fogswiggle Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 My ex and I were together for almost 8 years. We loved each other very much, no dishonesty, cheating or abuse. We were long-distance for maybe 3 years out of the 8 and endured it, which I thought made us stronger. After 3 years of me moving to L.A. to be with her and struggling because of the economy, we found ourselves LD again. She dumped me, saying "Sometimes people need time alone to grow," and swears she's not seeing someone else, nor does she want to. She also says that I am her best friend, and she doesn't want to lose me/for me to disappear. I spoke to her, emotionally, a few times after the break-up, and told me that the struggles were "just too much" for her and that she wanted to move on with our lives. I deleted her from FB, which she was fine with. We spoke weeks later, she said that I'm still her best friend, and she said that we could be FB friends again. I then wanted to know more about why we broke-up, and she wouldn't budge. I got pretty emotional, but said nothing hurtful because I DO NOT want to hurt her. She decided to go NC saying "we need to not talk to each other for a while" (which is going on a month now, no breaks), asked me again to move on, then arranged her FB so I can't see her pictures or wall posts or IM her, but didn't unfriend me (maybe so she can still see my posts). I'm confused as to what she really wants. Any advice/thoughts/experiences would help me through this time.
leoc1973 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Same type of breakup here man. 6 years we had ups and downs had long distance here and there and finally after about 6 months she told me right out that I don't make enough money. I am her perfect man but she has all these hopes and dreams to travel the world and all that. I make decent money but not travel the world type money so that is why she ended it. I don't know if that helps you but it almost sounds like the same reason. Your ex got sick of struggling and she is going to see if she can score herself a guy that can take care of her financially. It sucks if thats the case because it made me realize I had my ex all wrong and she wasn't who I thought she was.
Philosoraptor Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Don't worry about what she wants right now. She is single and needs to take care of herrself, as do you do yourself. What is going to make things easiest for you right now? If NC is the answer then cut off facebook and everything else.
Frank13 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 She decided to go NC saying "we need to not talk to each other for a while" (which is going on a month now, no breaks), asked me again to move on, then arranged her FB so I can't see her pictures or wall posts or IM her, but didn't unfriend me (maybe so she can still see my posts). I'm confused as to what she really wants. Any advice/thoughts/experiences would help me through this time. She is seeing another guy but doesn't want you to hate her. You spoke emotional to her a few times which pushed her farther away. Some woman just can't stand the thought that someone hates them so they want to be "friends". You stroked her ego so now she can move on.
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