Player17 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Alright well my ex gf and I are both 18 yrs old and we broke up in Nov. after being together for 17 months. She broke up with me, I ignored her once she did and then she was crying to get me back a few hours later. So I kept ignoring her for a few days, and then I finally met up with her. And when I took her on this date which I thought she changed since she had that mental breakdown, she acted more like friends more than a bf/gf thing and she told me she now needs time to think and doesn't know if she's "in love" anymore but still loves me. So as big of a moron I was, I did all the wrong things you could do to get her back by pleading and begging for weeks. But she was telling me, "I do want to get back together and we will, I just need this time", thats why I was so confused. Now, I haven't had any contact with her for almost 3 months but yet she still "likes" a couple recent photos/status of me on facebook. I don't know why she does this but yet doesn't want to talk to me. A friend told me she went out to lunch with her like a month ago and I was mentioned in the convo and she said she does miss me but just wants time to see what she really wants. I have learned that Im not initiating contact with her whatsoever anymore but I do still have feelings for her. And Im not gonna unfriend from fb cause that'd make me look like a little child. I mean Im trying to get over her, but yet she likes my things on fb? It's quite irritating, just trying to ignore it. But my question is what do I do if she does text me? Ignore it? Cause you see, she thinks that Im going to be waiting around for her until she makes up her mind, thats why I believe I HAVE to scare her. Ignoring her texts will give her the feeling that she has "lost" me which is what I want because it was working when I ignored her once she broke up with me. I should've kept on doing it, but I just gave in :/. Any advice? I do kinda want her back but I don't want to be played like a fool also. What should I do?
confused kitty Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Thats exactly what shes doing - playing you for a fool!! Shes keeping you on the back burner as a second option while shes out there looking for somthing/someone better! Take it from a girl that has played this "game" before and I aint proud of it but I was around your age at the time.. Move on buddy, I know it aint easy but do you really want to be her safety net? A fall back guy, if she doesnt find someone better?? Because I can garantee thats what shes doing here! Go out have fun, enjoy being single and posting afew pictures with some hot chicks on facebook wouldnt go a miss either! Show her your not misserable and waiting around for her, and that if she doesnt want you, then theres plenty of girls that do....
Author Player17 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 So what do I do if she texts me then?
confused kitty Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Nc... If she just texts breadcrumbs (which she will) then you simply ignore her. If on the other hand shes confessing her un dying love for you and plactically on her knees crying and begging for you to take her back (which I highly doubt) then you reply, you act srong, confident and respect yourself. You work out what you want from her and you dont settle for anything less....if she cant meet your standards, then shes not the one for you.
Author Player17 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 See that's what I did once she broke up with me! And she said, "this is the biggest mistake of my life," and was just hounding me and even called my best friend crying and I simply ignored it. She even told me she was depressed and miserable for those couple of days, why? Cause I ignored her and acted like I moved on which I didn't of course. So I gave in and met up with her and it was the WORST DECISION I've ever made. I think that is the best thing for me to do, she will end up chasing me again. I can GUARANTEE it. 1
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