TundraRainforest Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 We're both in 8th grade (age 14) and some people in our class are sometimes giving him a hard because they say he's short. Currently I'm 5'8 and he's at 5'1 but tells me about how he wish he was taller so he can confront them. I end up doing this for him and it usually works (most of them don't even try BS when seeing me with him), which he ends up feeling worst. But, I've met his parents and other relatives before. Most of the males and the father seem to be on the 5'10-6'4 range. The females are more like 5'4-5'9'. Any way I can make him feel good and stop worrying about it?
cl3 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Wow.. the people (especially the men) in his family are so tall... You both are still young, and he still hasn't gone through his growth spurt yet. Girls also do mature faster than guys, so even though you are taller than him now, doesn't mean you will stay taller than him when you both grow up. Anyways.. People can be judgemental like that, it's sad! Ignore them and know that what they say is superficial! Don't let what they say get to you.. And chances are your bf does feel self conscious about being shorter than you. Just be there to back him up, make him feel loved.
Author TundraRainforest Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Girls also do mature faster than guys, so even though you are taller than him now, doesn't mean you will stay taller than him when you both grow up.And nothing will change when he grows more. I'll still love him. He would still be the same guy, just bigger.
jobaba Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 And nothing will change when he grows more. I'll still love him. He would still be the same guy, just bigger. Hopefully when he grows taller, he'll be one of those people who remembered they had it tough and is humble instead of the usual ... ...'forgot that they used to get picked on and rejected and called names but I'm hot now so I'm better and hotter than all these people and I deserve to date and socialize with the very best, becoming exactly the type of people that used to pick on them' types.
Cypress25 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 He'll grow. He just hasn't had his growth spurt yet, but considering how tall his relatives are, he'll probably shoot up within the next 2-3 years. Most boys don't reach their full adult height until age 16 or 17.
ThaWholigan Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Give him a couple of years and he will have a massive growth spurt. I was quite a little kid, I was a bit wiry too, at around 5 foot 4 as a 14 year old. When I hit 15, I was a 6 footer . 1
PJKino Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Hopefully he grows a lot because once he reaches high school and forward being short severly limits your dating prospects as a guy
ThaWholigan Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Hopefully he grows a lot because once he reaches high school and forward being short severly limits your dating prospects as a guy Not severely. Most short guys I know haven't had any problems with women.
RoyFisher Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Base on the boy's tall family, I think within the next 3-5 years he'll eventually have a huge growth spurt. Girls can temporarily be taller than us during grade-middle school years but most of the times we eventually catch up and tower them. If I'm not mistake, sometimes we don't stop growing until our early 20's. I know of a dude that was 5'7 by 12th grade but suddenly by age 22 or so he was already at 6'3. Talk about late growth spurt. I think this could happen to the OP's bf too.
jobaba Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 And nothing will change when he grows more. I'll still love him. He would still be the same guy, just bigger. Pretty amazing that a 14 year old girl can think like this. Lessons to learn...
manup Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 We're both in 8th grade (age 14) and some people in our class are sometimes giving him a hard because they say he's short. Currently I'm 5'8 and he's at 5'1 but tells me about how he wish he was taller so he can confront them. I end up doing this for him and it usually works (most of them don't even try BS when seeing me with him), which he ends up feeling worst. But, I've met his parents and other relatives before. Most of the males and the father seem to be on the 5'10-6'4 range. The females are more like 5'4-5'9'. Any way I can make him feel good and stop worrying about it? I'm 6ft and my dad is 5'4. He married my mom he is 5 inches taller and much better looking. Not once has my dad ever said that he wishes he was taller, even with me teasing him constantly, he owns it like a boss and your bf should to. He's still in the 8th grade so maybe he will grow.
Star Gazer Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 My 9th grade BF was about 5'2" and 112 pounds. He's now a 6'1" huge MMA fighter. Just give him time to grow.
Author TundraRainforest Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 My 9th grade BF was about 5'2" and 112 pounds. He's now a 6'1" huge MMA fighter. Just give him time to grow.Nice story. It's been a year later and we're both now high school freshmen. Yes he's catching up to me. Right now he's at 5'6. 1
Author TundraRainforest Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 Hopefully he grows a lot because once he reaches high school and forward being short severly limits your dating prospects as a guyWell right now he's 5'6. He's been growing since our summer vacation and during the winter holiday.
FitChick Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Tell him not to smoke, drink or do drugs because it will stunt his growth. He needs to eat healthfully -- no junk food -- plenty of chicken and fish, lots of fruit and vegetables, yogurt, milk, oatmeal. Almost like being on a diet except he can eat as much as he likes unless he gets fat. At this stage of his life, he needs to maximize his growth.
Author TundraRainforest Posted January 26, 2013 Author Posted January 26, 2013 At this stage of his life, he needs to maximize his growth.Well 5 inches is a difference. I think this is his first growth spurt.
ChessPieceFace Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 Doesn't this forum have age limits? People talk about inappropriate stuff on here.
kaylan Posted January 26, 2013 Posted January 26, 2013 (edited) Tell your bf hes still a kid and has A LOT of time to grow. From 11 to 15, plenty of girls my age were taller than boys. And thats because boys enter puberty before boys...and many have growth spurts before the boys. I didnt reach full height until I was 17 or 18. And then I was still filling out muscle wise until my mid 20s. Edited January 26, 2013 by kaylan
Eclypse Posted January 27, 2013 Posted January 27, 2013 That's certainly an impressive growth spurt!! Unfortunately I reached my adult height at 13. Fortunately it was 5'11 so I can't complain too much. Good luck with his verticality!
Author TundraRainforest Posted January 27, 2013 Author Posted January 27, 2013 That's certainly an impressive growth spurt!! Unfortunately I reached my adult height at 13. Fortunately it was 5'11 so I can't complain too much. Good luck with his verticality!I know. It's like he shoot up so fast (I didn't even notice until I took off my median heels... lol). I heard this happened to his father and some of the other men in the family. They all were a lot shorter in their early teens and went throught 2-3 growth spurts and it wasn't till ages 18-20 by the time they were done growing.
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