hoperussell Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Okay so here we go! I have been with my boyfriend for just over 2 years now and I have had some problems with obsessive thoughts recently so things haven't been the best for him! Earlier this year I was on a night out with a girl friend of mine and i meet this boy who I was rather attracted tom, we got on really well and we were all having a laugh. I knew I was attracted to him but it didn't bother me because it was all innocent. Me and my friend then decided it was time to leave so I went to the toilets and whilst in there for some reason I thought to myself 'should i cheat on my boyfriend' 'should I just kiss this boy' I shocked myself cause it seemed I actually contemplated doing it. We then all said our good byes and me and my friend got into a taxi home. I was in shock and felt so guilty i told my boyfriend everything and he was okay with things, obviously he was a bit upset. But we had a talk and we realised we had stopped making effort with each other and we had lost our excitement and our spark! Even thought it alls sorted now and our relationship is so much better and i'm very happy I still feel guilty about even contemplating cheating!
neowulf Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Eh, consider yourself fortunate you passed the test. A common misconception is that once you're in a relationship, you some how magically stop being attracted to all other people. This is of course rubbish. Monogamy is a choice. The best thing you can to is minimise the opportunities for temptation to get the better of you.. e.g. Drinking and hitting the clubs without your boyfriend, when you know you get a little flirty and in the mood. Don't be too hard on yourself. All things considered, I think you did pretty well
firehawk_1 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 exactly. you are in a relatonship so why even cheat? what if your bf cheated on you? how would you like that? if you are together then you are in it together, not a fling. there is no excuse for you to think or even do things like this and only give yourself and image a bad reputation as well as women a bad name too. lucky (which rarely happens and shouldnt be dependant upon!) you didnt go ahead and cheat.
Author hoperussell Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Eh, consider yourself fortunate you passed the test. A common misconception is that once you're in a relationship, you some how magically stop being attracted to all other people. This is of course rubbish. Monogamy is a choice. The best thing you can to is minimise the opportunities for temptation to get the better of you.. e.g. Drinking and hitting the clubs without your boyfriend, when you know you get a little flirty and in the mood. Don't be too hard on yourself. All things considered, I think you did pretty well I agree with you, I am so glad I didn't follow through with my urges. It's just I never been in a situation where I have actually contemplated cheating, i felt awful. But since then I have stopped getting myself into situations where this can occur! I try not too be to hard on myself but I find it very difficult to forgive myself and move on!
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I was on a night out with a girl friend of mine and i meet this boy what else would you EXPECT to happen?? I never get why people don't see this coming in the mirror of life
TheSingleGuy Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 See, women have good intentions on "girls night out" but things like this come up. I'm too jealous and insecure to have a girlfriend who wants to go on girls night out. I trust the girl's intentions when she leaves the house. I don't trust the situation.
udolipixie Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You'll likely get an urge to cheat as long as you find other people attractive. It seems most people find others attractive when in a relationship. Many even have sexual thoughts or fantasize about people other than their partners.
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