eternalove15 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 (edited) I'm dating a guy since 3 years. we've been batchmates till 10th grade and then became lovers. I love him a lot and he feels the same for me. however 1 n half year back he told me that he fantasize others girls also except me. this left me in tatters and shattered from within. Even though I know he loves me I'm not able to trust him bout sleeping around with girls as well. Also I feel that since my breasts arent too big , he doesnt enjoys making out with me. So 1 year back I visited on online site where you can chat with strangers and even have video chats. Just for fun I used to chat with people but later on videos guys used to ask me to undress. Due to frustration out of my bf I used to undress and show my boobs to them. And the people used to like them and enjoy watching them. They used to compliment my breasts which made me to show more and more people. But deep within I love my man so much so that I can do anything for him. I'm trying to leave this habbit of mine but every now and then he does or says something which make me go back to the site. I undresss myself but never show my face or disclose my identity. Is this called cheating?? what should I do about it???? Edited April 23, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Remove site name
123321 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Depends on the expectations set in the individual relationship.
Author eternalove15 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Depends on the expectations set in the individual relationship. He trusts me a lot. Actually more than himself. And he can never expect me to do anything of this sort!!!
123321 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 He trusts me a lot. Actually more than himself. And he can never expect me to do anything of this sort!!! One rule of thumb is that if you feel compelled to keep it secret, it's probably cheating.
HHC Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 He trusts me a lot. Actually more than himself. And he can never expect me to do anything of this sort!!! Does he know? Has he said this behaviour is acceptable in a relationship he is in? The fact he doesn't know, and you're keeping it a secret is a pretty good red flag to say it's not okay and it would be considered cheating. Only the two people involved can conclude what is or isn't cheating
CarrieT Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I used to undress and show my boobs to them. And the people used to like them and enjoy watching them. I undresss myself but never show my face or disclose my identity. There will be enough other people commenting on your relationship, but I am here to warn you because you may not realize... When you CAM yourself to strangers, it is entirely possible - and in fact PROBABLE - that you are being recorded and that your naked body will then be uploaded and used on other sites. You may not be showing your face, but I can almost guarantee that now hundreds, if not thousands, of other people have seen you naked. It is a very, VERY foolish thing to do and some day, someone might recognize you. So, ask yourself this. How would you feel - say 20 or 30 years from now - if you found clips of yourself online and you have to explain this to your husband or your children. I repeat: It is a really stupid thing to do.
rickys Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 yeah...its cheating.... There are several other ways to get over your frustration...
Disenchantedly Yours Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You're keeping something from him. Something you sound pretty sure he wouldn't like. It's cheating. How would you feel if he was talking to other women showing off their bodies online? You are also seeking validation from strangers. Sure, compliments can feel good no matter who they come from. But if you place too much importance on how other people think of you, you've put yourself on a roller coster. Because the reality is sometimes people will like you and sometimes they won't. What happens when one doesn't like you? Will you crumble? Don't look for outside validation for things you should be working on within yourself. And tell your boyfriend what is going on. I totally get feeling unearthed by finding out that you man is flat out thinking of banging other women. But you need to talk to your feelings with him about all this. If you are having sex with him, then you should be able to talk to him about serious things that are sesitive to you. 1
Leigh 87 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 It is wrong to do something disrespectful to your bf, just because you do not feel attractive enough to him. I am not petite and prefer petite girls - I wish I was petite instead of solid and curvy - however, I would NEVER take it out on my boyfriend!
firehawk_1 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 no it is NOT cheating however he should know better and shouldnt be flirting with anyone else when he is involved with someone, same with women if they are with someone and text/call other guys too
123321 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You're keeping something from him. Something you sound pretty sure he wouldn't like. It's cheating. In a nutshell ^^^^^^
threebyfate Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Yes, any form of sexual interaction with others without the knowledge of your boyfriend is cheating.
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I undresss myself but never show my face or disclose my identity. Is this called cheating?? what should I do about it???? YES! Undressing for strangers is sexually cheating. Would you mind HIM doing it? What should you do? STOP IT
jphcbpa Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 "he does or says something which make me go back to the site" how convenient you get the blame thrower out to justify your behavior.
Author eternalove15 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 guys I'm really confused. I really dont have any idea on what to do at the moment. There are times when I'm really horny and desperate n I need my bf. But he is always busy. I've asked him to give me more of his time for like thousand times. but he never follows or listen what I say because of which I text random people and have sex chat with them. I really wanna come out of this thing but I'm just unable to. I'm so confused pissed off. I want my bf to spend time with me, talk to me on phone frequently and text me as much as possible!!!!!!!!!!!
wwwjd Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 so.... YOU really have no control over yourself at all, and want us, random internet people, to give you the answer to it all? the best way for you to break this is to send me all your money and credit card info......
DjinnAgain Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 One rule of thumb is that if you feel compelled to keep it secret, it's probably cheating. Yes. This. And, the way you stop? You stop. I'm sorry, no matter how difficult it feels, it really is that simple. Stop doing it. If you have trouble, tell him what you have been doing. That will probably stop it then.
yongyong Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 (edited) It's not flirting. Edited April 28, 2012 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
SilverBlueAndGold Posted April 27, 2012 Posted April 27, 2012 One rule of thumb is that if you feel compelled to keep it secret, it's probably cheating. This is the correct answer.
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