Looknfoward Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I want to tell my story. Why? Because I want others to avoid my mistakes and also to vent. In August of 2011 my wife admitted to having sex with another guy. I felt so shocked, part of me knew she was lying. But the only thing was she was trekking the truth. towards the end of 2010 my wife of 5 years got a new job at a gym and her dream is to be a personal trainer. I remember her excitement as she told how she loved her job and Coworkers. She started getting invited out with her coworkers. I didn't mind her going, because throughout our marriage I caught her texting an ex, I read different like this one an knew women exude cheating if you are too strict. she began to stay later. She began to act distant and we would argue about her staying late. Not coming home. I knew something was wrong. I began to blame myself. fast forward I forgave her and we continued to spiral downward. She got worse. I knew she didn't love me. She began to say she needed space, she needed to find herself, she wanted to be independent, etc. I knew she had someone but didn't want to admit it. At the time we lived with my parents. She moved out with a cousin in sep 2011. I moved with my brother. I spent almost Egbert night with her at her cousin. I constantly tried to find out what was wrong. She simply stated she wanted us to be friends. Around Nov. I went NC. she began to beg for me . Texting me that she would change blah blah. Around Dec. I came back to her. She said sorry and realized she needed and loved me. It lasted about 4 days and she began to act weird. During this.whole time I payed her car and in Dec she found an apt and I paid the deposit. I believed we.could start over. Dec 14 I read the texts that broke me. She said she loved him.. How they had sex. I was shocked again. I even said I forgive you. But when I left her apt I went NC. She began the begging about 3 Weeks later. I have Jan 25 and march 13 I found out she was having contact with OM and sending naked pics to other men after I installed a a tracker on her phone. I left she says sorry again. I want to move on.
Furious Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Sorry for the pain you're going through. It sounds like you're done. It's not easy. You don't say if you have children. If that's the case, make a clean break. Take care of yourself.
Bryanp Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Get tested for STD's. How much humiliation and disrespect are you willing to endure? If the roles were reversed do you honestly think she would have been as forgiving as you? My friend, if you do not respect yourself then who will? Good luck.
standtall Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Sorry for your pain...even though some of it..not all..is self inflicted. She will keep on treating you as a doormat as long as you let her...move on.
Author Looknfoward Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Sorry about all the typos. I wrote it at work and from my phone. I attempted to edit my post..... Anyway we have a 4 year old. the thing is I know I'm done but I keep going back. She finally changed her phone after this march incident. Btw it was march 23. I asked her multiple times to that for me since Jan. She claims she is just now in love. On the march texts she was texting him that she fell for him. How because he want on the same page, she didn't want to talk to him. I don't get why.after the multiple times I tell her to leave me alone and that its over she continues to say.that she wants to work it out.
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