Casablanca Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Okay, my girl and I had a talk last night and she told me how she wasnt a big fan of me having so many female friends. I wouldnt say I have that many, well at least not including the ones who are with my friends...but two of my better friends are two single females. Last weekend my Gal and I went to Chicago and met up with one of said friends....my gf thinks my friend has a crush on me by the way she acted, I dont see it, but who knows, I'm not the best of picking up on subtle hints. She things my other friend is even prettier than the first, though can see that she isnt my type. My gf trusts me, and I'm not going to get rid of my friends, but is there any way that I can ease her discomfort with me having a few female friends?
darkmoon Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 your girlfriend needs reminding of why you chose her, some say regular bouquets help too, one man i knew said she should put up with it when we were dscussing this but your girlfriend needs reassurance you are asking the impossible otherwise, putting her on a tightrope of performance anxiety cuz insecurity i know well and it hurts to worry
Star Gazer Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 It doesn't sound to me like she has a problem with you having female friends in the abstract, but female friends who appear to like you romantically or may otherwise be an actual threat to her. Like DM said, I think she just needs some reassurance about why, of all the girls out there, friends or otherwise, you have chosen her.
Black Jack Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Okay, my girl and I had a talk last night and she told me how she wasnt a big fan of me having so many female friends. I wouldnt say I have that many, well at least not including the ones who are with my friends...but two of my better friends are two single females. Last weekend my Gal and I went to Chicago and met up with one of said friends....my gf thinks my friend has a crush on me by the way she acted, I dont see it, but who knows, I'm not the best of picking up on subtle hints. She things my other friend is even prettier than the first, though can see that she isnt my type. My gf trusts me, and I'm not going to get rid of my friends, but is there any way that I can ease her discomfort with me having a few female friends? Are not good at picking up those hints or are you just ignoring them? It doesn't take an expert to pick up on them. If your "friends" are hitting on you then it is your responsibility to draw the line in the sand and tie it off. Otherwise you'll just be adding gasoline to the flame. Note that I said "IF." Now if they're not hitting on you or trying to come at you some way "romantically," then be a little firm and tell your girl to cool out and just give her a little reassurance that you're committed to her and only her. Trust me I did it twice with my woman and she jumped on me afterwards.
RedRobin Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Some reassurance would be good. Reasons why you chose her, and what you value about these other women that would make you want to stay friends with them. I have a few male friends with wives/girlfriends and I have no doubt they tell them (about me)... "she's trustworthy, smart, and a good person... but she's a pain the *ss in the following ways... don't worry babe, she's got nothing on you." At some point, my male friends suggest or allow me and their wives/girlfriends to get to know each other one-on-one a bit. That usually settles things down. Once they get to know me, they realize I wouldn't do anything to intrude on their relationship. If your female friends act even a little flirty with you in front of your GF, or there is some kind of cat-fight vibe going on, it won't work.
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