A odd relationship/breakup

[hate101]

I am 23 she is 30 supposedly, looks older. She has 2 kids and works a lot but gets paid good.

 

We were together 5 months before the break. Or rather hanging out, we kissed and she tried to have sex, wasnt ready. We fooled around a lot tho. She initiated everything, I wanted to be good to her and she is very pretty and so many guys try to get her.

 

She initiated contact, date, and first kiss, ect ect. But through out the relationship she never intiated us to get together or text or calls. We never talked on the phone, or really texted and it was pretty quite and shallow when we were together.

 

She always said she was so lucky to have me, bought her nice things, treated her to everything. Spent money....cause I had it and wanted to.

 

She recently gets a scram bracelet on about 3 months ago, and she was Moody as hell. Then ahe gets the news she has to be on house arrest for 3 to 6 months, then the first fight happens. It was over, what is this, I wanted to ask her before she got arrrsted. She just mocked me and made me feel bad.

 

Then she apologized a couple days later, saying ahe is stress cause she doesnt know how she is going to survive.

 

Then the house arrest starts. I cant see her unless I go to her work. Now she never invited me and that made me feel bad and she didnt make any effort to keep her promises.

 

So we fight over text, I say she used me and goodbye, then I apologized. Then her response was, goodbye, I am done, dont text or ill change my number.

 

I called immidiately hoping to talk to her. No answer, text a couple times. Nothing. Once a week I texted her, trying to get her to talk.

 

Last time I texted It was my birthday, and nothing. So I stoped.

 

Now she hasnt been in a relationahip in Years and neither have i.

 

What do I do. I miss her and I have always loved her, and was really good to her.

 

PS the fight was over her saying ahe doesnt want a relationship and isnt doing one and to not ask. So I got upset cause it seemd she used me at the time.

 

Also I have given her about 20k out of free will, just to help. So hence the term use and I did several other things for her.

 

So do I wait until she is off of house arrest and try to talk to her or just let her contact me, I hate saying goodbye over text.

 

Also she has been in abusive relationsios, was married, husband beat her. She at one point was doing drugs and has no family.

 

I tried to be wat she needed.

 

Again, I want her, but what do I do?

[hate101]

Also, to make sure you understand, she started the relationship idea, I wanted one, but she brought it up, through hints. I was ok with just being friends.

[sweetheart5381]

Holy ****.... get some self-respect!

 

Run to the hills!!! Get away, as far and as fast as you can.

 

You can't fight her battles for her, only she can... but in the meantime she is bringing you down.

 

Take care of you, my friend. She has probs, we all do... but she has made her probs yours somehow.

 

You are number 1. You are the priority, that's why you are on this site, cuz you know that you are important.

 

Take care of you - we are not responsible for others ****ty ass decisions(other than our children) Adults are responsible for themselves.

 

She chooses to be who she is and what she does. Nothing to do with you at all.

[hate101]

To sweetheart....

 

Doubt there will be a response, since there is generally no notification system.

 

I know she was ****ed up, but wasnt going to bail. And she sadly was my first relationship beyond a month.

 

Money is what I have, but I cant trust people sometimes as to if its money or me and that kills relatiobships. I believe money killed this one.

 

Run for the hills, leave this women behind? She has done a lot for me emotionally, helped me to be more trusting.

 

Guess I cant he the hero. But I honestly would like to show her what someone loving her feels like. She hasnt had that. Cant force her.

 

Ita pity I guess and not love.