rob_h Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Why does it matter? Look up GIGS on here you newbies
enigmatic Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I'm 27 and I've been with 10 guys starting from age 19. (I don't know who considers that "a lot" nor do I really care). Two of those 10 guys were serious long term relationships. Three of them were shorter term relationships, and the rest were guys I had went on a date or two with and slept with way before I should have. They got what they wanted and moved on quickly. I don't know what I was thinking exactly....kind of a mix between "Once they see how good I am in bed, they will be hooked" and "If women on Sex and the City can have sex like this, so can I." But I have noticed that 20 year old mentaility and emotions are much different than 35 year old mentality/emotions. I was always pretty disappointed in both the guys and myself when they didn't magically want a relationship with me after sleeping with them. As you can tell, I was very naive.
CarrieT Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Born a slut and I'll die a slut... Now I just happened to be a monogamous slut! 2
samsungxoxo Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I know. Men are obsessed with this.Yeah I recalled a male poster from another site who claimed to have slept with 35 women (he's in his 20's) but still had the nerves to expect that the woman's number be 10 at most. It's guys like him that make the serious men that don't slept around look bad. Since when do you have the rights to claim someone of high morals when you're not what you're looking for in the first place? At least the few male virgins or those with few experience are justified when they asked for the same in return. 2
MrNate 2.0 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 The obsession typically is because of very simple things. Men, on average, are more likely to live sexually unfulfilled lives. Women are more likely to do so. Since men are more likely to wind up in this scenario, it then leads to more bouts of sexual frustration. This frustration then turns into envy towards those who are successful at getting what is causing them frustration (women). Hence, the obsession over every detail. However, the problem is that it is not women's fault at all. Men have all the tools they need to get what they want, but few ever get out of their heads to do so. That's why those who do manage are deemed 'lucky', 'rare', 'ladies men', 'genetically gifted', 'pretty boy', etc. When the truth is, they just put aside the excuses and went after what they want. I would put my lifesavings on the bet that if men simply got out of their heads, stop blaming women, and had more sex, they would be a lot more chill about these things and women. I also think all these feelings of retroactive jealousy, calling women slutty, etc would just disappear. But I digress. 2
WildHorses Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Born a slut and I'll die a slut... Now I just happened to be a monogamous slut! That is the BEST kind of slut!!!! So, I will always be one.
RiverRunning Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I'm 24 and as my last relationship was winding down, I often had fantasies (I've only had one partner). But no opportunities. Well, that's partially true and partially a lie: I've gone out on dates since my break-up. But when push comes to shove, I just can't imagine stripping down and going at it with someone I've only just met or barely know. I'm just not the type, I guess. It could also be that I'm fat. In any case, not all women do. But I do think that the knowledge that I might ONLY be with my then-boyfriend for the REST of my life played a role in our break-up. Oh, myriads of other things too.
samsungxoxo Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 (edited) Yeah my number is low too. Edited April 25, 2012 by samsungxoxo
Author kt66 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Don't think the numbers really matter, its the phase and whether it's a genetic thing or a reaction to something in life that interests me. So I was wondering how common this is in women. Especially if later in life they are quite prudish, and would never dream of doing what they did during this "phase" I guess men have a permanent slutty phase! but just less opportunity
Els Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 I'm curious why this question is in the 'cheating' board? Does a woman having higher numbers necessarily make her a cheater? That right there is some strange thinking. Have never slept around casually and never will. As someone said (was it wwjd or SD? don't remember), I don't need to whack myself on the head with a sledgehammer to know it feels bad. To me personally, casual sex is akin to that. Props to women who do have casual sex and own it though. One woman's meat is another woman's poison.
Chs Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 The obsession typically is because of very simple things. Men, on average, are more likely to live sexually unfulfilled lives. Women are more likely to do so. Since men are more likely to wind up in this scenario, it then leads to more bouts of sexual frustration. This frustration then turns into envy towards those who are successful at getting what is causing them frustration (women). Hence, the obsession over every detail. However, the problem is that it is not women's fault at all. Men have all the tools they need to get what they want, but few ever get out of their heads to do so. That's why those who do manage are deemed 'lucky', 'rare', 'ladies men', 'genetically gifted', 'pretty boy', etc. When the truth is, they just put aside the excuses and went after what they want. I would put my lifesavings on the bet that if men simply got out of their heads, stop blaming women, and had more sex, they would be a lot more chill about these things and women. I also think all these feelings of retroactive jealousy, calling women slutty, etc would just disappear. But I digress. No, it has nothing to do with this, at all. First off im gonna say that im pretty damn sexually frustrated right now since i haven't had any sex for about 5 months and i have absolutely NO envy or bad feelings towards women who has or have had alot of sex partners. The reason men want women with less sexual partners is because we easily feel threatened by other males, and we hate knowing the people a girlfriend has slept with in the past. You could say that we think of women we have slept with as a conquest, and we are put off at the thought of having shared that conquest with others.
Author kt66 Posted April 26, 2012 Author Posted April 26, 2012 I'm curious why this question is in the 'cheating' board? Does a woman having higher numbers necessarily make her a cheater? That right there is some strange thinking. . er........no-one has implied that except for you, what does that say? this sub forum includes the word JEALOUSLY and this subject is related to to that and Retroactive Jealously in particular.
