reallyhotguy Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I take off my shirt. low-hanging-fruit.jpg 2
iris219 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You'd be surprised. The truly hottest girls I met and knew were single because NOBODY would hit on them. And the ones who were taken were dating some guys who would normally be considered undesirable, some weren't even attractive. It was because they somehow were the ONLY ones who hit on them. This is an experience that is more common than you would think where I live. I was guilty of it too, I never hit on the hot girls I liked, even though I knew nobody else was. Brings to mind the mistakes I made with the girl I liked ..... I'm going to pretend this is what my problem with dating is.
OhHey Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 If you're a woman, be attractive. The end. If you're a guy, be forward and confident. BS....you think a guy can get away with being less than great in looks, because if he's confident and forward it doesn't matter? You don't know what it's like to be an undesirable guy. It sucks just as bad as your deal, lady.
ASG Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I get hit on quite a bit, but always in a "uhh hot! sex now?" kinda way. Doesn't bother me, but it also doesn't lead to a lot of serious dating prospects. As for flirting... I'm a natural born flirter. I flirt even when I don't intend to. Or rather, even when I'm not trying to flirt with the person. It's just that I'm so good at it, sometimes I use it as a defense mechanism, for whatever reason. The tricks are always the same.. light physical contact (if appropriate), laughing, eye contact, being complimentary... Sometimes some innuendo helps as well.
reallyhotguy Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Flirting is social. What is appropriate is influenced by many factors, especially your gender. Flirting is sensual. Sensual, sensualitatem, "capacity for sensation", from sensualis, "sensitive and endowed with feeling". Flirting is a delight of the senses, which stimulates the imagination. This is why flirts make jokes: jokes tickle; touch tickles. Flirts say to make eye contact because eye contact creates a sexual reverb. Voice is an instrument, words have a cadence. The whole body is recruited: men tend to puff, stretch, and fill space when flirting; women crouch, women lean in. Men face their prey head on; women look from their sides, sometimes over their shoulder. Flirting is honest. The flirt calls upon knowledge of both self and society, courageously and carefully revealing both with subtlety and grace. Flirting is collaborative. Two people perform for and with each other. They are guided by what pleases them, both sensually and socially. If in doing so they please each other, the performance is vibrant. If not, it's discordant. 2
OhHey Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I think I would actually be good at it if I got the nerve to go out.
verhrzn Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 BS....you think a guy can get away with being less than great in looks, because if he's confident and forward it doesn't matter? You don't know what it's like to be an undesirable guy. It sucks just as bad as your deal, lady. Sorry, so not true. I had a neighbor once that I called Fat Obnoxious Guy, for obvious reasons. And yet he got the HOTTEST girls. Why? Because he was such a straight forward jerk. (And we confirmed he actually got with them, it was not a friend-zone situation, as he shared his porn folder publicly on the house network. *Shutters*) I have seen some truly unattractive guys get women through confidence and sense of humor. Why do you think class clowns are so popular? Being able to make a woman laugh immediately makes you more attractive in her eyes. Guaranteed other female posters will back me up on this. More importantly, being a confident, funny ugly guy may not get you laid every night of the week, but once you actually hook a hottie, you HAVE her. Ugly women have the deep misfortune of always ending up in the "pump and dump" category. But if you, as an ugly guy, can get a woman into bed (with humor, confidence, bravado, money, etc.) BOOM, done deal. These are the times I so want to stage an demonstration. What say you, LS posters. Who has it tougher-ugly women, or ugly men?
Jane2011 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I don't like flirting with people "for fun" who I'm only minimally attracted to. I only flirt with people who I actually want to get down and dirty with and think it might happen. I usually do the following: 1) Make intense eye contact where I don't blink very much. 2) Try to touch the guy in some way. i.e. i'll pretend I'm interested in his watch, and sort of lift his arm/hand so that I can get a look at it. Really I'm just trying to make our skin touch. 3) Stand or sit really close to him. Invade his space. 1
Imported Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I smile and hold eye contact. Check out their body and look them in the eye. I ask simple questions pertaining to them that are easy to answer, holding eye contact and smile in acknowledgement. But honestly, I am a pretty good looking guy and just about everything works for me. Early on.
