rach24680 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I dont know if this is the right place to post bt here goes. Really just need to have a rant, il make it short though =) oky, i have a boyfriend who iv been with for 4 years, weve had trust issues, been through unfaithfulness, coped with deaths and miscarages and we really love each other and we are very happy. Heres the problem.. I really like someone else, heres the bigger problem... I really like 2 other people. One of them my boyfrirnf knows and the other he doesnt. It seems to be a matter of when im with my boyfriend i dont think of these guys, but when im with the other guys i have that feeling where ur heart drops because u like them so much. I ciuldnt imagine splitting up with my boyfriend and i dont want to, but these feelings for the othee guys are getting really strong. I find myself flirting a lot with them and they flirt back, im just a bit overwhelmed at all these feelings!! And im not sure what to do, if anything.
wannabdone Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I'm not being snarky, but how old are you? I was wondering the same thing.
Author rach24680 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Im 23, my boyfriends 26. its not that i dont want to be with him, it just seems im really liking lots of other people!
UpwardForward Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Have you had pregnancies (miscarriages) Rach?
Spark1111 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Four years in a relationship without children is about the same as the highest number of married couples who divorce, did you know that? The fact that you have shared so much in the past is no guarantee that you should stay together for the future, You are young to have only had one romantic partner; certainly too young and inexperienced to consider committing for life. Why not tell your boyfriend that you want to take a break; that you find yourself attracted to others and are not yet ready to commit for life to him? He is familiar and safe and you have a shared history, but so what? They are no obligations to marry now. Tell him the truth. If, after dating others, you both can see if you want to re-commit to each other if you are both available. I think it is time for the breakup. Better now than the divorce or infidelity four years from now. I would tell my daughters exactly the same as I have told you. 2
Forever Learning Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Four years in a relationship without children is about the same as the highest number of married couples who divorce, did you know that? The fact that you have shared so much in the past is no guarantee that you should stay together for the future, You are young to have only had one romantic partner; certainly too young and inexperienced to consider committing for life. Why not tell your boyfriend that you want to take a break; that you find yourself attracted to others and are not yet ready to commit for life to him? He is familiar and safe and you have a shared history, but so what? They are no obligations to marry now. Tell him the truth. If, after dating others, you both can see if you want to re-commit to each other if you are both available. I think it is time for the breakup. Better now than the divorce or infidelity four years from now. I would tell my daughters exactly the same as I have told you. Sounds like good advice to me. I was in the same situation at your age Rach. It is a human phenomenon. Some around here call it "GIGS" - the "Grass is Greener Syndrome". It's only natural for some people to want to date other people and see how they get on with them. Others don't really have this curiosity. It varies from person to person. You are young enough, this seems like a good time to break up and date others if you are so inclined. Good luck either way. ps I have not read this book, but I believe it's called "Cupid's Poison Arrow" which discusses this to some extent.
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