JesseJames Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 In that 3.5 years, you could have lost some weight, learned how to sing, and be trained in Hapkido. Dudes are tired of a lot of things, mainly, women who are overly indicative of themselves in not willing to impress all while men have to bend over into a pretzel formation. You didn't impress him. Stalk on another.
yongyong Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 It's a fact. Asians have different standards for being overweight. Chubby girls here are just fat in Asia. Fat girls here? I guess you can imagine. I think average girls wear between 4~6. If she is short but wears 8 or even 6, I think she must have extra fats that will turn me off. IMO I think you were not just his type. I don't think losing weight will change that. If you want to feel better about yourself, then you should lose weight in a healthy manner.
truth_seeker Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 i feel like you really understand how I am feeling.. i guess i selfishly just wanted some comfort and reassurance from this forum.. thank you truth seeker! I am feeling the same way. I know what it's like to not get a response from someone.
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 In that 3.5 years, you could have lost some weight, learned how to sing, and be trained in Hapkido. Dudes are tired of a lot of things, mainly, women who are overly indicative of themselves in not willing to impress all while men have to bend over into a pretzel formation. You didn't impress him. Stalk on another. I admit i didnt impress him but do i really need to impress him to be frds with him and have him reply my fb msg? thats silly..
samsungxoxo Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 If you are truly not his type then forgot about him. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that will want to get to know you. I wouldn't lost pounds for a man. I'm 140 lbs (but 5'7 so I guess that's average frame) and if indeed a guy is into thin, skinny women he can go find someone else. I'm happy with my weight and will not exercise unless I really need to.
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 It's a fact. Asians have different standards for being overweight. I'm running around Asian now for some time, a lot of USA size 0 - 2 here, and a LOT that would be smaller than 0, which is cute for them and sad for America.
JesseJames Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 If you are truly not his type then forgot about him. I'm sure there are plenty of guys that will want to get to know you. I wouldn't lost pounds for a man. I'm 140 lbs (but 5'7 so I guess that's average frame) and if indeed a guy is into thin, skinny women he can go find someone else. I'm happy with my weight and will not exercise unless I really need to. I rest my case.
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 i am feeling the same way. I know what it's like to not get a response from someone. ); ...........
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 It's a fact. Asians have different standards for being overweight. Chubby girls here are just fat in Asia. Fat girls here? I guess you can imagine. I think average girls wear between 4~6. If she is short but wears 8 or even 6, I think she must have extra fats that will turn me off. IMO I think you were not just his type. I don't think losing weight will change that. If you want to feel better about yourself, then you should lose weight in a healthy manner. Thank you for your opinion
Imported Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Do you think he owes you something because you had a crush on him for 3.5 years? If you were a dude, that would be creepy. How does a guy reject a girl when he knows the girl is in to him and wasting her time on him because he has no interest, but the girl never actually approaches him? You can't just tell her that you know that she likes you, but the feelings not mutual. That would leave you open to look stupid when she denies denies denies. You ignore her and you don't lead her on. 2
mesmerized Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Who cares? Some guys like skinny some like curvy... Be who you are, you will attract a man that is into you. Also, a 3.5 years crush??? You need to grow up. 2
gotye Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I hope that's the reason.. I still go to the karaoke bar and its awkward when I see him.. i feel embarassed well if you ever have a convo face to face, make a joke out of it dude, it happens, I have tried contacting ppl on fb to be ignored and I ran into em like; DUDE YOU REJECTED ME. And laughed and ofcourse added, it's not big deal, it's just fb
samsungxoxo Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Also, a 3.5 years crush??? You need to grow up.I agree. Unless the OP is still in junior or senior high school, no mature adult would keep thinking/obesessing about a crush.
truth_seeker Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 How does a guy reject a girl when he knows the girl is in to him and wasting her time on him because he has no interest, but the girl never actually approaches him? You can't just tell her that you know that she likes you, but the feelings not mutual. That would leave you open to look stupid when she denies denies denies. You ignore her and you don't lead her on. A couple of ways. When he has a conversation with her he can mention casually how he is interested in another girl. Also, he can tell her he's seeing someone else, even if he isn't. 1
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Do you think he owes you something because you had a crush on him for 3.5 years? If you were a dude, that would be creepy. How does a guy reject a girl when he knows the girl is in to him and wasting her time on him because he has no interest, but the girl never actually approaches him? You can't just tell her that you know that she likes you, but the feelings not mutual. That would leave you open to look stupid when she denies denies denies. You ignore her and you don't lead her on. I dont think he owes me anything. i doubt he knows that i like him, im way too shy to talk to him in person. i talked to his coworkers and they all liked me. We even exchanged contact info to keep in touch. even if im not interested in a person, i would talk to them if they approach me through anyway, i wont be leading him on cos i will keep our friendship status clear. i never thought of having a relationship with him, a part of me tells me im not his type which is okay. im just bothered by him being unresponsive it was kinda rude, maybe ur right he doesnt owe me anything.. but it doesnt hurt to be polite does it?
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 Who cares? Some guys like skinny some like curvy... Be who you are, you will attract a man that is into you. Also, a 3.5 years crush??? You need to grow up. GROW UP?? how long should crushes be? A few hours? of course i wasnt single for years, But i've always liked him and the fact that i always see him makes it worse. If this topic is bothering you.. then dont get involved.. no hard feelings
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 well if you ever have a convo face to face, make a joke out of it dude, it happens, I have tried contacting ppl on fb to be ignored and I ran into em like; DUDE YOU REJECTED ME. And laughed and ofcourse added, it's not big deal, it's just fb I will try that next time!