Andy_K Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I've had sex with 21 people. By 17 years old: 1 partner By 19 years old: 2 partners By 21 years old: 3 partners By 22 years old: 8 partners By 24 years old: 11 partners By 25 years old: 13 partners By 26 years old: 18 partners By 27 years old: 21 partners Judge away. I have nothing to be ashamed of. If I were dating you, what I would find concerning is not the total itself, but that you seem to have reached the age of 27 without much in the way of long term monogamous relationships at all. You're doing a few more each year, almost every year.
mostlyclueless Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 If I were dating you, what I would find concerning is not the total itself, but that you seem to have reached the age of 27 without much in the way of long term monogamous relationships at all. You're doing a few more each year, almost every year. Monogamy is not something my partner or I value. As for long-term, I had a 2 year relationship from 16 to 18, a 2 year relationship from 18 to 20, then a 4 year relationship from 21 to 25 that involved some breaks and some additional partners.
Shaun-Dro Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 I am coming across this more and more - some women between 18 and 23 just seem to **** anything, worse than most men. Then they seem to lose interest in sex. ladies, did you have a slutty phase? if so when was it, and how is your current partner dealing with it? or are you keeping it a secret? is this a common thing? or only the ones I find!! Women were built for sex, period. So anything she does and she does it with, including animals, is fair game. So guys, don't ever get serious with her or you will regret it. 1
Bob_Funk Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 You're wrong about them f*cking anything. In fact, the sluttier the girl the pickier she tends to be.
Jane2011 Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 I am coming across this more and more - some women between 18 and 23 just seem to **** anything, worse than most men. Then they seem to lose interest in sex. ladies, did you have a slutty phase? if so when was it, and how is your current partner dealing with it? or are you keeping it a secret? is this a common thing? or only the ones I find!! My slut phase actually came in the past two years (May 2010 to now). I've had sex with five men in that time period. (And my total # is 11). In effect, in two years, I almost doubled my number (went from 6 to 11). I liked all of the guys, though; I don't just have sex with unattractive men for the sake of having sex. I'm well over that phase now. I'm not seeking anybody anymore. I have a very calm, stable, work-and-family-oriented life.
Mme. Chaucer Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Women were built for sex, period. So anything she does and she does it with, including animals, is fair game. So guys, don't ever get serious with her or you will regret it. Are you saying that all of us will be cheating on our boyfriends and husbands with the UPS guy as well as neighborhood stray dogs day in and day out? Because we're "built for sex"? Oh, lordy.
wildgeese Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 Do people typically divulge their number to their partner? I've always wondered if that's pretty normal pillow talk. I don't think any of my partners have known my number and I have never wanted to know theirs, not even my current SO of almost 2 years. Not because I'm ashamed of it in any way, but I've just never really thought it was relevant to our relationship. I know his is higher than mine but I honestly don't want the details. Do some people just have to know? And why? I don't think that I really had a slutty phase, and I probably wouldn't even if I was single. That's just not really my thing. If I don't genuinely like a guy, I don't want him in me. Simple as that. I've had secretive flings with FWB and I've certainly done some things that could be viewed as "slutty", I just don't have that high of a partner count.
Author kt66 Posted May 1, 2012 Author Posted May 1, 2012 Women were built for sex, period. So anything she does and she does it with, including animals, is fair game. So guys, don't ever get serious with her or you will regret it. What a stupid statement.
Radu Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 The obsession typically is because of very simple things. Men, on average, are more likely to live sexually unfulfilled lives. Women are more likely to do so. Since men are more likely to wind up in this scenario, it then leads to more bouts of sexual frustration. This frustration then turns into envy towards those who are successful at getting what is causing them frustration (women). Hence, the obsession over every detail. However, the problem is that it is not women's fault at all. Men have all the tools they need to get what they want, but few ever get out of their heads to do so. That's why those who do manage are deemed 'lucky', 'rare', 'ladies men', 'genetically gifted', 'pretty boy', etc. When the truth is, they just put aside the excuses and went after what they want. I would put my lifesavings on the bet that if men simply got out of their heads, stop blaming women, and had more sex, they would be a lot more chill about these things and women. I also think all these feelings of retroactive jealousy, calling women slutty, etc would just disappear. But I digress. Generally i agree with you, but don't paint women in the same light. Bottom line is that it is simply easier for women to get sex if they decide they want just that. On the other hand men manage to control their feelings a tad better and not fall in love as fast when we have sex. For men getting laid can be a chore. For women getting laid can be just a choice.
flyaway Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I am 22 and finishing college in a month. I have only 3 partners (including my current boyfriend). I've never had casual sex or anything. I guess I didn't have a "slut" phase. Is my "number" low?
somedude81 Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I am 22 and finishing college in a month. I have only 3 partners (including my current boyfriend). I've never had casual sex or anything. I guess I didn't have a "slut" phase. Is my "number" low? Nope, your number is perfect. 1
Nikki Sahagin Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 I'm going through mine now. I was always very 'good' from 16 - 20. I was in a long term relationship. Now I want to explore options, taboos, men with no constraints, responsibilities or repercussions. I guess it's the female version of getting your oats out thereeee...I don't know lol It's part of youth I guess.
Radu Posted May 1, 2012 Posted May 1, 2012 Well, at least my number is probably higher than some men's ... even though it's somewhat small compared to some of these posters.
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