Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Too shy to talk to a guy in person? You can like a guy so much that you're afraid to ever say a word to him? He has that much of an affect on you? Im never shy towards people i dont like, and vice versa
jobaba Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Im never shy towards people i dont like, and vice versa You'll be fine. Just based on your pics, a good number of guys will hit on you if you do the bar/club circuit, or from work/grad school, wherever. Trust me, you'll get your share of dating options just going through life's daily routine. Just remember that you've been rejected before and stay humble...
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Is that an insult? Nooooo. That's the short hand version of what I said earlier. You look fine now, really nice, but you also look like you have or will soon reach the limit for your frame. Any guy who is looking for a long term thing will likely think the same thing. A skinny girl has a long way to go before she becomes a fat girl. You are not fat, but your journey to fat, should you go that direction, will be a lot shorter.
truth_seeker Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Im never shy towards people i dont like, and vice versa I thought you wrote that you were too shy to tell him you liked him in person?
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Nooooo. That's the short hand version of what I said earlier. You look fine now, really nice, but you also look like you have or will soon reach the limit for your frame. Any guy who is looking for a long term thing will likely think the same thing. A skinny girl has a long way to go before she becomes a fat girl. You are not fat, but your journey to fat, should you go that direction, will be a lot shorter. What a thoughtful thing to say, thank you (:
truth_seeker Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 A skinny girl has a long way to go before she becomes a fat girl. You are not fat, but your journey to fat, should you go that direction, will be a lot shorter. Your journey to fat? lol.
manup Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hi everyone.This is my first time posting! About the guy.. I met this guy at a local karaoke bar, he works there and I am a regular customer. He's very tall, cute, lean with a some muscle, and athletic (which I later found out he plays lots of basketball from a frd..) He's very Asian which means he likes petite, tiny, and skinny girls.. all of his past gfs have been skinny girls.. I'm a more curvy and thick girl... Whenever I'm around the karaoke bar I'm always smiling and happy (not with him, but with his coworkers (female and males) which happens to be my frds) I'm pretty sure he recognizes me, he even knows my name. A few weeks ago, I sent him a msg on facebook.. I said hi and hey dont you work at that so and so karaoke bar? but he never replied... i was kinda sad for a few days.. I told one of my trusted friend at the karaoke bar about it.. and she said "I think he only likes skinny girls.. and you're... well not his type.." I felt worse So goodbye to the 3.5 years.. throwing it all out the window..=[ After that incident I become very insecure about my weight.. I tend to fall for guys that prefer skinny girls.. Do Asian guys dislike meaty girls? Any honest opinions will be highly appreciated.. Recent pics http://i39.tinypic.com/27yanww.jpg http://i42.tinypic.com/vs1ev4.jpg You aren't fat, but you are a but curvy. Maybe he likes extremely skinny twigs? You could either get in amazing runnerish shape or just find a guy who likes you, it's your call.
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Your journey to fat? lol. I believe he was comparing me to his skinny gf. He probably digs skeletons. no offense to any ladies reading this.
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 You aren't fat, but you are a but curvy. Maybe he likes extremely skinny twigs? You could either get in amazing runnerish shape or just find a guy who likes you, it's your call. Runnerish shape would be great!
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 I thought you wrote that you were too shy to tell him you liked him in person? Im shy towards ppl i like, to even talk to them, so its not just him.. i was shy towards my past crushes too.
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Your journey to fat? lol. If she goes that way. A lot of girls who look like she looks would like to be thinner but can't pull it off. If that's the case (and it often is) it is a harbinger of things to come. Guys who want to jump it and get on with the next won't care, but guys who are thinking longer term might be concerned. I don't "like twigs", I like petite healthy women. The guy she's pining about is probably similar, but a lot of guys go for thicker women. To be clear, she's not thick now, nor curvy. Curvy is actually pretty rare, a little heavy in the hips and boobs but with a slim waist; her waist doesn't appear to be that tiny. She's what i would consider an average young American girl of Asian descent. Not thick, not curvy, not slim.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Honestly, he is doing you a favor. Imagine if he tried to date you and then told you all the time that he would be more attracted to you if you lost weight? Yeah, better off like this. 1
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Runnerish shape would be great! Running is a great hobby.
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Running is a great hobby. I jog and bike almost everday since beginning of march. i have lost almost 8lbs. its not much but every pound adds up to a difference. yes, its gona be for myself not for some rude jerks 1
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Running is a great hobby. Just becos im not slim, curvy, or thick but journey to fat doesnt mean i dont exercise and expect a great body. pathetic (:
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I jog and bike almost everday since beginning of march. i have lost almost 8lbs. its not much but every pound adds up to a difference. yes, its gona be for myself not for some rude jerks The thing about this, and you probably know but in case not, is this: you have lost some weight but it's very likely you have lost a lot more than 8 pounds of fat; you're likely a lot leaner now than that weight loss would indicate. Normally a person who is starting an exercise regime will pack on some muscle while losing fat, so I bet you are looking a lot better already.
