DuchessKaye Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I am new to dating, but as soon as I started this dating thing I began to learn so much things. I learnt how to behave in front of men. I learnt and realized that I can't stomach old dudes. (Well when I was younger, I was really into finding old rich men to date) But when I dated one, I turned out so scared and I ran away from the date, haha! Then after that horrible experience, I never entertain old men again. And so now, I am only dating the guys who are close to my age. I learnt the difference between dating and being in a relationship. When I had my first date, they guy kissed me and from there I thought I was already his already his girlfriend, I acted like one and he ran fast like hell away from me, later on I realized, I scared him away. So, I learnt that dating is learning about our own self also and not just about other people. What about you guys? Any stories? Experiences?
g450 Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hard lessons learned from dating: Never say "I Love You" unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't let her move in with you unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't give her the key to your house unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't date a woman who is still married regardless of how long she has been separated. Wait for her to be divorced first. If a woman has been separated for more than a year and is still not divorced then this is a red flag. Stay away. Don't date a woman who has kids that are not grown yet. Don't date a woman who is not financially secure or who cant pay her bills. Don't date a woman who doesn't have her own place to live. Beware of women with multiple tramp-stamps. She will likely have a history that will not be pleasant to learn about. They call them tranp-stamps for a reason. Don't tell her about past lovers. Don't talk about your ex-wife. Ever. Just say "it's over". Don't date a woman who lives with her ex-boyfriend or guy-friend no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. Don't date a woman who feels the need to text you more than six times a day. Don't date a woman that has more than four animals living in her house with her. Trust me on this. Don't date a woman who still talks to her XH or FBs no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. I have tons more but my fingers are getting tired. 2
SmileFace Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hard lessons learned from dating: Never say "I Love You" unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't let her move in with you unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't give her the key to your house unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't date a woman who is still married regardless of how long she has been separated. Wait for her to be divorced first. If a woman has been separated for more than a year and is still not divorced then this is a red flag. Stay away. Don't date a woman who has kids that are not grown yet. Don't date a woman who is not financially secure or who cant pay her bills. Don't date a woman who doesn't have her own place to live. Beware of women with multiple tramp-stamps. She will likely have a history that will not be pleasant to learn about. They call them tranp-stamps for a reason. Don't tell her about past lovers. Don't talk about your ex-wife. Ever. Just say "it's over". Don't date a woman who lives with her ex-boyfriend or guy-friend no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. Don't date a woman who feels the need to text you more than six times a day. Don't date a woman that has more than four animals living in her house with her. Trust me on this. Don't date a woman who still talks to her XH or FBs no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. I have tons more but my fingers are getting tired. You could have just wrote " Dont date a women"
Oxy Moronovich Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 Hard lessons learned from dating: Never say "I Love You" unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't let her move in with you unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't give her the key to your house unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't date a woman who is still married regardless of how long she has been separated. Wait for her to be divorced first. If a woman has been separated for more than a year and is still not divorced then this is a red flag. Stay away. Don't date a woman who has kids that are not grown yet. Don't date a woman who is not financially secure or who cant pay her bills. Don't date a woman who doesn't have her own place to live. Beware of women with multiple tramp-stamps. She will likely have a history that will not be pleasant to learn about. They call them tranp-stamps for a reason. Don't tell her about past lovers. Don't talk about your ex-wife. Ever. Just say "it's over". Don't date a woman who lives with her ex-boyfriend or guy-friend no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. Don't date a woman who feels the need to text you more than six times a day. Don't date a woman that has more than four animals living in her house with her. Trust me on this. Don't date a woman who still talks to her XH or FBs no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. I have tons more but my fingers are getting tired. Agreed on everything here. It's all great! Here's mine: --Never trust a chick with only or mainly guy friends. --Never trust a chick that thinks being a stripper is a career. --Never trust a chick with mainly or only divorced female friends. --Never trust a chick's sister or best friend completely. --Never trust a chick who is mainly friends with women in failed or no relationships. --Never trust a chick that mainly eats out and dislikes cooking. --Never trust a chick that is super self-conscious about her body, where she's constantly thinking she's fat or something. --Never trust a chick that never admits she has done wrong. --Never trust a chick who makes herself to be the victims in her stories always. --Never trust a chick who cheated in the past but doesn't see anything wrong with it. --Never trust a chick that only has pets for friends, i.e. the crazy cat lady.
