What would you give me out of 10 on the hot scale?

[Ross MwcFan]

And do you think my looks hold me back on attracting women?

 

Yeah, I've just taken some pictures where I look even worse than how I look on my worst ones. I think I get a 0 out of 10 in these pics, and if in real life I look like how I look in these pics, then my looks will definatley hold me back on attracting women, I feel like I look like some sexless wimp/loser. Please be honest, thanks.

 

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[SmileFace]

How exactly will this be beneficial to you?

[Philosoraptor]

Personally I don't think you're unattractive nor unable to lure a mate.

 

I've seen much worse with nice women. They wern't rich either, just confident in themselves.

 

The reason you are single isn't due to your looks but your lack of self. As I said in another thread, if you're not confident and happy with who you are you are not going to be attractive to anyone. Horribly ugly people (which you are not) find nice mates all the time because they are happy with themselves.

 

How do you get happy with yourself? You focus on your positives and just accept what you may consider as negative.

[Jane2011]

I think you are at least average (4-5), and from there, could even be a 6, 7, or 8 depending on what woman you ask (it's subjective).

 

I've definitely seen guys who look like you who have women. Guys even worse looking! (not that you are bad looking)

 

I myself would put you at a 5 or 6. It's hard for women, though, to not blend personality with looks when "rating" (it is for me, at least). If I knew what you were like in person, I might rate you higher.

[Jane2011]

You're good enough looking that you could be hot to a woman if she likes your personality and you really dazzle her in bed. I can see your future girlfriend thinking you are hot.

 

I've found my boyfriends to be hot because they met a minimum threshold of good looks, I liked their personality, and they were good in bed.

[SJC2008]

Well first of all I'M supposed to be the only redhead on LS lol. You are an average looking man to me Ross so go for average looking women.

[wwwjd]

unless your teeth are pretty bad, you should smile more. that is always attractive. and you can look through your eyebrows - it is a model trick: look down 45 degrees toward floor, then look up with JUST your eyes.

dressing nice always helps, high quality stylish clothes can be found very cheaply with a little looking. I get compliments on my wardrobe that is mostly from JcPenneys.

ima guy btw

[Ross MwcFan]

How exactly will this be beneficial to you?

 

Well, if people say I'm attractive and there's nothing wrong with how I look, that will make me feel better and will make me think that it must just be me who sees myself as very unattractive and that it isn't actually a reality.

[verhrzn]

Well, if people say I'm attractive and there's nothing wrong with how I look, that will make me feel better and will make me think that it must just be me who sees myself as very unattractive and that it isn't actually a reality.

 

The problem with trying to get a "general" opinion about your looks is that you're never going to be able to poll everyone in the world. This kind of thinking traps you into a logic corner... if one person in the world thinks you're ugly, does that mean you actually are ugly? As long as you say "if people say I'm attractive" you 'll be trapped... because there will never be a concrete answer.

 

The best question is, Am I attractive to people who I find attractive? They are the only ones whose opinion you should care about.

[Emilia]

Well, if people say I'm attractive and there's nothing wrong with how I look, that will make me feel better and will make me think that it must just be me who sees myself as very unattractive and that it isn't actually a reality.

 

Reality is relative though. If I only found black men attractive, I would find you unattractive even if you looked completely different. There isn't a 'reality' that's the same one for everyone. It's futile to look for it.

[SmileFace]

The only person you need to worry about finding you attractive is yourself .

[Ross MwcFan]

The only person you need to worry about finding you attractive is yourself .

 

On some pictures and videos I think I look very attractive. But then the pics like the ones I took above end up really throwing me off, and make me lose all my confidence.

[Ross MwcFan]

The problem with trying to get a "general" opinion about your looks is that you're never going to be able to poll everyone in the world. This kind of thinking traps you into a logic corner... if one person in the world thinks you're ugly, does that mean you actually are ugly? As long as you say "if people say I'm attractive" you 'll be trapped... because there will never be a concrete answer.

 

The best question is, Am I attractive to people who I find attractive? They are the only ones whose opinion you should care about.

 

I guess it comes down to how many people think you're attractive compared to how many think you're ugly.

 

If most people say you look attractive with only a few saying you look ugly, that's great and it means that you are attractive, if it's the other way around, not so great. If it's 50-50, then that means you probably look average, which isn't bad at all.