mesmerized Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Just becos im not slim, curvy, or thick but journey to fat doesnt mean i dont exercise and expect a great body. pathetic (: Again, just be what YOU want to be. You have great features! Your thighs and ass look "thick", not fat and that's a good thing. Lots of guys love that, trust me! One thing you learn as you grow up is you can't impress everybody. You're always too fat or too skinny or too pale etc to somebody. This guy doesn't like you, so what? Just accept and move on, no hard feelings. Trust me on this that A LOT OF guys would go for your body over a skinny chick any day. Also, confidence and how you carry yourself is very important when it comes to attracting guys. Be confident, dress for your features and men will be more attracted to you/have more fun with you. A skinny chick that is whiny and self conscious is way less fun than a curvy girl who is happy, confident and ready to express herself through her body/actions. 1
dsw31 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) First of all-I'm curious how old you are? I'm guessing highschool? No offense please but, most people don't take Facebook that seriously.I can practically guarantee this guy is not obsessing about who sends him FB messages! Some other things to consider- * He is probably a little older than you.He might not be into younger girls. * He may have a girlfriend * He may not even know you like him! Remember you said you are shy & nervous around him? * Just because he is Asian doesn't mean you can predict his preference in body type *He probably gets hit on alot-being a bartender I just want to tell you- * don't lose weight for this guy-only do it for you *Work on your confidence so you can learn to be flirty All in all, most guys who are interested in a girl, will find a way to approach her so, if it's been 3 1/2 years & he hasn't flirted at all-I'm sorry to say-he probably isn't interested. It's not because you are curvy though.It's because of my other possible reasons that I mentioned earlier. Don't worry! You are a nice girl, I'm sure you will find a boyfriend when the time is right & yes...You can have an Asian BF.I'm sure there are plenty of Asian guys who will like you just the way you are! *work on your self esteem though! That's the best thing you can do to make men like you! Edited April 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
starla33 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hi everyone.This is my first time posting! About the guy.. I met this guy at a local karaoke bar, he works there and I am a regular customer. He's very tall, cute, lean with a some muscle, and athletic (which I later found out he plays lots of basketball from a frd..) He's very Asian which means he likes petite, tiny, and skinny girls.. all of his past gfs have been skinny girls.. I'm a more curvy and thick girl... Whenever I'm around the karaoke bar I'm always smiling and happy (not with him, but with his coworkers (female and males) which happens to be my frds) I'm pretty sure he recognizes me, he even knows my name. A few weeks ago, I sent him a msg on facebook.. I said hi and hey dont you work at that so and so karaoke bar? but he never replied... i was kinda sad for a few days.. I told one of my trusted friend at the karaoke bar about it.. and she said "I think he only likes skinny girls.. and you're... well not his type.." I felt worse So goodbye to the 3.5 years.. throwing it all out the window..=[ After that incident I become very insecure about my weight.. I tend to fall for guys that prefer skinny girls.. Do Asian guys dislike meaty girls? Any honest opinions will be highly appreciated.. Recent pics http://i39.tinypic.com/27yanww.jpg http://i42.tinypic.com/vs1ev4.jpg um you have an awesome body! Most guys prefer curvy screw the ones that want a skeleton seriously they might as well get a 12 year old boy thats flat all over....
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 um you have an awesome body! Most guys prefer curvy screw the ones that want a skeleton seriously they might as well get a 12 year old boy thats flat all over.... My GF at the moment is a C cup and has great curves; you don't have to be a skeleton to be thin, that's a lie created and spread by heavy women. You don't have to like it, but reality is that women who are really unhealthily thin are pretty rare.
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 The thing about this, and you probably know but in case not, is this: you have lost some weight but it's very likely you have lost a lot more than 8 pounds of fat; you're likely a lot leaner now than that weight loss would indicate. Normally a person who is starting an exercise regime will pack on some muscle while losing fat, so I bet you are looking a lot better already. wow it is just me or does that just sound plain insincere? anyway thank you for trying
mesmerized Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 My GF at the moment is a C cup and has great curves; you don't have to be a skeleton to be thin, that's a lie created and spread by heavy women. You don't have to like it, but reality is that women who are really unhealthily thin are pretty rare. Well, the reality is most skinny girls don't have a C cup. How do I know? Based on the common bra sizes. It's great that your gf has it all but those women are rather rare. A thin size 0 woman will most likely lack curves. Not that it's wrong to be into that type of body. 1
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 (edited) First of all-I'm curious how old you are? I'm guessing highschool? No offense please but, most people don't take Facebook that seriously.I can practically guarantee this guy is not obsessing about who sends him FB messages! Some other things to consider- * He is probably a little older than you.He might not be into younger girls. * He may have a girlfriend * He may not even know you like him! Remember you said you are shy & nervous around him? * Just because he is Asian doesn't mean you can predict his preference in body type *He probably gets hit on alot-being a bartender I just want to tell you- * don't lose weight for this guy-only do it for you *Work on your confidence so you can learn to be flirty All in all, most guys who are interested in a girl, will find a way to approach her so, if it's been 3 1/2 years & he hasn't flirted at all-I'm sorry to say-he probably isn't interested. It's not because you are curvy though.It's because of my other possible reasons that I mentioned earlier. Don't worry! You are a nice girl, I'm sure you will find a boyfriend when the time is right & yes...You can have an Asian BF.I'm sure there are plenty of Asian guys who will like you just the way you are! *work on your self esteem though! That's the best thing you can do to make men like you! Thank you for your opinion, its the best i heard so far! Edited April 24, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 um you have an awesome body! Most guys prefer curvy screw the ones that want a skeleton seriously they might as well get a 12 year old boy thats flat all over.... Im far from amazing but thank you for your kind opinion!
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 My GF at the moment is a C cup and has great curves; you don't have to be a skeleton to be thin, that's a lie created and spread by heavy women. You don't have to like it, but reality is that women who are really unhealthily thin are pretty rare. Good for you and good for her. Praise Lord, you're a lucky man
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