riggs Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Fortunately, I'm not attuned to the Facebook phenomenon. I do have a question, though. Is it considered standard procedure to contact someone you don't know via Facebook?
OhHey Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Run....run from it.....RUN!!!! Is it a girl? gee chances are she'll scream "FB STALKER" in your face. RUN!!
Author riggs Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Run....run from it.....RUN!!!! Is it a girl? gee chances are she'll scream "FB STALKER" in your face. RUN!! Oh no, I'm not going to contact anyone. I prefer the old fashioned way, either in person or on the phone. Reading the postings I get the idea a lot people, guys in particular, try to make an initial connection with Facebook. I have zero intention of doing it.
firehawk_1 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 its just more convenient and another way to NOT meet someone... but only in virtual land of "what could be" rather than "it can be"
OhHey Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Why are you asking? Just curious? Personally I wouldn't contact people I don't know by FB... People are so...@^@^^@! that if yo udid that, they'd think "OMG he's researching me online, I'm scared" Kudos man....for doing it the old fashioned REAL way.
OhHey Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 its just more convenient and another way to NOT meet someone... but only in virtual land of "what could be" rather than "it can be" Word..................
oaks Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Is it considered standard procedure to contact someone you don't know via Facebook? No. I don't think that it's "not standard procedure" either, since clearly many people do it. Given your subsequent post in which you say you're not going to do this anyway, where's the Dating angle?
ASG Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I've gotten a fair amount of friend requests from people I dont know. I've rejected them all and changed my privacy settings so that only friends of friends can even find me. I still get the odd request from someone who is friends with people I know, but that I don't. I don't add. Ever. I use FB to keep in touch with friends and family. Not to make new friends. I do that in real life.
Author riggs Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Just curious. Seems way too many people tip toe around stuff via Facebook. It's a waste of time.
OhHey Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Just curious. Seems way too many people tip toe around stuff via Facebook. It's a waste of time. exactly....while Zuckenberger pulls billions out his ass, terribly overrated.
truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Fortunately, I'm not attuned to the Facebook phenomenon. I do have a question, though. Is it considered standard procedure to contact someone you don't know via Facebook? I learned the hard way that you're not supposed contact someone you don't know via Facebook. Standard protocol from what I gather is meet in person first, then agree to Facebook each other.
PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Fortunately, I'm not attuned to the Facebook phenomenon. I do have a question, though. Is it considered standard procedure to contact someone you don't know via Facebook? YES, a girl on my cousin's friend's list sent me a friend request and I didn't know her at all. So yes it does happen
M2155 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Everyone is different, I get requests all the time from people I don't know. I usually don't accept them but I have friends who will accept any with mutual friends. That said, I have friended people I wanted to know or to "screen them" first if you will. I have dated 3 guys from FB Over the years (at least you see the kind of associations they have right?) but it's not something I went looking for. For me it's the virtual equivalent of seeing someone out and about that looked interesting and said hello, but not a standard practice for me. Fortunately I have better things to do than browse FB profiles all day
NateC Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I'm curious if asking to be friends on facebook to someone you only know through emails/messages on sites is appropriate...
PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I'm curious if asking to be friends on facebook to someone you only know through emails/messages on sites is appropriate... No because you don't know them
TheFinalWord Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I actually know someone that contacted a girl on FB he didn't know...guess what, they've been married 5 years You better have something going for you though. He's good looking and $$$
PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I actually know someone that contacted a girl on FB he didn't know...guess what, they've been married 5 years You better have something going for you though. He's good looking and $$$ I contacted a woman on facebook that I was very attracted to who was a friend of one of my friends and she told me she has been married for 7 years. that was the only time I did that
setsenia Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Facebook isn't really for contacting people you don't know. It's more to keep in touch with friends and family and to get to know each other better. Sometimes I get requests from friends of friends, but that's about it.
M2155 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I had a guy who was interested in me because he saw me on a mutual friends page. He asked through her so it was fine for me. I have reached out once or twice to people I did not know, I don't think it's wrong/inappropriate as long as you send why you are making the request and back off if they decline or ignore. I emailed a guy and just told him he had a great smile and we ended up chatting and now we are acquaintances. On the flipside, 95% of the time I ignore them but I'm not offended at all. For career networking, we contact people we don't know all the time with the hope of personal gain. I just say if you contact someone, send a note with your request.
Emilia Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 For career networking, we contact people we don't know all the time with the hope of personal gain. That's different. Work involves a different set of boundaries. I don't like receiving anything from people I don't know and I don't contact anyone I don't know. Partly because I know there is a real danger of fraud, identity theft if the wrong person gets hold of too much personal information of you.
M2155 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I understand and accept that everyone is different and the OP should not be too disappointed if the person does not respond.
dasein Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I get "on the market" type FB requests from unknown women, most are friends of friends. It's funny, once they find someone, they apparently remove single males from their FB friends. In any given year, there are about ten women who friend me, then unfriend me a few months later, without any interaction between us whatsoever . I always wonder what meeting one of these would be like, "O, yeah, I think we were FB friends for a few months last year :lmao:" The best game on FB is a farming game called "people farm," and takes place just in observing the interesting behavior people do with their FB pages and friends.
truth_seeker Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I understand and accept that everyone is different and the OP should not be too disappointed if the person does not respond. Anyone with more than 500 plus friends makes me wonder what they are all about. I have a page to keep in contact primarily with family and some friends that I rarely see in person. The friends who live near me, I call them. 1
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