Hopeness Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 (edited) My story: 2 years dating, we are happy, she is always very retailer, romantic, affectionate. I am more easygoing, different prospects of life. Two days before leaving me, she keeps saying that she loves me, she misses me (last 3 months at distance, but we had been seeing once a month), she has no eyes for anyone else, and bla bla ... All of a sudden, bang, "this is not working." It had happened once to us, but she came back penitent two days later. This time her decision is firm. At first I do the typical, I say I am broken, I ask for a second chance, but nothing, she is still in her guns. Suddenly, becomes a stranger, she want to remain as friends but at the same time she is very cold, nothing to do with the person I knew. She swear there is no other person. I do my bills and to be honest, it has not given much time to meet anyone else. Then, I go two weeks no contact, but one day I break and knock. We talked very comfortable and we resumed contact. Two weeks later I ask her another chance and she keeps saying no. She claims the distance, the routine and some problems in the bedroom (perfectly solvable). I return to no contact until today (a week and half later). What happened? Do I have chances of getting her back? I am doing a romantic video with photos of good times, is a farewell video (such as "those 2 years were amazing but we can not be friends because I'll always need more"). I hope these photos and those moments will make she thinks what is about to leave forever. But if not, I have clear that the next step is to erase her from my life to start healing process. The strange part is that I had always thought that she was the one most in love. What do you think? I really love her and I want her back. Edited April 25, 2012 by Hopeness
Philosoraptor Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 She may or may not have another love interest, but that shouldn't really be your concern anymore. She is out of your life and does not seem to want to be in any sort of romantic relationship with you. I wouldn't make any sort of video or send her anything. What you would be doing is either scaring her or making her feel bad about her decision. And neither of these would be good ways to start things back up. If she doesn't come back of her own free will she will leave again. If she comes back because she was "manipulated" (because truthfully that's what it is, bad intentions or not) she wouldn't have a clear reason for wanting to come back other than guilt and fear... and those do not make a healthy relationship. What you need to do is to start working on yourself and figuring out where you take your life from here. I'd suggest working on filling out your calendar so you have less time to sit around pining. She will be moving on as she made this decision, you need to let her and do whatever it takes to help yourself move on as well. Two days before leaving me, she keeps saying that she loves me, she misses me (last 3 months at distance, but we had been seeing once a month), she has no eyes for anyone else, and bla bla ... All of a sudden, bang, "this is not working." I wanted to point this out specifically. This is something that happens a lot of the time. Those days before she wanted to leave but was letting the fear get to her. When that fear kicks in it sends you into a panic and you cling as hard as possible. I'm sorry but she had been thinking about this for awhile and it wasn't a spur of the moment kind of thing. She made a choice and is moving forward with her healing and her life. The only thing you can do right now is take care of yourself.
BDranger Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Philo Im not sure how to get your contact info but email me at [email protected]. Id like to get your opinion on something. Thanks!
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