RonChalant Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I feel really bad about it... I've been thinking lately "hmmm, maybe I should tell her I love her"...mistaking feelings that I have for her (I do really like her). We were having sex and I just got really caught in the moment and mistook the tingling sensation shooting through my body for love...and mid stride said "I think I love you". She said she's been feeling the same way...for the first 24 hours it was all good...past 48 I've realized I don't love her. She's starting to scare me, making plans for the future, talking about getting married, having kids, moving out of state. While she talks about all this I just sit back and listen, in my own little world. She called me out on this and I was just like ummmm..I'm just listening to you. Secretly I'm sitting back saying to myself WHAT THE **** HAVE I DONE!? She's a really good girl, I like her a lot, she's almost perfect...ALMOST...but I don't love her. She's making all these plans and im just like WTF...we've only been together just under 2 months..."talked" for a month, so 3 months knowing each other. Again I feel really but because she seems to like/love me WAY more than I her, though I do like her a lot. So what do I do, do I sit back and wait for the feelings of deeper connection to come while still telling her I love her, do I tell her I don't love her?
mesmerized Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 don't tell her you don't love her...just tell her that it's way too soon to plan for future like that.
Author RonChalant Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 I did that, her response was that either way you should plan for things to work out for the best. She's admitted to me before that she kinda has a complex due to her mother never being married, she wants to have a family and get married so she can have what she never had growing up, mind you she's 22 years old and talks about getting engaged after a year of dating! This makes me nervous
Feelsgoodman Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Just wait until she gets pregnant "by accident"
mesmerized Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I did that, her response was that either way you should plan for things to work out for the best. She's admitted to me before that she kinda has a complex due to her mother never being married, she wants to have a family and get married so she can have what she never had growing up, mind you she's 22 years old and talks about getting engaged after a year of dating! This makes me nervous This is bad news...How old are you?
Author RonChalant Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 This is bad news...How old are you? I'm 24 PLEASE don't say that, I've already had the thought process that she might "accidentally" get pregnant.
joystickd Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 That pu**y had control of your mind lol. Its ok. Just tell her to slow things down some. 1
M2155 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Gee most girl-magazine advice says don't take it literally if he says it in the moment:laugh: Sorry ok...You just have to be honest and say you were caught up in the moment and you don't want her to get too far ahead of you. Problem is women do this, we get ahead so I encourage you to reinforce that last part. Even when you tell us, it is hard to dial it back and we hear what we want to hear in these situations when we already have in mind what we want. This is just something I think a lot of us learn with experience.
Leigh 87 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 My boyfriend had a false start with me! He was very drunk, and said he loved me.. I was like what? I agreed that I loved him......... .... In the morning I asked about it, and he said... do u love me still? Is aid yes, it sounded like he wanted reassurance? We did not say it again after that I think - and we had an argument a few weeksl ater, in which he said " It's not like I am in love with u". Then, a month or so later, we truly meant it, once we had built a closer relationship. When I asked him about this later, he said that he must have been on the verge of loving me, but not quiet there yet, or certain enough to say it, as he had never said it to any other girl before.
Ruby Slippers Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 That pu**y had control of your mind lol. Its ok. Just tell her to slow things down some. Last year, I got a very amusing confirmation of how the bonding process works for men, right after having great sex with a guy in his mid-20s. He said, "I think I'm falling in love with you... I started feeling it while we were having sex." 1
snug.bunny Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 So what do I do, do I sit back and wait for the feelings of deeper connection to come while still telling her I love her, do I tell her I don't love her? Well, you could always try slapping yourself across the face with a raw salami.
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