Player17 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Alright well my ex gf and I are both 18 yrs old and we broke up in Nov. after being together for 17 months. She broke up with me, I ignored her once she did and then she was crying to get me back a few hours later. So I kept ignoring her for a few days, and then I finally met up with her. And when I took her on this date which I thought she changed since she had that mental breakdown, she acted more like friends more than a bf/gf thing and she told me she now needs time to think and doesn't know if she's "in love" anymore but still loves me. So as big of a moron I was, I did all the wrong things you could do to get her back by pleading and begging for weeks. But she was telling me, "I do want to get back together and we will, I just need this time", thats why I was so confused. Now, I haven't had any contact with her for almost 3 months but yet she still "likes" a couple recent photos/status of me on facebook. I don't know why she does this but yet doesn't want to talk to me. A friend told me she went out to lunch with her like a month ago and I was mentioned in the convo and she said she does miss me but just wants time to see what she really wants. I have learned that Im not initiating contact with her whatsoever anymore but I do still have feelings for her. And Im not gonna unfriend from fb cause that'd make me look like a little child. I mean Im trying to get over her, but yet she likes my things on fb? It's quite irritating, just trying to ignore it. But my question is what do I do if she does text me? Ignore it? Cause you see, she thinks that Im going to be waiting around for her until she makes up her mind, thats why I believe I HAVE to scare her. Ignoring her texts will give her the feeling that she has "lost" me which is what I want because it was working when I ignored her once she broke up with me. I should've kept on doing it, but I just gave in :/. Any advice? I do kinda want her back but I don't want to be played like a fool also. What should I do?
Daniel Kaiser Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Hey mate, Quite a tough spot you are in. You haven't explained the most important part: Why you broke up in the first place. You two are VERY young, and still have a lot to grow and mature. I suggest you take your mind off of "getting her back", and focus on yourself and your life, because there's a long way to go before you can have a really deep and meaningful relationship. If it is the case that she comes back and you decide you still wanna get together with her, then do it, but for now, you should definitely assume that relationship as OVER, and focus on evolving for a better relationship in the future
Author Player17 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 We broke up because we started arguing a lot one weekend and she told me she doesnt know if she's "in love" anymore right after. That crap. So it wasn't like I did anything bad in our relationship.
flitzanu Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 you've got your whole life to worry about why girls are acting crazy. she wants space, and she said she isn't in love with you, so take it for what she said. ignore her and move on. be glad this happened now instead of years in the future.
Chi townD Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You HAVE to scare her into thinking that you've moved on? Dude, it's been three months...I don't think she's scared. Now here's the bad part. She gave you the I love you but I'm not in love with you speech. That means there's someone else. I need time to think means, I need time to date this someone else. And blocking her on FB isn't childish. Blocking her from FB is a way to heal without being constantly reminded of her, and guess what! You are!! Besides, you're not together anymore, so who cares what she thinks!!! 1
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