst and the best in our curve, your curve is more homogenous. Maybe this is changing, I don't know, but for now it is what it is. If estimating predicted female behavior weren't productive in estimating future behavior, or even counterproductive, we wouldn't do it. Men learn what works and repeat that, discarding the rest. 1
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I posted another thread here on LS and someone eluded to a female break-up strategy. Basically, the girlfriend meets a new guy that she's interested in, but she has a boyfriend. So she decides to get rid of the boyfriend. So she says or does something inappropriate to a get a reaction out of the boyfriend. The boyfriend reacts poorly, and she uses his poor reaction as an excuse to break-up with him. Basically, he's the bad guy now. He's the one that screwed up. When women do this are they doing it on a conscious level? Is it pre-planned? Or do they do this without even realizing they're doing it? Women do this because they are passive-aggressive. Women generally always wanna seem like they are the victim, even if they did something wrong. When a chick wants to break up with you she'll do the following: --acting cold and/or scornful toward you. --start insulting you/starting fights over trivial things. --becoming more distant. When you see these three things it means she's got another man and is trying to passive-aggressively ease out of the relationship. If a woman ever suggests, "Let's take a break from our relationship" it definitely means she's seeing some new guy and wants to use the "break" as an excuse to see if he's good enough to leave you for him.
Cypress25 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 You think only women do this? It's been done to me by men, so I know men use this technique too.
xxoo Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Men do this stuff, too. Check out the OW/OM board to read lots and lots of stories of cheating men who find all kinds of fault with the betrayed wife to justify their affair. But they are less likely to leave, preferring to keep both
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