MissSpence Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 OK, I've had three serious relationships since I was 14 (I'm now almost 21), the first was for a year, the second was for almost 3 years and the third was for almost 2 years. After each of these relationships, my ex has found someone new within a month to two of breaking up. What does that mean? Am I really that easy to get over?
firehawk_1 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 its the mentality these days. why should it worry you? you broke up for a reason - move on. same with women too ya know, they move from one guy to the next and play games. how does it make guys feel? why should one mourn or feel sorry for months on end? where does it get them? they would rather move on and find someone if they feel ready for it and want to. i sense you are jelous...
january2011 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 It's easy to conclude that you are the common denominator and ask, "what's wrong with me?" However, have you ever thought that you're still quite young and the pace of change can be so dramatic in your age range that people grow apart very quickly?
Author MissSpence Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I don't know why it bothers me, I suppose I like the thought of being hard to get over, everyone wants to feel like they meant something to someone... I'm not jealous, I genuinely wish them all the best in their new relationships. I was just wondering if this pattern was a sign that there is something wrong with me ha ha
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 OK, I've had three serious relationships since I was 14 (I'm now almost 21), the first was for a year, the second was for almost 3 years and the third was for almost 2 years. After each of these relationships, my ex has found someone new within a month to two of breaking up. What does that mean? Am I really that easy to get over? I have a hard time wrapping my head around any relationship being serious under the age of 21. 14? Many have not even been kissed till 17, but I digress. I don't think these were serious on the fellow's part at all. Remember, maturity has to set in and that was the 'fun' stage. You guys were still growing up. And it's been my experience that the fellow always finds someone new right away.
Author MissSpence Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Yeah sorry, I meant more 'long term' than 'serious', I realised that after I'd posted haha
BewitchedandBothered Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Yeah sorry, I meant more 'long term' than 'serious', I realised that after I'd posted haha Remember that old adage of young ladies maturing faster than the young fellows do--and a young lady can be marriage minded, wanting to find the white knight/fairy tale, where the young fellows appreciate experience and being a little more flighty before settling down. Also, we seem to take things more seriously at that young age. where the boys "meant it at the time". When you find a real man, it will all fall into place:)
Author MissSpence Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Thanks for your reply Bewitched. Yeah, I always forget to about that haha and I love the insinuation behind 'real man'. I'm gonna take a break from dating for a while and have some me time, hopefully by the time I return all the real men will have come out from where they're all hiding! 1
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