An Update!

[PoppyLove89]

Hey guys!

 

So basically, I came to LoveShack almost 6 months ago when I went through the toughest break-up of my life so far and I thought I would give you all an update since I haven't been on here in 3 months...

 

For anyone who isn't familiar with my story, please feel free to check out my threads (be warned; I was an emotional mess!)

 

Following the break-up I went through somewhat of an identity shake-up: I changed my hair (cut it short), I quit my job and, wait for it...moved to Germany!!! That's right, I moved out here on February 1st and I absolutely love it

 

Anyway back to my update........

 

On April 29th it will be half a year since my ex and I split up and I bet there's quite a few questions burning on the lips of some of you recently singles on here: Did my ex ever get back in touch with me? Well, nope he didn't. He jumped straight into a new relationship with an 18 year-old and hasn't looked back. (And yes, I too was adamant it was a rebound; maybe it is, maybe it isn't. Who cares? If leaving me didn't cause him any pain, why would I pine over someone like that?! Move it along...)

 

I guess this also answers your 2nd question: Did we get back together? HA. No. He proceeded to block me on Facebook once he changed his relationship status (coincidentally the day before I moved to Germany - I could read into it since we have mutual friends and word would have got back to him but what's the point?) and I haven't seen nor heard from him since...but you know what? As much as this killed me at the time (exactly two months after we broke up), I'm okay now.

 

Sure, I still think about him every day, I was and still am in love with him but it doesn't kill me anymore. I figure, you know what, if he's happy, good for him! I know I'll get there myself one day and that's when I'll find the guy who respects me and what we have - because I deserve that.

 

And that's the thing with fresh break-ups really, isn't it; your self-esteem plummets through the floorboards, you feel rejected and wind up thinking you'll end up alone for the rest of your life. Well you know what? You won't be. I for one have already had several guys let it be known that they like me, it feels nice but I'm taking things slow - I'm still rebuilding what he destroyed and it wouldn't be fair to let someone else deal with the mess he left behind. Some people may be able to jump from one relationship to another but not me - I need time to heal.

 

So to all of you out there who are scraping the proverbial 'Barrel of Hope' because you're forlorn and heartbroken, heed my words: IT WILL GET BETTER. Just stay strong, respect yourself - don't go crawling after someone who's sprinting away from you; you'll only wind up exhausted and hurting worse than before - and, most importantly, be your own best-friend.

 

But if you really don't believe me...just read my first few threads. I too was an emotional wreck.

 

I was the definition of a heartbroken girl: I couldn't eat - my weight plummeted, I couldn't sleep - because dreaming meant dreaming of him, I went on a roller-coaster of emotions - crying my eyes out: 'Gosh, I miss him so much...' to pulling out the fighter in me: 'You know what, f*** him!'. I tried to find solace by getting attention from others - trying to fill the void he left, trying to replace him as quickly as he replaced me but it just didn't bring me the 'instant happiness' I had anticipated. Like I said, I wound up moving to Germany and being away from all the memories of 'us' back home really helped me.

 

Remember: You can't force things. You will heal when your heart is ready. And let me tell you, when the time comes, it feels damn good!

Edited April 22, 2012 by PoppyLove89

[favoritepills]

I'm so glad you shared your story! It's really encouraging.

[confused kitty]

Poppy I was just thinking of you recently! So so glad to hear your in a better place (emotionally not that your in Germany, just to clarify! Lol )and doing so much better now.

 

Take care and wishing you all the best for the future

Regards,

Katie ;-)

[PoppyLove89]

Thank you very much, Katie!

 

I am doing much, much better. I hope you are too :-)