seany25 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hi guys. Ive had an ongoing problem for over a year now. I was seeing this girl i met on facebook, we were together for 4 months & i fell for her in a big way, till she finished us in February last year cos we "got too serious" & i was all heartbroken & stuff. After 2 months of torture i tell her i cant just be her friend, cos i loved her, & that it had been nice knowing her, but goodbye. Then 3 months later she texts me saying "we need to talk" & i instinctively know whats up, she was pregnant with our son. After she tells me though she starts getting on all crazy. A few days after she tells me i ask her is she seeing anyone or still having sex whilst pregnant, to which she told me "i can f*** who i want when i want!!" .... this obviously drove me crazy & i told her id cut off the manhood of any guy she sleeps with. Anyways i apologized after & i sent flowers to her work etc. But a few weeks later im sure she had sex with an unknown number of guys in a "free for all" or maybe several free for alls, i have my reasons to believe this. She would have done this to get me back for saying id cut peoples manhoods off. It was the worst feeling ive ever experienced that she would do this. She ignored me the whole pregnancy, wouldnt let me go to scans, wouldnt even TALK to me, i never even got to feel my baby kicking in her belly (i hate her for that) & after he was born i never got to see him for 6 weeks, during which time she got my boy christened without me. Since he was born 6 months ago, ive met him 6 times (6 hours or less altogher) & as i write this she has just called me to say she is coming into town so i can see him for 5 minutes. After the new year i told her i wanted to leave all the s*** in the past & start afresh, to be a family, but she told me she was sorta with someone & didnt wanna throw it away to go back to an ex. After a few hours i realised i didnt wanna put myself through another year of pain, so i told her thanks for being honest with me & thanks for being the girl who made me have very high standards in women (at least for looks) But i constantly feel a huge sense of loss. Me & her even talked about a baby when we were together, then when we actually have what we talked about, she turns into a monster. I know its human nature to want what you cant have, but i really believe we should have been given a chance. I love her. She knows i love her, but says she feels nothing for me. Ive decided im moving away, about 50 miles. Not running away (as some of my friends have said) but im in need of a fresh start, i cant be happy around here anymore knowing that ive got a beautiful baby with a girl i adore yet she is with another man when it should be me. As it is i only see my boy occasionally anyways, so i can come back up to see him every fortnight.
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 here's the crappy thing; you're not married. You're not even together. Hell, she might not even have named you as the father on the Birth Registration certificate. Unfortunately, that leaves you with very little you can do - apart from apply for a court order obliging her to maintain contact with you for the sake of your daughter, and acknowledging you as her legitimate father. Of course, this therefore would mean that you would be liable for child support.... I always feel it's important for hereditary medical reasons for some kind of connection or contact to continue. but what you do is up to you... It depends how strongly you feel you want to fight for this.
Author seany25 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 She never named me on the birth certificate (in order to minimise my rights) & the babys a boy not a girl. I do feel strongly about this, but i shouldnt be treated the way i am/have been.
TaraMaiden Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 so you feel strongly enough about doing something to right the wrong? (sorry about the baby gender..... ) he's your son.....
Black Jack Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hi guys. Ive had an ongoing problem for over a year now. I was seeing this girl i met on facebook, we were together for 4 months & i fell for her in a big way, till she finished us in February last year cos we "got too serious" & i was all heartbroken & stuff. After 2 months of torture i tell her i cant just be her friend, cos i loved her, & that it had been nice knowing her, but goodbye. Then 3 months later she texts me saying "we need to talk" & i instinctively know whats up, she was pregnant with our son. After she tells me though she starts getting on all crazy. A few days after she tells me i ask her is she seeing anyone or still having sex whilst pregnant, to which she told me "i can f*** who i want when i want!!" .... this obviously drove me crazy & i told her id cut off the manhood of any guy she sleeps with. Anyways i apologized after & i sent flowers to her work etc. But a few weeks later im sure she had sex with an unknown number of guys in a "free for all" or maybe several free for alls, i have my reasons to believe this. She would have done this to get me back for saying id cut peoples manhoods off. It was the worst feeling ive ever experienced that she would do this. She ignored me the whole pregnancy, wouldnt let me go to scans, wouldnt even TALK to me, i never even got to feel my baby kicking in her belly (i hate her for that) & after he was born i never got to see him for 6 weeks, during which time she got my boy christened without me. Since he was born 6 months ago, ive met him 6 times (6 hours or less altogher) & as i write this she has just called me to say she is coming into town so i can see him for 5 minutes. After the new year i told her i wanted to leave all the s*** in the past & start afresh, to be a family, but she told me she was sorta with someone & didnt wanna throw it away to go back to an ex. After a few hours i realised i didnt wanna put myself through another year of pain, so i told her thanks for being honest with me & thanks for being the girl who made me have very high standards in women (at least for looks) But i constantly feel a huge sense of loss. Me & her even talked about a baby when we were together, then when we actually have what we talked about, she turns into a monster. I know its human nature to want what you cant have, but i really believe we should have been given a chance. I love her. She knows i love her, but says she feels nothing for me. Ive decided im moving away, about 50 miles. Not running away (as some of my friends have said) but im in need of a fresh start, i cant be happy around here anymore knowing that ive got a beautiful baby with a girl i adore yet she is with another man when it should be me. As it is i only see my boy occasionally anyways, so i can come back up to see him every fortnight. Are you sure the kid is yours?
Author seany25 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 so you feel strongly enough about doing something to right the wrong? Ive already seen my solicitor & i know where i stand, but now that im moving away we have agreed that i'll come back to see him every 2 weeks. Its better than dragging this through court. (sorry about the baby gender..... ) he's your son..... No worries
Author seany25 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Are you sure the kid is yours? Yes. He is an absolute mini me.
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