BlindRage Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) "THE FOURTH DATE WITH A GIRL...... I HAVENT KISSED YET." Now, I'm doubting if I should. This might sound weird but she is the most amazingly sweet girl I have met. I don't want to risk losing her. I have already told her that I want to make sure she knows I think the best of her and that I enjoy hanging out with her. It's not even on a physical level at this point. I just love being around her and hearing her talk and watching her. My relationships never work out so I am scared that if I kiss her I'll make it complicated. On our last date after I gave her a good night hug and left she texted me while I was half-way home to say she had wanted me to kiss her. She said that she's not the type to make the first move and that I should be the one that does it. I'm taking her skydiving on our fourth date in San Diego (we are in L.A.). Might sound strange but she sounded excited about the idea and she mentioned she has always wanted to try it. After that obviously dinner. The question is, should I make a first move and risk it? She is so nice that I do not think there are many girls like her out there anymore. Well at least not that I know of, she's the first. She sounds like marriage material (for me) when she tells me her values. She's great with kids and loves them. She likes cooking and cleaning. She said ideally she would like to be a stay at home mom but she knows that won't happen (I'm old fashioned and would love a stay at home wife). She enjoys things that I do. She's beautiful. She isn't judgmental. She is carrying. She is honest with me ..... and the list goes on and on I don't know if she would even date me at this point. I'm kind of leaning towards just being her best-friend to always have her around. ^ What do you think? Edited April 24, 2012 by BlindRage
Andy_K Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 she texted me while I was half-way home to say she had wanted me to kiss her Exactly how much more obvious do you want her to be? She's most likely already giving you the signals in person, and feeling so frustrated you missed them that she's come right out and said it. Take a hint. 5
crazylove Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) OMG She's asked you to kiss her and you can't tell if she likes you??!!! What does she have to do??!!!! LOL ...and to answer your question...if u don't get a wriggle on you probably won't have her as a girlfriend or a friend cos she'll lose interest!! Hurry up!! Edited April 24, 2012 by crazylove to answer the question! 1
AmEricanWomann Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Is this for real? Risk it? Do you think she really wants no physical contact? You're risking it if you don't do something to initiate some physical intimacy soon. A girl needs to be shown affection and actions speak louder than words. Its fine to take things slow and of course I'm not suggesting you jump into bed with her, but if you don't take the initiative and kiss her soon, she will soon get frustrated, start looking for someone who satisfies her needs and before you know it, you will have lost her.
amantis Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 4 dates , no kiss , she told you she wanted to be kissed and you are asking if you should make a first move and risk it? are you fking serious ? 1
insertnamehere Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Exactly how much more obvious do you want her to be? Agreed. On the upside, she was tolerant enough to let you get to this point. Most women would have just stopped returning your calls in light of this behavior.
Arkaeology Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 It's either you have no balls or you're the most ignorant person in the world for not getting the most obvious things. Number two: Skydiving on the fourth date? Those are not cheap dude and if you're footing it all, that's at least a $500 date Groupon or not.
KathyM Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Nice girls like to be kissed and hugged, just as much as the not-so-nice ones. She asked you to kiss her--now do it. Don't blow it with this woman. Women want romance and affection from a man. If they only wanted platonic friendship, they'd probably rather go out with their girlfriends.
Author BlindRage Posted April 29, 2012 Author Posted April 29, 2012 Hello, Thank you all for your responses They were great! Definitely gave me a lot to think about which is why it has taken me so long to respond. After careful consideration I decided that I will not kiss her. Tomorrow is our "date" and I've been contemplating it, though after I received a text today that read she will have to be home early tomorrow, I decided to just leave it how it is. I told her that we would go out and do that so I am sticking to my word and doing what I said. All-in-all it will be friendly fun and I will take her home early per her request. Skydiving.... here I come!
somedude81 Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 Hello, Thank you all for your responses They were great! Definitely gave me a lot to think about which is why it has taken me so long to respond. After careful consideration I decided that I will not kiss her. Tomorrow is our "date" and I've been contemplating it, though after I received a text today that read she will have to be home early tomorrow, I decided to just leave it how it is. I told her that we would go out and do that so I am sticking to my word and doing what I said. All-in-all it will be friendly fun and I will take her home early per her request. Skydiving.... here I come! Just kiss her you fool. What you are afraid of? If you don't make a move, you risk losing her. 1
Marvin Gaye Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 OMG She's asked you to kiss her and you can't tell if she likes you??!!! What does she have to do??!!!! LOL ...and to answer your question...if u don't get a wriggle on you probably won't have her as a girlfriend or a friend cos she'll lose interest!! Hurry up!! Excellent reply!! Wow. She might need to write it on her forehead fore you. Isolate her, get in the mood, kiss
spiderowl Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 he texted me while I was half-way home to say she had wanted me to kiss her That is a very clear hint that she WOULD like you to! If you ignore that, she may think you don't really like her that way and start to lose interest. I think the more you like someone and admire them, the more risky it seems to make any changes, but you either move forward or stay the same. This could change things for the better. Choose your moment and make it romantic. If there is no time when you are close beforehand, then the time of the parting hug is a good time because you are already close then. You seem pretty obsessed with the fact that she's nice. Even nice girls kiss!
