gotye Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 my male friend who is 22 and very attractive... but he has never had a gf... and I tell him if he thinks a girl is cute he should definitely make himself known he like refuses but wants a relationship... IDGI, if it hasn't worked, try someone new
gaius Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Leave him alone, if he really wanted a woman he would figure out how to get one. 1
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 He needs to SEL : Smile Eye contact Listen I just made that up, but I kinda like it.
phineas Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 He's probably gay. No, serious worked with a guy like this. Female co-workers were ALL OVER HIM ever happy hour. All he had to do was literally tap it. 10yrs later he's with a guy. True story.
verhrzn Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Why the heck are guys so stuck on insisting women approach them?? And then when women DO approach them, they get all offended (cause they're ugly) or turn uninterested (cause the woman is too aggressive.) Makes no sense to me...
somedude81 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Any man who waits for women to approach him is a fool, unless he is very good looking or has some sort of reputation.
insertnamehere Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 He's probably gay. Gay? I wish! (Simpsons joke, anyone?) Any man who waits for women to approach him is a fool, unless he is very good looking or has some sort of reputation. The problem with women who do approach is they're pretty much all violating the two-point rule. I agree that at some point guys who are constantly wishing for the magical world where hot chicks approach them need to suck it up and face facts. If a woman has cause to believe she's attractive, she will not approach. I get approached fairly often. My shortcoming is I kinda get off on women tying themselves in knots over me. One thing I've learned is that if a woman rates herself very highly, it doesn't matter how into you she is, she will not approach you directly. She could be 100% convinced you're the guy who is going to change her life, but if it comes down to losing that perfect guy or sacrificing her ego, every hot chick I've ever known is going to opt for her ego over the idea of approaching the perfect guy. If a chick is within the two-point rule, it's hopeless to expect her to directly approach you. It will not happen. Ever. If a woman is making a direct approach, she is doing it as a gambit. She's trying to use aggression to overcome the two-point rule. In boxing terms, she's trying to punch above her weight. Your options are: 1. Accept a chick three points (or more) lower than you. If you go this route, practice saying things like "There ain't no such thing as a beautiful woman who's got ugly in her heart." You can toss a "LOL" and an emoticon in there to signify how feminized you've become. That helps. 2. Go gay. 3. So? Have you heard about our cult? 4. Cults not for you? Have you thought about the priesthood? 5. Man up. 1
FrustratedStandards Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Why the heck are guys so stuck on insisting women approach them?? And then when women DO approach them, they get all offended (cause they're ugly) or turn uninterested (cause the woman is too aggressive.) Makes no sense to me... Thank you!
FrustratedStandards Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Any man who waits for women to approach him is a fool, unless he is very good looking or has some sort of reputation. Even a good looking man with a reputation isn't sexy enough to approach if he doesn't live up to his role as a man (approaching women).
yongyong Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Do you look stunning? do you have some fame? Is there a reason girls have to come over to say 'hi' to you? Do you know how many good looking & tall guys stand by the corner with a beer bottle in their hands, just observing girls?
USMCHokie Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 One thing I've learned is that if a woman rates herself very highly, it doesn't matter how into you she is, she will not approach you directly. She could be 100% convinced you're the guy who is going to change her life, but if it comes down to losing that perfect guy or sacrificing her ego, every hot chick I've ever known is going to opt for her ego over the idea of approaching the perfect guy. This reflects a bit of a personality flaw...
lospantalonsfancie Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Even a good looking man with a reputation isn't sexy enough to approach if he doesn't live up to his role as a man (approaching women). And can he expect you would live up to your role as a woman by having a sandwich ready for him when he does approach? No? That's funny, because it sounded like you were really into traditional gender roles. Only when it suites you though, right? In all seriousness, your attitude is very sexist. Men and women are the same on the inside, and deserve equal consideration, treatment, and expectations. You don't want the sole burden of approaching, and neither do many (if not most) men. Stop with this sexist sense of entitlement. 1
lospantalonsfancie Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 (edited) Why the heck are guys so stuck on insisting women approach them?? And then when women DO approach them, they get all offended (cause they're ugly) or turn uninterested (cause the woman is too aggressive.) Makes no sense to me... It makes perfect sense. Allow me to explain how: when what you describe happens (the guy gets offended or acts unintersted), that means he is not attracted to you. This is not much different than the reaction a man faces when he approaches a girl who does not find him attractive, only in this case a girl --- you --- is on the receiving end of the rejection. Had you been attractive to him, he would have jumped right on that opportunity. What you are complaining about has nothing to do with guys being unreceptive to being approached. You are merely facing rejection on an approach, something many men experience 9 out of 10 times they approach a girl. The only reason you are complaining about it, rather than accepting it as part of life like most men do, is because you have been conditioned by society to think that, being a woman, you should not have to face this. Therefore, even though I sympathize with you, I imagine that most men on here who face this rejection regularly will not sympathize with you. Edited April 23, 2012 by lospantalonsfancie
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