Jane2011 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 And oh yeah, the compliments thing is good too. But I think it's best when it's a sexually suggestive compliment rather than "that's a nice shirt." My flirting is usually very sexually suggestive, because as I said, I flirt only when I really want the guy, not just for fun. (Also, I think my mind is currently very lascivious because I haven't had sex in four months.) 1
Author threebyfate Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Also observed is that there are two types of flirting: Flirting with intent is where two people are attracted and have interest in getting together.Flirting without intent is where people are being friendly.
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 When I try to flirt, I am horrible at it. Way too blunt, like "sooo are you gonna take my number?" - it usually works though . My male friends tell me that I am a big flirt and I feel suprised by that (to my knowledge I have never flirted with them) - but then most guys think that talking and smiling is flirting. When I want to flirt but can't be blunt because it is in some way inappropriate (like when I had a crush on my boss) - I do "seductive" flirting. I would dress in a specific way. Lean over a little bit, whisper something in his ear, cross my legs so that my skirt pulls up just right, a brief touch, a look, a semi-smile. 1
tigressA Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I am more sexually suggestive through text or over the phone than in person, unless I am absolutely certain that the guy I'm face-to-face with is interested. I am pretty heavy on the innuendo when flirting; I tease, laugh and smile a lot. If a guy is really hot I somehow think almost everything he says is funny. I try to do more eye contact but I usually end up looking away a lot if I think the guy is really, really attractive (like my office crush ) because I am paranoid about blushing after awhile. I should allow myself to blush though, I think.
USMCHokie Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 When I actually have to keep my shirt on (), my "flirting" usually consists of innocent non-flirting which ideally would translate into some sort of boyish charm...and one of two things usually results: (1) They comment on how "cute" I am, admit that they are extremely comfortable talking to me and feel like they've known me forever, and offer me their number. OR (2) They ask if I'm gay. It's hit or miss... 1
runner Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 be good at conversation. be a good listener and come back with sharp, witty and humourous remarks. ask interesting questions. of course you could do this with just about everyone (and you probably should, anyway). but include that special 'intent' and you're golden.
SmileFace Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 (edited) I see forward as approaching first. What did you mean as "forward"? The same as confident, bold. I don't know I am none of these things.Which is the same thing really. Edited April 23, 2012 by SmileFace
Imported Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 What say you, LS posters. Who has it tougher-ugly women, or ugly men? You are just drowing in negativity and excuses. Your looks might not attract some guys, but I get the feeling that your negative personality drives away any guy that would have been attracted to you.
Author threebyfate Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Umm...flirtation everyone? Don't make this another verhrzyn negativity thread, okay?
Feelin Frisky Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Most obvious flirtation I can remember is seeing a cute blond--a bit of a shy looker who was shopping at a produce market with her mother. I brashly said to her: "nice day for fruits and vegetables don't you think?" She seemed a tad embarrassed but her mother beamed and thought it was cute. Perhaps f mom wasn't there she may have thought a bit about it and availed herself a bit to m socially. Who knows, should could have been my wife. Wonderful world we live in. But sometimes just one variable nixes a deal.
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Look at their lips. Oh man, don't do that! My brain would seize up mid sentence, and I'll be kissing your lips gently before I have time to think clearly about any repercussions! Her looking at my lips just screams, "WANT!" in her eyes. Happy to donate for the cause. 1
Kamille Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Oh man, don't do that! My brain would seize up mid sentence, and I'll be kissing your lips gently before I have time to think clearly about any repercussions! Her looking at my lips just screams, "WANT!" in her eyes. Happy to donate for the cause. It definitely signals desire to kiss. Use with care.
ThaWholigan Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 It definitely signals desire to kiss. Use with care. One of my friends taught me the triangle. I've yet to use it, but I've seen it work . Where you look simultaneously at each eye as well as the lips, as in a triangle.
wwwjd Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 yeah, that's not right! I'm off to the cold showers now...
Kamille Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 yeah, that's not right! I'm off to the cold showers now... Good thing no one said anything about the daring ´sensually brush his tigh´(while doing the triangle).
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