g450 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 You could have just wrote " Dont date a women" More like "Dont date screwed up women". There, I fixed it for ya.
g450 Posted April 26, 2012 Posted April 26, 2012 This one struck a chord with me Oxy: "--Never trust a chick with mainly or only divorced female friends." My XW surrounded herself with bitter divorced women alot. And she spent a lot of time with them. Looking back, that should have been a red flag for me. Missery loves company and they sucked her into that mindframe I guess. After our divorce, my XW totally changed her attitude towards her one and only real happily married friend that we knew for two decades. It was sad. Even sadder is that she was a fine woman and passed away a year ago. Still breaks my heart. Why do the good ones have to go? And this one: "--Never trust a chick who cheated in the past but doesn't see anything wrong with it." Pretty self explanitary but even I totally lost sight of this one while dating. Love and sometimes even sex will blind you to an obvious red flag. Thankfully I have wised up a lot in two years post divorce. 2
Author DuchessKaye Posted April 30, 2012 Author Posted April 30, 2012 I just learnt how to have a thicker skin...
Radu Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 (edited) Hard lessons learned from dating: Never say "I Love You" unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't let her move in with you unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't give her the key to your house unless you are 100% sure she is the one and you are ready to get married. Don't date a woman who is still married regardless of how long she has been separated. Wait for her to be divorced first. If a woman has been separated for more than a year and is still not divorced then this is a red flag. Stay away. Don't date a woman who has kids that are not grown yet. Don't date a woman who is not financially secure or who cant pay her bills. Don't date a woman who doesn't have her own place to live. Beware of women with multiple tramp-stamps. She will likely have a history that will not be pleasant to learn about. They call them tranp-stamps for a reason. Don't tell her about past lovers. Don't talk about your ex-wife. Ever. Just say "it's over". Don't date a woman who lives with her ex-boyfriend or guy-friend no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. Don't date a woman who feels the need to text you more than six times a day. Don't date a woman that has more than four animals living in her house with her. Trust me on this. Don't date a woman who still talks to her XH or FBs no matter how innocent she tries to make it sound. I have tons more but my fingers are getting tired. My first learning experience in bold, i was 21 at the time. This one struck a chord with me Oxy: "--Never trust a chick with mainly or only divorced female friends." My XW surrounded herself with bitter divorced women alot. And she spent a lot of time with them. Looking back, that should have been a red flag for me. Missery loves company and they sucked her into that mindframe I guess. After our divorce, my XW totally changed her attitude towards her one and only real happily married friend that we knew for two decades. It was sad. Even sadder is that she was a fine woman and passed away a year ago. Still breaks my heart. Why do the good ones have to go? And this one: "--Never trust a chick who cheated in the past but doesn't see anything wrong with it." Pretty self explanitary but even I totally lost sight of this one while dating. Love and sometimes even sex will blind you to an obvious red flag. Thankfully I have wised up a lot in two years post divorce. This, sometimes groups of women can become true vipers, be carefull of what friends she has, man i could tell some horrible stories but as i grow older i'm starting to think that if we leave women to run the world then apocalypse is just around the corner. My cousin is getting divorced after just 1yr together after this ... she lived her dream of the big wedding after the one in UK. One of mine ironclad ones that hasn't been mentioned is don't date a woman who arranges herself perfectly for a date when you asked for aftework casual and who arranges herself every few minutes. Edited April 30, 2012 by Radu
Radu Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Also, never ever ever let a woman get away with any form of manipulative behaviour towards you, as it will become a constant throughout your relationship. Examples of this are : - disrespecting your time on dates by being late or cancelling at the last minute - egging you on to buy her expensive stuff with the promise of affection - playing with her cellphone during the date - criticizing the date from the getgo - criticizing her close friends or family in public (this is a major one) - spreading gossip and rumours about her very close BFF - etc ... You need to set firm boundaries early on and apply punishment when it is mandatory. Some do this as a form of testing, others do this because that's what they saw mommy do to daddy and these ones are damaged beyond repair.
cherries1 Posted April 30, 2012 Posted April 30, 2012 Don't date a boy or girl who tries to change parts of your personality. Even if your personality sucks, there is a difference between suggesting you become more _______ (tidy, nice, outgoing, any good advice), and trying to force you into becoming more "mature". Don't date anyone who thinks they have a power over you to "punish" you somehow. It's a partner, not a parent.
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