rach24680 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hey, ivreally just need to have a rant, il make it short though =) oky, i have a boyfriend who iv been with for 4 years, weve had trust issues, been through unfaithfulness, coped with deaths and miscarages and we really love each other and we are very happy. Heres the problem.. I really like someone else, heres the bigger problem... I really like 2 other people. One of them my boyfrirnf knows and the other he doesnt. It seems to be a matter of when im with my boyfriend i dont think of these guys, but when im with the other guys i have that feeling where ur heart drops because u like them so much. I ciuldnt imagine splitting up with my boyfriend and i dont want to, but these feelings for the othee guys are getting really strong. I find myself flirting a lot with them and they flirt back, im just a bit overwhelmed at all these feelings!! And im not sure what to do, if anything.
macardent Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hey there, please mention you age and your bf's age. I'll be able to answer that more precisely. Been through something like that in my life. One of my ex had this issue. Loll
Ajax Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I ciuldnt imagine splitting up with my boyfriend and i dont want to, but these feelings for the othee guys are getting really strong. I find myself flirting a lot with them and they flirt back, im just a bit overwhelmed at all these feelings!! And im not sure what to do, if anything. So to boil it down, you want to be able to be with three people and get away with it. Well... what advice would you give someone else in your position? What advice would you give someone in your boyfriend's position?
Author rach24680 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Im 23 and my boyfriends 26. I dont want to be with 3 people, id never cheat on my boyfriend cos i know how much it hurts. Im just a bit confused.
macardent Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Okay so here is the thing. Are you looking for attraction? Attention? Love? Which one of these do u get from your boyfriend. There is a reason u spent 4 years of your life with this guy. Also to determine if you want to be with him. This is what I do close your eyes and look 15 years from now. Do you see yourself with your bf or one of thse guys. Just try to keep a picture of your bf in ur phone or something whenever u feel like flirting with these guys look at the picture. And try to hint them that you have a bf so they don't try to be as flirty so u wouldn't have to flirt back. Because if u leave ur bf for one of these guys it'll become a habit and u'll keep leaving every guy for another guy. Its such a bad state to be in trust me. So the answer is within you. You are 23 that's mature! Also, when my ex did that to me she came back crying, I loved her but couldn't take her back. It hurts. So make sure which one it is that u want.
Author rach24680 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Thanks thats good advice, i dont want to hurt him and i cant imagine being with anyone but him.
maya.arrow Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 sometimes you just need to draw your own boundaries. if these guys are too tempting, i would say to stop seeing them so much and as other posters said, say you have a boyfriend you love very very much.
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