lifehurts Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Ok there's this girl who's recently been dumped by her boyfriend. We've been very close even when she was with her boyfriend, I've always been there for her when she was down. We're that close that everyone thinks that we are dating but we're not. So once we were alone together in the library for a few hours, I took the chance to hold her hand. I held it she didn't move her hand away she just squeezed my hand tightly, so basically we were just holding hands for an hour. I was really confused, because I love her but I don't know how she feels about me. So one night I took the chance to tell her I love her, she then told me things are hard with her and her ex, and she said she only sees me as a friend at the moment. I was kinda broke and confused. Is she sending me the wrong signals or does she have feelings for me?? What should I do? I would appreciate any feedback thanks.
firehawk_1 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 leave it alone. the reason she has been dumped is probably because he senses you are trying to take her away from him. for you to then still continue this behavior only makes it worse keep your distance and move onto someone else.
january2011 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 She's in a lot of pain at the moment. She's probably not ready to jump straight into another relationship until she unpacks and deals with the pain from her past relationship. Be patient. She knows how you feel. Do not pressure her. She needs time and space to heal. Presumably, you do not want to be the rebound guy.
Author lifehurts Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 She broke up with him not because of me, but to do with his parents apparently:sick:
Bluesky007 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I think you should keep being her supporter. To love someone is to make one smile not to want them. Maybe one day there's a good chance for u when she realize she feel the love with you.
Author lifehurts Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I know I always try to keep her smiling it hurts me when she's sad I don't care if I don't have her as long as she's happy, but I'll still be broken. 1
Author lifehurts Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I'm trying to give her some space, but she's always texting me I can't ignore her. *sigh* In such a bad place at this moment of time
Author lifehurts Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 she still loves him, he still lives her. I give up... It hurts me so much but there's nothing I can do... Life sucks sometimes
yongyong Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Have you been listening to her problems as her 'emotional tampon'? Maybe she is keeping you as 'Free therapist' for venting out? Maybe she is keeping you as a Plan B? if she fails chasing after her BF? Don't be a dumb ass white knight 'oh your BF doesn't give you enough attention, you deserve something better, don't cry, let me give you a hug, I will be there for you' -> F-ing BS. You know what you should do? She would get emotional about the relationship. Drink with her, listen to her problems, escalate then Bang! If you do it right, she might look at you as a guy. Sorry this is the only way you can break that. you should've not told her 'I love you'
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