wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 The other night I went to McD's drive-thru for a burger, BurgerK for Mac&Cheese, then to Wendys for a frostie. It was about getting exactly what *I* wanted for my meal, not compromising, not settling. I got exactly what I felt like I wanted. No one place satisfied me at that particulare moment for dinner. Obviously, the simplest, cheapest, best thing to do would have been to stick with one place and call it good. An eating practice millions of people do successfully every day. Then it occurred to me that people seem to "Date" this way also. (DATE defined: social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character) They will go around to many individuals getting just the surface tastes of their personality, integrity, ideas and intentions without getting one whole meal. And this is where a great deal of confusion kicks in. Rather than digging deep and finding out what one person is REALLY like, we get part of a taste and move on and don't even give it time to sink in. As bad as FAST FOOD really is for us all, wouldn't it be better if we treated dating more like a slower, quality sit-down restaurant meal? Take some time with the appetiser, entree, and desert before paying, jumping up and going to another place to eat? People even like to sit around briefly after a meal to let things settle in. We could do that taking more time after a date to evaluate things, rather than hitting the next club, picking up the next guy, getting the next broken heart. It's easy to guess also that MOST people probably don't order and eat dessert first... you know what I am tawkin' about (nudge nudge wink wink) because that seems to wreck the hunger for the whole meal. What is your perspective on FAST FOOD dating?
Philosoraptor Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 It is important to spread out and figure out exactly what you want. Two people are making a decision here and if either doesn't feel like it's a good match, then they have the right to move on. You can know quickly if any given person is a good match, and you have the right to any standards you want. When you meet someone who does seem to match up on the surface you want to take more time to evaluate. But people decide whether or not they want more very quickly, just like they say you generally judge someone upon meeting in seconds.
SmileFace Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Yea but what happens after you spend time over the appetizer , savor the entree about 6 times and still get no dessert. (wink wink) I get what your saying with the while concept and actually agree. Probably why I am always single - i should have just went thru the drive thru
sophiewilcoxx Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 maybe just take out a fastfood meal then eat it while walking while talking to each other, or sit in a nearby park. find a good view to eat your food and if your lucky, you may find a romantic view like watching the sunset while in a pier or rooftop. Fastfood is good to me, specially if we don't have that much time in our schedule. To me, food is not that of a factor, but the ambiance of the place is a plus factor. then the rest is upto how the two of you connect to each other while talking.
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 isn't meeting someone and knowing in seconds a snap judgement? can't really KNOW anything about them in seconds unless you are physically repulsed by them and in that case you would not be going to talk to them to initiate potential dating anyway.
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 maybe just take out a fastfood meal then eat it while walking while talking to each other, or sit in a nearby park. find a good view to eat your food and if your lucky, you may find a romantic view like watching the sunset while in a pier or rooftop. Fastfood is good to me, specially if we don't have that much time in our schedule. To me, food is not that of a factor, but the ambiance of the place is a plus factor. then the rest is upto how the two of you connect to each other while talking. dija miss the ANOLOGY part? Or maybe I missed your anology??
danny in van Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 can't beat 'judging a book by its cover' for an analogy...In fact ur comparing people to fast food - therefore they are low quality etc and should be discarded after one bite. But to your point: dating is time consuming- and more often than not I wished I trusted my initial quick instinct to run after coffe- but instead it wasted a whole eve of mine!
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 In fact ur comparing people to fast food - therefore they are low quality etc and should be discarded after one bite. hahahah ouch! That's not what I meant at all... comparing the "DATING" practices to eating fast food, not the people. I'm hope *I'm* more satisfying than a McNugget!
jobaba Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 The other night I went to McD's drive-thru for a burger, BurgerK for Mac&Cheese, then to Wendys for a frostie. It was about getting exactly what *I* wanted for my meal, not compromising, not settling. I got exactly what I felt like I wanted. No one place satisfied me at that particulare moment for dinner. Obviously, the simplest, cheapest, best thing to do would have been to stick with one place and call it good. An eating practice millions of people do successfully every day. Then it occurred to me that people seem to "Date" this way also. (DATE defined: social engagement between two persons that often has a romantic character) They will go around to many individuals getting just the surface tastes of their personality, integrity, ideas and intentions without getting one whole meal. And this is where a great deal of confusion kicks in. Rather than digging deep and finding out what one person is REALLY like, we get part of a taste and move on and don't even give it time to sink in. As bad as FAST FOOD really is for us all, wouldn't it be better if we treated dating more like a slower, quality sit-down restaurant meal? Take some time with the appetiser, entree, and desert before paying, jumping up and going to another place to eat? People even like to sit around briefly after a meal to let things settle in. We could do that taking more time after a date to evaluate things, rather than hitting the next club, picking up the next guy, getting the next broken heart. It's easy to guess also that MOST people probably don't order and eat dessert first... you know what I am tawkin' about (nudge nudge wink wink) because that seems to wreck the hunger for the whole meal. What is your perspective on FAST FOOD dating? People are going to do things the way they are going to do things ... and no amount of telling them they are shallow and or hasty to eliminate prospects is going to change the way they do things, unless they are getting up in age and still single. But just for the record, I agree with you.
musemaj11 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 If Im paying, then Im going to get the most out of my money. That means Im not going to settle at one place if it doesnt meet all my needs.