[Ross MwcFan]

Reality is relative though. If I only found black men attractive, I would find you unattractive even if you looked completely different. There isn't a 'reality' that's the same one for everyone. It's futile to look for it.

 

I know what you mean. But on the other hand, attractiveness and unattractivenes are universal.

[wwwjd]

attractiveness and unattractivenes are universal.

 

Not sure what you mean there. Seems like attraction works on its own many times. Some one average to me might spark someone else's heart to flutter or someone I like for no real reason might do nothing for someone else

[verhrzn]

I guess it comes down to how many people think you're attractive compared to how many think you're ugly.

 

If most people say you look attractive with only a few saying you look ugly, that's great and it means that you are attractive, if it's the other way around, not so great. If it's 50-50, then that means you probably look average, which isn't bad at all.

 

Again, are you gonna poll everyone in the world??

[Ross MwcFan]

Not sure what you mean there. Seems like attraction works on its own many times. Some one average to me might spark someone else's heart to flutter or someone I like for no real reason might do nothing for someone else

 

Take the Elephant man, he's universally unattractive, and Angelina Jolie in her younger years, she's universally attractive.

 

Sure, there will be some people who will find EM attracitve, and AJ unattractive, but these will definatley be a minority, and I'm sure that people who find EM attractive, will be able to tell that he is actually unattractive and vice versa.

 

It's like with me, I find personally some average lookng girls and even unnatractive looking girls to look very attractive, but I can still tell that in reality, they're average or ugly.

 

I'm not really sure if I'm explaining what I mean in the best way.

[Ross MwcFan]

Again, are you gonna poll everyone in the world??

 

I don't need to poll everyone in the world to get a decent idea of how I look to most others in those pics.

 

Heck, if I just ask 10 people and they all say I look attractive in those pics, then in all likelyhood, that will mean that I will look attractive to most people in those pics and my perception of how I look in them is flawed.

Edited April 24, 2012 by Ross MwcFan

[Ross MwcFan]

Hmmm, why on Earth has this topic been taken to the dating section?

[somedude81]

The only person you need to worry about finding you attractive is yourself .

I highly doubt he's trying to date himself.

 

I know what point you are trying to make and how it's important for yourself esteem or whatever.

 

But if a guy thinks he's an 8 and women think he's a 2 (not saying that Ross is) then it doesn't matter what he thinks.

[KathyM]

Angelina Jolie actually had a lot of cosmetic surgery done. She was average in appearance before all of that. Her nose was large, and her face was not at all beautiful. She had a nose job, and some other work done on her face, and that is why she is now beautiful. I'd say you look average in appearance, but look like you'd be a nice guy. There's something about your appearance that has "nice guy" written all over it--I think it's the colorfulness--the red hair and blue eyes. There's something peaceful and disarming about blue eyes. I always had a thing for blue eyed men.

[Ross MwcFan]

Hmmm, why on Earth has this topic been taken to the dating section?

 

Ummm, I said that completely wrong. I ment to say, why on Earth has this topic been taken off the dating forum and put into the relationship forum?

[Ross MwcFan]

I highly doubt he's trying to date himself.

 

I know what point you are trying to make and how it's important for yourself esteem or whatever.

 

But if a guy thinks he's an 8 and women think he's a 2 (not saying that Ross is) then it doesn't matter what he thinks.

 

I think he may mean, realising that you are a 2 (if you are one), but liking and being happy with how you look anyway, if that makes any sense.

 

If I was a 2, I definatley wouldn't want to think I was an 8, because that's not even living in reality anymore.

[Nextlane]

I doubt you can get an honest answer. Beauty lies in the eyes of the beholders. I could rate you as a 5 (from a guy's perspective), but other women out there could give you a low 2 or even a perfect 10.

 

I have the asian 'actor' type look, so majority of women who watch drama like me, whilst others don't bother to look twice! Different strokes for different folks, so enjoy what you have in term looks as they only get you half way there. Confidence and success is what keeps a relationship going.

[Ross MwcFan]

Angelina Jolie actually had a lot of cosmetic surgery done. She was average in appearance before all of that. Her nose was large, and her face was not at all beautiful. She had a nose job, and some other work done on her face, and that is why she is now beautiful. I'd say you look average in appearance, but look like you'd be a nice guy. There's something about your appearance that has "nice guy" written all over it--I think it's the colorfulness--the red hair and blue eyes. There's something peaceful and disarming about blue eyes. I always had a thing for blue eyed men.

 

That's definatley not a good sign.