My story about GIGS

[leoc1973]

Ok if you google it then you will see that GIGS is a real thing. Its not something that someone here on LS made up. Its something that happens like any other psychological thing. If a guy that feels like he has to count all the windows in a highrise walks by a highrise then what do you think is going to happen. If a kleptomaniac is in the mall what do you think is going to happen. If a pedophile is a boyscout leader what do you think is going to happen.

 

Of course there are exceptions to every rule but its a pattern that happens more times than not. I have stated on this forum many times about how when I first came on this forum wilson and smokey told me all the things she was going to do along the way and hit the nail on the head of which month she was going to do them.

 

Actually the reason I signed on tonight is because I was going to make a post about how 1 year and 1 week from the day she broke up with me she just called me and asked me out about an hour ago.

 

This is coming from the girl Who went from madly in love with me to dumping me out of the blue( I was completely blown away and didn't see it coming) to telling me to move on there was no chance ever then she slept around and dated lots of guys(she never slept around she made me wait 3 months before our first time) Still telling me to move on she loved her life she wouldn't change a thing, then at month 6 right on the nose she showed a little remorse and signs of missing me. Then a boyfriend for 3 months to another boyfriend of another 3 months to now. Wanting me back.

 

All along I was skeptical, I wanted to believe but I didn't see it happening. All I saw from her was cold hearted and ruthless and gave me 4 million reasons for the breakup. Painted me black. She traveled the world ect.

 

I think the problem with this "syndrome" is that so many people want their ex's back that they put all their girl/boyfriends in this category.

 

I see a lot of the I only hit her once and she dumped me is she suffering from gigs and the I ignored her all the time is she suffering from gigs or the really funny I cheated on her and she dumped me is she suffering from gigs. NO she is not! you were a crappy boyfriend!! LOL

 

Gigs is when a someone usually a girl in her early 20's who has been in a loving relationship usually with a great guy just up and leaves him and goes a little crazy sleeps around makes new friends on and on all the while not caring one bit about that great guy she left. Then she realizes the grass isn't greener hence the name of it.

 

Well I probably should make my own post because lots of people on here will like to read it so when I have a little more time I will.

[wilsonx]

Thanks for proving my point. 3 people were immature, 2 who tried to go back to the ex much later, but the dumpee moved on. I dont count going back years later as GIGS. The OP wants to believe that his ex will come back to him while he still is pining for her. Based on the examples in this thread, its not happening. Everyone has moved on by the time the immaturity/discovery has worn off. Everyones changed by then. Its not GIGS, its just change.

 

Actually they didnt move on, roberta's ex is in gigs as mine is too.

 

Funny thing about us Post GIGS people, is we see gigs and recognize the patterns. Read Leoc's post.

 

So someone doesnt want to be with you, breakup with you because they want to go explore life and you call them immature. How kind and selfish of you!

 

I call you resentful and unable to let go of the past. Your "I dont care's" is proof of your resentment.

 

Of course there are exceptions to every rule but its a pattern that happens more times than not. I have stated on this forum many times about how when I first came on this forum wilson and smokey told me all the things she was going to do along the way and hit the nail on the head of which month she was going to do them.

 

Actually the reason I signed on tonight is because I was going to make a post about how 1 year and 1 week from the day she broke up with me she just called me and asked me out about an hour ago.

 

This is coming from the girl Who went from madly in love with me to dumping me out of the blue( I was completely blown away and didn't see it coming) to telling me to move on there was no chance ever then she slept around and dated lots of guys(she never slept around she made me wait 3 months before our first time) Still telling me to move on she loved her life she wouldn't change a thing, then at month 6 right on the nose she showed a little remorse and signs of missing me. Then a boyfriend for 3 months to another boyfriend of another 3 months to now. Wanting me back.

 

Nope GIGS doesnt exist at all. Edited April 27, 2012 by wilsonx

[Eddie Edirol]

Funny thing about us Post GIGS people, is we see gigs and recognize the patterns.

 

Wow funny thing about the post GIGS people, they all use "GIGS syndrome" to hold on to feelings for their ex's, instead of working on moving on. I been there, I know it goes nowhere. So good luck with that.

Edited April 27, 2012 by Eddie Edirol

[dandan89]

Thing is I'm not using GIGS to hold on. I've stated that I'm going out more and bettering myself and intend on doing some travelling.

 

I've read pretty much all the threads on GIGS on her and it just fits. And not just that but it makes sense. She has been with me all her adult life and she's just wondering what else is out there and I have to respect that decision. Rob/Roberta's case of how she left and had a rebound guy that she didn't want to put a label on is so much like mine at the moment.

 

The way I see it is if (big if) she does comes back in the future that will be a bonus and I will have bettered myself and then I can chose what to do. I just like to understand what actually happened, it's made me feel a hell of a lot better as I had no real reasons.

 

And Leoc great to hear that and I look forward to reading your thread!

[WildHorses]

Wow funny thing about the post GIGS people, they all use "GIGS syndrome" to hold on to feelings for their ex's, instead of working on moving on. I been there, I know it goes nowhere. So good luck with that.

 

Eddie, we are not saying that Dan should hold onto his ex at all. I would never suggest that to anybody, to hold onto their ex when they leave them. I think Dan just wanted to understand what was going on. Some of the behaviors his ex is exhibiting appears as GIGS. Personally, I don't care what somebody calls that phase in life.