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Fast food, can fill you up quickly, but never give you the full experience of sit down fine dining there. Does eating a bunch of double cheese burgers ever satisfy as much as a 2 inch thick prime cut filet?? I see fast food dating as multi-dating: going on with multiple people while each of those people think they might be the main course. But are you REALLY 'dating' with those initial meet-ups, or is that simply a 'meeting'? I think it is just a meeting since you can't tell at that stage whether you will be chasing the romantic side of it (IE Date) or not yet at that point. You are just nibbling on some fries.
persevere Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Many people, especially online it seems, will look at menu a bit, then order. When the food shows up, and doesn't look precisely like their perception, they're already looking at the next menu item (afterall, 7 more just showed up). They never sit down to eat. I refer to dating more like a door to door salesman. Frustrating, and you get the door slammed in your face, before ever getting a chance. This happens many times before you're finally given a chance. Then eventually someone may buy what you are selling.
musemaj11 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Fast food, can fill you up quickly, but never give you the full experience of sit down fine dining there. Does eating a bunch of double cheese burgers ever satisfy as much as a 2 inch thick prime cut filet?? I see fast food dating as multi-dating: going on with multiple people while each of those people think they might be the main course. But are you REALLY 'dating' with those initial meet-ups, or is that simply a 'meeting'? I think it is just a meeting since you can't tell at that stage whether you will be chasing the romantic side of it (IE Date) or not yet at that point. You are just nibbling on some fries. But unlike dating, when you go to a gourmet restaurant, you knew from the beginning that you were ordering a prime cut filet, and not a cheeseburger.
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 I've NEVER had a good steak at the overly priced FLEMINGS, and will not be going back. So, even the good stuff can let you down. But, GENERALLY, if you have to WAIT on food, the quality is higher
xxoo Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 If you are in the right place at the right time, you can just pick of a tomato right off the vine and it will taste amazing. But if you don't have quality ingredients, all the fancy cooking in the world won't make it great. 1
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 wow. now there is a great anology: fresh gardening takes a lot of time and gets us the absolutely most healthy results
zengirl Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I don't really see the analogy you're going for. I mean, I would liken dating around and sex without commitment to fast food, sure, and, like fast food, many go after it when they can't 'afford' fine dining for some reason or another or when they're just in the mood for FF. Their choice. I've never dated like that. However, I also don't think it's healthy to sink a lot of energy, time, or resources into a potential loss, so most dating is going to be quick and end quickly, as most people are not right for you --- the process of ending those quickly is part of 'fine dining.' I see it more as the research stage. If I'm going to blow $100 on a meal, I'm going to research it first and see if I really want to do that. So, I don't see the point in dating someone you know you don't want to continue seeing just to "give it a chance," but I don't think anyone ever says that casual relationships are truly more fulfilling than serious ones (they may be safer, cheaper, and easier to obtain), and everyone understands that serious Rs take time to build. But they also take finding the right person, which can take years and years. So, many people feel the need to snack in the meantime, I suppose. At any rate, Chick Fil A is fast food, and it's actually one of my favorite restaurants. I prefer it over many fancy places, and the wrap I get there is pretty darn healthy. *shrug* So, even FF isn't all that bad.
Feelsgoodman Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 The other night I went to McD's drive-thru for a burger, BurgerK for Mac&Cheese, then to Wendys for a frostie. It was about getting exactly what *I* wanted for my meal, not compromising, not settling. I got exactly what I felt like I wanted. No one place satisfied me at that particulare moment for dinner. Obviously, the simplest, cheapest, best thing to do would have been to stick with one place and call it good. An eating practice millions of people do successfully every day. No wonder Americans are so fat. You didn't just go to a fast food joint for dinner...you went three different ones!!! I'm surprised you didn't pick up some KFC friend chicken and Taco Bell nachos to go with the rest of that stuff. You must be on a diet
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 calories: burger - 390 mac&cheese - 240 frostie (half) - 150 well within my budgeted calories for the day but yes, America is pretty pathetic right now. but I stay slim
mortensorchid Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Sampling is fine for all. I say good for you then you decide what you do/do not want. At least, you should.
Author wwwjd Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 well I sample with 3 dates with the same person. not 3 different dates. can't really know anything about anyone during the first date where both sides put up their best fake front to seem great, and only taste the tip of the iceberg. and 3 of those just to make me feel good? ...meh.... but, everyone is different. And that's why fast food is one of the largest franchises on the planet. But that doesn't mean it's good for us.
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