wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 men play at love for sex, women play at sex for love truth? Problem is, even if that smells like a win/win, he fakes love to get off, and she gets off inside a lie too. Two liars get what they want? Except his can be completely disconnectable, and her's is more deeply rooted emotionally (usually). So she is getting damaged and he walks. And have we forgotten how to "give"?
aj22one Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hey man, nothing wrong with wanting love and sex. I'm sure most people do.
DuchessKaye Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Yes, OP, you've got a point. I once used sex to win his love. I did my best to keep him satisfied so that he won't be needing other women to bang. But too bad, it only lasted for long. And yes, some of the men in my past made me believe that they loved me just to woo me into their beds.
mesmerized Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I'm way too smart to fall for a man who acts as if he is in love to get sex. No guy can pull that trick on me Besides, If I'm attracted to a guy he doesn't have to try too hard to get sex from me anyways so he doesn't have to fake anything. If I'm not attracted, no amount of faking will make me attracted. 1
Author wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Hey man, nothing wrong with wanting love and sex. I'm sure most people do. and that would be great, but this is FAKING/LIES to get Sex OR Love. Not both at once. The other half if faked. Not good.
spookie Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 That's not been my experience. Certainly, I have dated men who were mostly in it for sex, but not one of them faked anything. Most men I know are looking for sex and companionship. Love may or may not happen as a consequence. 2
carhill Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Most people act in a way which benefits themselves, though I feel 'lying' in this particular instance is a bit strong of an adjective to describe their behavior. Having been through the meat grinder of life, at this stage, I don't play. Right now, that's the winning move.
thatone Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Most men I know are looking for sex and companionship. Love may or may not happen as a consequence. that's pretty accurate.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 OP, why do you continuously post gender generalizing threads? This is a sincere question. What's in it for you? To respond to your OP, even though I think it's pretty dubious that you actually have an interest or need help around the issue: Players play to get whet they feel like they want at any given moment. That varies from player to player. Sincere people are upfront with their motives.
Author wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 OP, why do you continuously post gender generalizing threads? This is a sincere question. What's in it for you? As a "dating" conversation forum, it involves two sexes mostly. I'm here for the stimulating conversation about dating. I find these topics interesting and hopefully, some others do as well. These generalizations could spawn interesting discussions about the topic posted as we'll hear various parties perspectives, maybe even ideas I've not heard before and we can all learn something. I enjoy interesting conversation, and I feel there is room here for that. And the Q&A posts and people venting issues and frustrations. It's all good. Are we cool?
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 As a "dating" conversation forum, it involves two sexes mostly. I'm here for the stimulating conversation about dating. I find these topics interesting and hopefully, some others do as well. These generalizations could spawn interesting discussions about the topic posted as we'll hear various parties perspectives, maybe even ideas I've not heard before and we can all learn something. I enjoy interesting conversation, and I feel there is room here for that. And the Q&A posts and people venting issues and frustrations. It's all good. Are we cool? Have you been here before with a different user name? If not, look in the archives. Probably every conceivable permutation of generalizing what "females" and "males" do has been covered. And covered, and covered again. And it was not interesting, and I doubt anyone learned anything, because people who persist in looking at people as an entire gender rather than as individuals seem to be particularly closed minded and stuck.
Author wwwjd Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 Have you been here before with a different user name? If not, look in the archives. Probably every conceivable permutation of generalizing what "females" and "males" do has been covered. And covered, and covered again. And it was not interesting, and I doubt anyone learned anything, because people who persist in looking at people as an entire gender rather than as individuals seem to be particularly closed minded and stuck. How odd. A "gender-neutral DATING Forum"? Seems.... well, off somehow. People aren't forced to read or respond to topics they find uninteresting, as far as I know. Not my problem other people can't accept that men are men and women are women and that will never change, reguardless of what silly LAWS get put into place. And no, never been here under a diff name. Just found this place.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 Not my problem other people can't accept that men are men and women are women and that will never change, I just don't heap all the same attributes to all members of each gender like you do, or see why anyone would want to. You talk about people like they are identical, featureless paper dolls. I think it would be very defeating to have such a limited way of seeing. Really, there is a vast and amazing spectrum of behavior, desire, thoughts, etc that are part of being an individual "man" or "woman." You will probably tell me that I don't want to admit the truth to myself or some other nonsense, but guess what? I know plenty of women with whom I HAVE ABSOLUTELY NOTHING IN COMMON WITH! I'm married to a very manly man, and I can tell from your beliefs and the way you express yourself that YOU AND HE HAVE ZERO! ZIP! NADA! in common, besides a certain configuration of genitalia. But you have said that you don't have or anticipate having a relationship with a woman, or date anymore in your life, right? So what would you have to gain by opening your perspective to include more than a handful of sad, tiny, one dimensional preconceived notions? reguardless of what silly LAWS get put into place. Laws supporting equal rights are silly? Well, you probably have come to the right place. We have four or five very active guys here on LoveShack who will be right there with you in that belief.
Author wwwjd Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 I'm married and that is another thing.... why are MARRIED people in a DATING forum? We'd rather talk to other SINGLES to get the SINGLE perspective. Not a bunch of married people doling advice.... that would be like me - a single person - in a MARRIAGE forum giving advice. This makes no sense. You don't know anything about me on any level, so ASSUME away. This is the interent. You are getting 1/1000th of the picture.
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