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 I agree. Unless the OP is still in junior or senior high school, no mature adult would keep thinking/obesessing about a crush. I dont think about him day and night. just when i see him. he definitely crosses my mind at times but definitely not a day and night thing. sorry you both got it wrong
jobaba Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hi everyone.This is my first time posting! About the guy.. I met this guy at a local karaoke bar, he works there and I am a regular customer. He's very tall, cute, lean with a some muscle, and athletic (which I later found out he plays lots of basketball from a frd..) He's very Asian which means he likes petite, tiny, and skinny girls.. all of his past gfs have been skinny girls.. I'm a more curvy and thick girl... Whenever I'm around the karaoke bar I'm always smiling and happy (not with him, but with his coworkers (female and males) which happens to be my frds) I'm pretty sure he recognizes me, he even knows my name. A few weeks ago, I sent him a msg on facebook.. I said hi and hey dont you work at that so and so karaoke bar? but he never replied... i was kinda sad for a few days.. I told one of my trusted friend at the karaoke bar about it.. and she said "I think he only likes skinny girls.. and you're... well not his type.." I felt worse So goodbye to the 3.5 years.. throwing it all out the window..=[ After that incident I become very insecure about my weight.. I tend to fall for guys that prefer skinny girls.. Do Asian guys dislike meaty girls? Any honest opinions will be highly appreciated.. Recent pics http://i39.tinypic.com/27yanww.jpg http://i42.tinypic.com/vs1ev4.jpg First of all, you are jumping to conclusions about the Facebook non-response. Sometimes messages get lost in the melee. I sent one of my Facebook friends a message about a job and it took her 6 months to get back to me! Secondly, I'm an Asian guy and your body is fine to me. Thirdly, if you're going to live by the looks sword, you have to die by it too. Meaning ... if you like somebody only because of their looks, then be prepared to be judged based on your looks alone. Makes sense, doesn't it?
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 First of all, you are jumping to conclusions about the Facebook non-response. Sometimes messages get lost in the melee. I sent one of my Facebook friends a message about a job and it took her 6 months to get back to me! Secondly, I'm an Asian guy and your body is fine to me. Thirdly, if you're going to live by the looks sword, you have to die by it too. Meaning ... if you like somebody only because of their looks, then be prepared to be judged based on your looks alone. And no complaining if you get rejected. Makes sense, doesn't it? Now we're talking.
TheFinalWord Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Hi everyone.This is my first time posting! About the guy.. I met this guy at a local karaoke bar, he works there and I am a regular customer. He's very tall, cute, lean with a some muscle, and athletic (which I later found out he plays lots of basketball from a frd..) He's very Asian which means he likes petite, tiny, and skinny girls.. all of his past gfs have been skinny girls.. I'm a more curvy and thick girl... Whenever I'm around the karaoke bar I'm always smiling and happy (not with him, but with his coworkers (female and males) which happens to be my frds) I'm pretty sure he recognizes me, he even knows my name. A few weeks ago, I sent him a msg on facebook.. I said hi and hey dont you work at that so and so karaoke bar? but he never replied... i was kinda sad for a few days.. I told one of my trusted friend at the karaoke bar about it.. and she said "I think he only likes skinny girls.. and you're... well not his type.." I felt worse So goodbye to the 3.5 years.. throwing it all out the window..=[ After that incident I become very insecure about my weight.. I tend to fall for guys that prefer skinny girls.. Do Asian guys dislike meaty girls? Any honest opinions will be highly appreciated.. Recent pics http://i39.tinypic.com/27yanww.jpg http://i42.tinypic.com/vs1ev4.jpg In general, bar guys/girls are hit on non-stop. He probably has a guard up. I wouldn't even bother with a bar tender unless you like constant jealousy and girls hitting on him. Also, you're not overweight. With Facebook, he may want to separate work from pleasure. Also, maybe he didn't see it? Too many things can happen with facebook to jump to conclusions that he's a jerk for not responding.
yongyong Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 to be honest, I didn't want to mention size 0~2 because a lot of women here will get hurt. yeah the girl I dated, I used to tease her as 'chubby'. she was wearing size 0~2. I don't judge women by their clothing size though because tall girls and athletic girls wear bigger sizes. I'm running around Asian now for some time, a lot of USA size 0 - 2 here, and a LOT that would be smaller than 0, which is cute for them and sad for America.
123321 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I don't judge women by their clothing size though because tall girls and athletic girls wear bigger sizes. I don't judge negatively either, however there is no denying that size 0 is a cute size on most women Asians are typically small framed which is another issue the OP has going on, if she was a burly athletic German gal it would somehow look a lot more normal on her, but while she looks OK now, she also looks like, as the movie said, she's pushing max density.
truth_seeker Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Too shy to talk to a guy in person? You can like a guy so much that you're afraid to ever say a word to him? He has that much of an affect on you?
Author kaywii Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 I don't judge negatively either, however there is no denying that size 0 is a cute size on most women Asians are typically small framed which is another issue the OP has going on, if she was a burly athletic German gal it would somehow look a lot more normal on her, but while she looks OK now, she also looks like, as the movie said, she's pushing max density. Is that an insult?
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