 

Yes, I was one that did not return to my ex after I went through all of it. The damage had been done, he ended up getting a girl pregnant, game over. I spent many years in GIGS, and did some wild, amazing things such as: being selfish, rebeled, partied, getting in trouble with the police, not getting my education completed. It really added up to a bunch of things that were not getting me to move forward at all. So, I learned a lot actually. Knowing what I know now, there is no way in HELL I would ever suggest somebody to wait around for their ex while they are going through this. When a break up happens, that is a time to focus on yourself, possibly learn some things about the relationship, spend time doing self-reflection, move on with your life.

 

LOL Edited April 27, 2012 by WildHorses

[rob_h]

Eddie, we are not saying that Dan should hold onto his ex at all. I would never suggest that to anybody, to hold onto their ex when they leave them. I think Dan just wanted to understand what was going on. Some of the behaviors his ex is exhibiting appears as GIGS. Personally, I don't care what somebody calls that phase in life.

 

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When a break up happens, that is a time to focus on yourself, possibly learn some things about the relationship, spend time doing self-reflection, move on with your life.

 

 

 

Yeah I agree totally. I don't think anyone is encouraging waiting around for their ex. It's everyone's personal choice, and it certainly isn't an activity reccomended if you enjoy preserving your sanity. We were just providing some insight because we have recently been through it, some would say we are even still in this stage (I am at uni surrounded by people numbing themselves with various substances and behaviours).

 

When you boil it down, G.I.G.S is people choosing infatuation over real love. Infatuation with a lifestyle/person/themselves. Eventually lessons are learnt and sometimes that involves going back to what they realise that they threw away.

 

 

 

LOL

 

That's hilarious. Watch this:

 

[WildHorses]

That's hilarious. Watch this:

 

 

 

Roberta, I love it!!!! Nicely put what you wrote above!

[wilsonx]

Yall are some crazy Bitches, I wish I did half the fun things you both did

 

People that go through it aren't bad people. We learn from our mistakes the hardway.

 

Leoc-if you want to meet up with her, send me a pm, ill give you some phase 4 advice

Edited April 27, 2012 by wilsonx

[2sunny]

 

People in gigs don't make conscious decisions. That's why people often call them bi polar, bpd, etc.

They eventually learn to take control of their lives and cleaning up the mess they've left behind

 

 

Or not... Some do and some don't! We can't control what they may do or not do.

 

But we arent bound to someone who is treating us in unacceptable ways.

 

No one should have to endur unacceptable behavior. People do what they want.

 

I have CHOICES to NOT participate if I deem their behavior unacceptable.

[gibson]

G.I.G.S. women are Intoxicating and although the ride doesn't last very long... You will have the time of your life!

 

 

 

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YOU SHOULD NOT RIDE IF YOU HAVE

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Heart Condition

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Dizziness or Motion Sickness

Other Physical Ailments which may be aggravated by the motions of the rides.

Edited April 27, 2012 by gibson

[wilsonx]

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Or not... Some do and some don't! We can't control what they may do or not do.

 

But we arent bound to someone who is treating us in unacceptable ways.

 

No one should have to endur unacceptable behavior. People do what they want.

 

I have CHOICES to NOT participate if I deem their behavior unacceptable.

 

Then what are you waiting on, go out and live your life. You haven't chose to do anything but harbor resentment .

 

This thread is about Dan who is trying to understand gigs and our mindsets, not yours. His ex didn't treat him poorly. He loves her and wants to understand

[2sunny]

Then what are you waiting on, go out and live your life. You haven't chose to do anything but harbor resentment .

 

This thread is about Dan who is trying to understand gigs and our mindsets, not yours. His ex didn't treat him poorly. He loves her and wants to understand

 

You have no idea about my life... You must be talking to yourself Wilson.

 

And stop making assumptions about me.

 

What I CHOOSE is anything but resentment.

[rob_h]

g.i.g.s. Women are intoxicating and although the ride doesn't last very long... You will have the time of your life!

 

 

 

rules

no falling in love, looking for commitment or relationship.

Morals and values must remain outside ride fence until ride has come to a complete stop.

Single riders may need to be placed with others.

All riders should wear condoms.

Alcoholic beverages are allowed in the ride area.

No refunds.

Follow the instructions of the ride operator.

Follow all posted warnings and rules

some rides have height and age requirements. There are no exceptions!

Riders must be able to receive, understand and follow instruction to ride.

You must remain seated in a proper position and keep your arms and legs inside riding device at all times.

 

riders with disabilities

 

all riders should know the criteria required to ride each individual ride. All riders must be able to independently maintain seated postural control under the dynamic conditions of the various rides. Some rides require the ability to grasp with one or both functional hands, brace with one or both functional legs, or maintain control of head, neck and limbs. Any rider with a mental disability that does not understand the consequences of their actions we suggest you do not ride. Each ride has a unique criterion; therefore anyone with any type of physical or mental disability (temporary or permanent) should see the ride supervisor for assistance.

 

warning

 

there are certain physiological changes that may occur while riding amusement devices. If you have any condition that may be affected by motions or forces associated with those created while riding an amusement ride we suggest you do not ride. The action of some rides may cause motion sickness. If you suffer from motion sickness we suggest you do not ride. Due to the mechanisms of some rides it is not possible to come to an immediate stop. We suggest that you observe the rides in motion before riding if you are unsure about riding.

 

you should not ride if you have

commitment, love, relationship or marriage in mind

heart condition

high blood pressure

back or neck disorders

seizures

dizziness or motion sickness

other physical ailments which may be aggravated by the motions of the rides.

 

 

absolute post of the yearrrr!!!