phone66 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 WE had a joint CC and since she screwed me out of the house we bought and my future I told her she can deal with the CC. Got a call Friday from the bank asking /confirming the closing of the account, she paid it off and closed it. She sends me a txt msg friday at 8pm saying thank you for confirming the closing of the cc. I didn't bother to reply. Working from home today listening to radio and a song came one that got to me so I flippin texted her back and said "your welcome". Within 3 mins she txts me and says"how are you" . I am not going to reply to it. I just can't believe how a simple how are you text message gets to me so much. Man after 5 months and she is still in my head, I just want this nightmare to end. It's not as bad as it used to be at all but i msg from her and it just messes me up. Complete B.S. I am sorry to everyone on LS for having to deal with the bad end of Love and breaking up, it sucks so bad.
AdamEE Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I am experiencing something very similar right now. Worst part is that now I can't concentrate on anything. All the bad feelings are coming back and it's so confusing. We have to imagine ourselves from outside of the situation and try to make a decision from a neutral standpoint, I think. Although, tbh I can't follow my own advice. That would mean telling her to **** off and leave me alone, which I can't seem to say...yet.
ScienceGal Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 It's good that you feel some progress, but also understandable that you still have emotions tied up. She screwed you over, that's not something you'll get over easily. Not to mention the romantic feelings associated. I'm 10 months out and I still get upset once in a while. The weight of how cruel and selfish someone can be is unbearable at times. That's why you need to maintain no contact. Having the short text session with her only opened wounds and got you upset. And if you continue to have contact you will only slow your healing. Don't do that yourself. Keep moving forward. Good luck.
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 WE had a joint CC and since she screwed me out of the house we bought and my future I told her she can deal with the CC. Got a call Friday from the bank asking /confirming the closing of the account, she paid it off and closed it. She sends me a txt msg friday at 8pm saying thank you for confirming the closing of the cc. I didn't bother to reply. Working from home today listening to radio and a song came one that got to me so I flippin texted her back and said "your welcome". Within 3 mins she txts me and says"how are you" . I am not going to reply to it. I just can't believe how a simple how are you text message gets to me so much. Man after 5 months and she is still in my head, I just want this nightmare to end. It's not as bad as it used to be at all but i msg from her and it just messes me up. Complete B.S. I am sorry to everyone on LS for having to deal with the bad end of Love and breaking up, it sucks so bad. Totally relate to this. My ex texted me "how are you?:)"--and used a nickname he used to call me (stopped using that name when he was abusing and pulling away from me). Sent me 2 follow ups after that and I ignored all of them. He blocked me out of spite and had the nerve, after dumping me to ask how I am...People that do this are selfish. They want to make sure you miss them so their egos are stroked. it robs you of healing time, especially if you reply. Stay strong. 1
Author phone66 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 It's good that you feel some progress, but also understandable that you still have emotions tied up. She screwed you over, that's not something you'll get over easily. Not to mention the romantic feelings associated. I'm 10 months out and I still get upset once in a while. The weight of how cruel and selfish someone can be is unbearable at times. That's why you need to maintain no contact. Having the short text session with her only opened wounds and got you upset. And if you continue to have contact you will only slow your healing. Don't do that yourself. Keep moving forward. Good luck. Thank you, "the weight of how cruel and selfish someone can be is unbearable at times" that is certainly true. Only a minor setback, im not gonna let it get me in a bad place. 2
Author phone66 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 She doesn't deserve to know how I am doing anyway. She lost that right/priveledge when she did what she did. 4
sweetheart5381 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 She doesn't deserve to know how I am doing anyway. She lost that right/priveledge when she did what she did. Well said.
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