SJC2008 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 face to face is it better to ask for the number I like the second better but have a feeling it may be over the top so I usually ask for the number. Also would solid eye contact while doing so be good or is it too much like putting them on the spot?? Sorry if the question seems like I'm thinking too much but I want to come accross as confident but not intimidating if that makes sense.
Feelin Frisky Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You wording is a tad confusing. But if I understand correctly, I have (successfully) made it point to make the phone number less conspicuous by simply asking a women "may I call you?" or "can I call you?". The number is then coincidental to the real objective. Getting the number is not the objective and to me sounds mechanical and classless.
Author SJC2008 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Crap! I left out the second part when editing my post lol sorry. Ladies when a man asks you out in person does it matter if he just asks for your number or is it better to ask you out right then? I'd rather ask her out then to make the interest known but don't want to come on too strong.
sal110104 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 So are you asking if girls would rather be asked out right away or ask for their number and call her 2 days later to ask her out? If you are feeling the chemistry right then - then go ahead and ask her - but have a specific plan like "do you want to get coffee this week" I mean if a guy asks for my number - I'm pretty confident he will be calling to ask me out so why wait?
Author SJC2008 Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 So are you asking if girls would rather be asked out right away or ask for their number and call her 2 days later to ask her out? If you are feeling the chemistry right then - then go ahead and ask her - but have a specific plan like "do you want to get coffee this week" I mean if a guy asks for my number - I'm pretty confident he will be calling to ask me out so why wait? Yes that's what I meant. I asked one girl like this at the end of a convo: "I tell you what, why don't we get together sometime?" She said yes. I think it's better at my age (30) instead of "Can I get your number". What about eye contact when doing so? I know it shows confidence but I don't want to stare them down and wierd them out.
sal110104 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 There is a healthy balance between eye contact and staring them down. Make eye contact when asking her out but dont stare her down. Just do it like you are having a normal conversation. Not enough eye contact can come across as too shy not enough confidence. I think like male or female we like someone who is confident. Even if we dont feel it all the time - try not to let it show
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