runner Posted April 29, 2012 Posted April 29, 2012 you, Sir, are making this out to be more compicated than it really is. i mean, you're already thinking 'marriage material' ...you guys haven't even kissed ! take it from these and chill
Author BlindRage Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 OKAY SOOOOOOO..... I KISSED HER. LAST night actually. I think she felt forced to kiss me and she kept it as short as possible. Today I asked her to hang out and get coffee, she said that she's laying in bed so no. Ha, thats how the story goes. What do ya'll say, should I move on and not text her?
thehead Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 OKAY SOOOOOOO..... I KISSED HER. LAST night actually. I think she felt forced to kiss me and she kept it as short as possible. Today I asked her to hang out and get coffee, she said that she's laying in bed so no. Ha, thats how the story goes. What do ya'll say, should I move on and not text her? The coffee excuse seems kind of weak. If it was a reasonable hour and she still didn't want to get out of bed, it doesn't look good. Don't text her. In a few days ask her out and if she says no then move on.
Author BlindRage Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 The coffee excuse seems kind of weak. If it was a reasonable hour and she still didn't want to get out of bed, it doesn't look good. Don't text her. In a few days ask her out and if she says no then move on. yea it's lame because its a 40 minute drive to get there. But I don't know if I should even ask her out in a few days. I'm a really generous and carrying person. If she couldn't see that then hopefully someone will see that in me and want me to be a part of their life. Not me have to beg them to hang out,
somedude81 Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 You didn't mention at all how your dates went. Skydiving was last week. You didn't try anything then? What happened on your most recent date?
Author BlindRage Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 You didn't mention at all how your dates went. Skydiving was last week. You didn't try anything then? What happened on your most recent date? Haha you'll laugh, I took her skydiving. Had fun. I gave her an iPhone with a two year contract... i didn't try anything. She when we were saying our goodbyes left quickly. I then asked her out last night and took her to a nice restaurant and at the end of the night I kissed her and it didn't seem like she liked it. Obviously I invested too much and at this point I think that its better to cut my loses. I'll pay the contract until it's over but I'll take it as a lesson learned, every month haha. NOT TO GIVE ANYTHING TO SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T SEE ME THAT WAY
dbave Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Lol, this is obviously a troll. No one is this ****ing stupid smh.
Author BlindRage Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 Lol, this is obviously a troll. No one is this ****ing stupid smh. Thank you for calling me stupid... obviously my action were stupid, I'll take it as a lesson learned and move on.
somedude81 Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 Haha you'll laugh, I took her skydiving. Had fun. I gave her an iPhone with a two year contract... i didn't try anything. She when we were saying our goodbyes left quickly. I then asked her out last night and took her to a nice restaurant and at the end of the night I kissed her and it didn't seem like she liked it. Obviously I invested too much and at this point I think that its better to cut my loses. I'll pay the contract until it's over but I'll take it as a lesson learned, every month haha. NOT TO GIVE ANYTHING TO SOMEONE WHO DOESN'T SEE ME THAT WAY Yeah, she obviously became uncomfortable with how much you were spending on her. That concept is worth it's own thread.
Author BlindRage Posted May 3, 2012 Author Posted May 3, 2012 Yeah, she obviously became uncomfortable with how much you were spending on her. That concept is worth it's own thread. I agree. Thanks somedude. Lesson learned and i"ll take if for what it is. I'll eventually find some that can see in me a future but its not her. I can't blame her and thats all I can do. Guess thats the end of that
FitChick Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 It seems odd that she suddenly changed her mind. My woman's intuition tells me she talked to her girlfriends who were jealous that she had met someone nice who treated her well and spent money on her. They probably said you were a wimp and how embarrassing for her that she had to ask for a kiss. 1
starla33 Posted May 3, 2012 Posted May 3, 2012 "THE FOURTH DATE WITH A GIRL...... I HAVENT KISSED YET." Now, I'm doubting if I should. This might sound weird but she is the most amazingly sweet girl I have met. I don't want to risk losing her. I have already told her that I want to make sure she knows I think the best of her and that I enjoy hanging out with her. It's not even on a physical level at this point. I just love being around her and hearing her talk and watching her. My relationships never work out so I am scared that if I kiss her I'll make it complicated. On our last date after I gave her a good night hug and left she texted me while I was half-way home to say she had wanted me to kiss her. She said that she's not the type to make the first move and that I should be the one that does it. I'm taking her skydiving on our fourth date in San Diego (we are in L.A.). Might sound strange but she sounded excited about the idea and she mentioned she has always wanted to try it. After that obviously dinner. The question is, should I make a first move and risk it? She is so nice that I do not think there are many girls like her out there anymore. Well at least not that I know of, she's the first. She sounds like marriage material (for me) when she tells me her values. She's great with kids and loves them. She likes cooking and cleaning. She said ideally she would like to be a stay at home mom but she knows that won't happen (I'm old fashioned and would love a stay at home wife). She enjoys things that I do. She's beautiful. She isn't judgmental. She is carrying. She is honest with me ..... and the list goes on and on I don't know if she would even date me at this point. I'm kind of leaning towards just being her best-friend to always have her around. ^ What do you think? Wow she must really like you, and you really need to go for it. If a guy doesn't kiss me by the 2nd date I assume he is not interested. 1
Recommended Posts