Wants To Go Slow

[cerebra876324]

I recently posted in another thread about a girl that I have been seeing. Se hasn't been in a relationship for a very long time and is afraid because a lot of men have left her and hurt her. This includes her dad dying when she was 11. I know she does like me, but wants to take things very slowly. I respect this, but she has led me On a bit by being ok with holding hands, kissing, and wanting to call me her bf, etc. I am willing to be patient and wait for her, and I think she is really special. Oh, and she is 30 and still lives with her mom at home. How slow should I go? And, I have to initiate all dates, etc. Sge doesn't communicate with me very well by returning texts, etc. should I I ly ask to spend time with her once per week? She doesn't like talking on the phone so that isn't an option. I don't want to smother her, but I'm 31 and if this relationship isn't going to move forward at all, I need to move on. Any advice??

[darkmoon]

go slow means no sex for a couple of months mostly, no mom wants thier daughter to get hurt, be ok with her mom

[january2011]

From what I remember from your other thread, we concluded that she wasn't interested due to her not prioritising a relationship over her other activities and her reduced frequency of communication - down to almost zero.

 

What has changed since then? Has she responded to any of your messages yet?

 

I'm sorry, I think you're flogging a dead horse by continuing to pursue this girl.

[cerebra876324]

Yes, she replied to my email and said that she is really afrai to trust guys and that she wants to go slowly. I do respect that. However, I do need to spend some time with her for it to be a relationship, right?

[january2011]

However, I do need to spend some time with her for it to be a relationship, right?

 

Exactly.

 

And if she doesn't prioritise spending time with you over her other activities. Where does that leave you?