Coffee20 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Hello, after 9 months I had to end my relationship which had been pretty bad from the second date. Well maybe he was friendly, a good listener and a funny guy but from the beginning he didn't give me much time (maybe one day per week), he lied to me in every stupid little thing, told me that he likes girls who are chubby and big breasted (I am not), told me that I am under his level, he went out with his girl - friends and their bf and I was never invited. After that I talked to him and tried to improve things. It was good maybe for 10 days then it went wrong again. He started to go out again with his girl - friends and their bf but sometimes only with girls when I asked why I am not invited again he told me he forgot. Next time he forgot again. I heard again what girls are pretty but he said that I am ok too, then it got worse and worse, he lied to me more and more, didn't want to see me much (only in the evenings and like 2 times per week) I had no idea what he was doing whole days, because he has no part time job, we both go to the university but not very often and he had a lot of free time. He also didn't want to sleep with me and I couldn't understand why, I miss so much our intimacy. I tried again to talk to him. This time I tried as much as possible, he was invited to all family events, I took him to my favourite places, I cooked for him etc. But it wasn't enough. His lies continued, he spent his time with his girl friends and their bf more often, he didn't want to see me more and more, he rarely wrote me message, I was not invited to his family house, he became also jealous for no reason. Finally he told me he doesn't need me at all also the reason why he didn't sleep with me is because I don't deserve it and that I demand too much of his time (I just wanted to be with him like 3 times per week and not only 2 hours in the evening). I just could not handle it anymore so one day (after a week when he didn't want to see me) I knocked his door and told him that it's over, he didn't tell a thing, no emotions, no last words from him. I am in love with this guy so much, but I knew well it didn't have any sense. I don't know why but I feel really really sad, I saw his picture partying with girls, he seems to be so happy. I am completely down, I cry all the time, have hard time to get out from the bed or go to school (where I have to see his smiling face) I am also extremely tired. It's only a week I try to go out with my close friends, spent time out, but everything reminds me him. I don't know what to do.....
Philosoraptor Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You were unhappy and that is always more than enough of a reason to end a relationship. It's normal to be reminded so much of an ex, but you need to work on changing those reminders and helping them remind you of something more positive. With time you will realize you are much better off than having someone who doesn't treat you the way you'd like to be treated. Just take it a step at a time and try to focus on bettering yourself and your life. Treat yourself well as no one deserves to be treated better than you treat yourself.
Author Coffee20 Posted April 25, 2012 Author Posted April 25, 2012 Thank you for the answer! Actually I saw him yesterday, he completely ignored me and now I just can't understand how could I be with someone who didn't appreciate me, told me that I could be prettier and lied to my eyes from the beginning. Now I sometimes find myself blaming for giving him my time. I hope my feelings will be soon gone.
crazylove Posted April 25, 2012 Posted April 25, 2012 This guy is definitely not worth getting upset about....more like you've had a lucky escape and saw him for what he really is. Good on you for being strong and finishing it with this guy:)
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