PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I second what oaks said completely. Why do you find it offensive that he wants to have sex with you? He is a man with a normal sex drive. He fancies you. The only thing you have to do is asking him to wait a bit (which he probably expects anyway). You were even making out with him! I would struggle not to try to go further if I was making out with a guy I fancied. It's completely normal. well atleast she made out with the guy. why does she have to have sex so fast? It was only date 2
PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Um of course not I'm super affectionate. Lets see if he asks me out again...ha because if not I know exactly what he was after. Well in the future just don't invite a guy to your house until you feel you are ready to have sex.
Andy_K Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Haha of course I want a boyfriend that wants sex!!! I like sex...but to me if a guy wants it that early on it screams that he is not looking for a relationship. This may come as a bit of a shock to you, but the way to tell if a guy wants a relationship, is to find out whether he wants a relationship, not whether he wants sex. Pretty much every guy who wants a relationship also wants sex ASAP if he's honest with himself. The only difference is sometimes they'll pretend not to because it's necessary in order to convince girls like you that they don't *only* want sex.
dispatch3d Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Yeah I think the guy wanting to have sex with you is just because he likes you. Guys that like girls tend to want to have sex with them. Date 2 is definitely early, but its pretty difficult to figure out if the girl is ok with sex on date 2 or date 7 just as a fyi. Anyhow if he doesn't call you now it may be because he thinks you don't like him. Remember our side, girls will sometimes just friendzone a dude for months and never date him. Actually some less morale girls will just use guys for attention with 0 actual interest in dating them. There probably isn't any surefire litmus test to figure out if a guy wants relationships or wants to one and done.
PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Yeah I think the guy wanting to have sex with you is just because he likes you. Guys that like girls tend to want to have sex with them. Date 2 is definitely early, but its pretty difficult to figure out if the girl is ok with sex on date 2 or date 7 just as a fyi. Anyhow if he doesn't call you now it may be because he thinks you don't like him. Remember our side, girls will sometimes just friendzone a dude for months and never date him. Actually some less morale girls will just use guys for attention with 0 actual interest in dating them. There probably isn't any surefire litmus test to figure out if a guy wants relationships or wants to one and done. That is FALSE. I would have sex with plenty of girls but that doesn't mean I would want to be in a relationship with them
musemaj11 Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You could just have sex with him and see if he stayed or left. Take the risk. Its just like how men still always pay on the first dates despite knowing that many of them are going to lead to nowhere. They take the risk. I mean at least sex is free. 1
Feelsgoodman Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You could just have sex with him and see if he stayed or left. Take the risk. Its just like how men still always pay on the first dates despite knowing that many of them are going to lead to nowhere. They take the risk. I mean at least sex is free. Maybe we should stop doing that. Next time the cheque arrives, I'm going to tell my date that I want to "take it slow" on paying for dinners 2
PhillyDude Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 You could just have sex with him and see if he stayed or left. Take the risk. Its just like how men still always pay on the first dates despite knowing that many of them are going to lead to nowhere. They take the risk. I mean at least sex is free. but she may not want to if she recently took a risk in February and it lead to nothing. Just like a guy may not be that eager to go on another day if he just paid for one last month and she never returned his call
musemaj11 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 Maybe we should stop doing that. Next time the cheque arrives, I'm going to tell my date that I want to "take it slow" on paying for dinners If women find it acceptable for them to hold off sex until they supposedly can trust the guy then they should also accept it if men want to hold off spending any penny until they can trust the woman.
PhillyDude Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 If women find it acceptable for them to hold off sex until they supposedly can trust the guy then they should also accept it if men want to hold off spending any penny until they can trust the woman. But you have to PAY to be in your presence remember?
dispatch3d Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 That is FALSE. I would have sex with plenty of girls but that doesn't mean I would want to be in a relationship with them Obviously, but your the opposite of a nice relationship minded guy. Besides, I never contradicted what you've stated in this post. Relationship guys will want to have sex with a girl because they like her. Dicks like you will also want to have sex with a girl because the girl is hot and they like sex. To each his own lol.
musemaj11 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 But you have to PAY to be in your presence remember? I have to pay to be in my presence? I dont understand ...
PhillyDude Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I have to pay to be in my presence? I dont understand ... I meant you have to PAY to be in a woman's presence. Woman are known for saying that which is why I never understood what's the big deal in paying someone to play with me at my APT. If I have to pay to be in a woman's presence why not ENJOY IT??? LOL
Author starla33 Posted April 24, 2012 Author Posted April 24, 2012 oh please this guy talked about sex from date one. I just wanted to see if he really was a douche or not. Now I know. Please don't give me the speech that he might be nice. Honestly nice guys don't talk about sex on the first date.
musemaj11 Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 I meant you have to PAY to be in a woman's presence. Woman are known for saying that which is why I never understood what's the big deal in paying someone to play with me at my APT. If I have to pay to be in a woman's presence why not ENJOY IT??? LOL If I dont get sex then my money is wasted. Lol
Andy_K Posted April 24, 2012 Posted April 24, 2012 oh please this guy talked about sex from date one. I just wanted to see if he really was a douche or not. Now I know. Please don't give me the speech that he might be nice. Honestly nice guys don't talk about sex on the first date. It depends. I'll sleep with a girl on the first date if I can, but I am looking for relationship. I've had a previous relationship start from 1st date sex, and I'd do the same again. I'm not going to pressure a girl who's clearly not ready, but if I get the right signals I will run with them.
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