jobaba Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Exactly! They don't necessarily all congregate in the same place. They are scattered all over the place living their life. The key is to do the same...you're bound to find them... I think your idea is decent, but all the same I don't think bars and casinos are the best place for guys with 'less game' to meet women. You're not going to appeal to the party girls and the nice women will be there just to have a good time and not really to meet someone.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I think your idea is decent, but all the same I don't think bars and casinos are the best place for guys with 'less game' to meet women. You're not going to appeal to the party girls and the nice women will be there just to have a good time and not really to meet someone. This is very true. But the point is that when you're in your "element," you'll be surprised just how social you can be and how welcoming people are to talk to you when you're feeling comfortable and fun. And when you do this enough, you'll realize how easy it is to actually socialize anywhere...it's all about social conditioning in your comfort zone before you take it out to uncharted waters...crawl, walk, run... So yea, for me, it's at a blackjack or roulette table...
january2011 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Meetups (especially ones for daytime activities), evening/adult education classes, volunteering events, networking/business events. Very few people know each other, so we're all in the same boat together. Most people are very open to smalltalk and getting to know each other. I've also had some success on airplane journeys. So pretty much anywhere where you're all strangers who find yourselves in the same space for a significant amount of time and you're focused on the 'shared' activity. Friends' parties and events are also great places to meet people. In my late teens-early 20s, pubs, bars and clubs were good places to meet people, but it was a bit of meat market. I knew I was a bit green and thus tended to be hypervigilant and wary of random strangers.
Kamille Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 (edited) Love this thread Hokie! I am most comfortable in cafes and conferences. I really enjoy dinner parties. I'd say I shine at those. (Like really, I'm a great addition to any dinner party, don't hesitate to invite me.) I love being outdoors too: at the beach, hiking, canoeing or camping. Oh, and sitting on my patio, having my morning coffee, chatting with my LS buddies. Why hello there . Edited April 22, 2012 by Kamille 1
Eternal Sunshine Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 House parties and bookstores. I met majority of my exs at house parties where they were a friend of a friend.
snug.bunny Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I was always most comfortable at trendy places, but nothing too over the top. I'd go, because I enjoy it (IE. the music, the atmosphere) versus wanting to meet anyone. But, I also enjoyed going to pubs with good music, fun people and a pool table. As long as it wasn't too much of a hole in the wall and smelled of vomit/pee.
amantis Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Try this Go to the cinema , be there a bit earlier , check for girl alone , go and sit right next to her . talk to her for a bit , when someone arrives and tells you that you are in the wrong seat , tell her your number and if she is interested in a coffee after the movie , she can send you a sms . Its so easy
phineas Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 The places I spend more time at & meet more women at are: Kid's birthday parties, zoo, playground, kid functions, ect. Places I occasionally go, parties, live outdoor music events, fireman's picnics (beer tent), patio bar with karaoke. I do not sing but I like the crowd.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I've also had some success on airplane journeys. Me too! Friends' parties and events are also great places to meet people. I met majority of my exs at house parties where they were a friend of a friend. Social networking at its best. Meeting through mutual friends is easily the best way to go. There's a common connection, and each of you as essentially been "vetted" by your mutual friend. There's also no awkwardness of approaching because your friend (if he's worth a damn) will facilitate the introductions. 1
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I was always most comfortable at trendy places, but nothing too over the top. I'd go, because I enjoy it (IE. the music, the atmosphere) versus wanting to meet anyone. When you go anywhere with the intention of meeting someone, it instantly creates an expectation in your mind, and if that expectation is not met, then going out becomes a failure...so you're right, people need to go out to enjoy the activity and the company.
yongyong Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 I prefer a classy bar. I like to see women who spent sometime before coming out to a bar. I ignore those ones with cami top and flip flops. There shouldn't be many tables. I like a place where people are standing around. It's a lot easier to approach when 3 girls are standing than 3 girls sitting down at a table. It's better if the crowd move constantly. I usually approach them whey they are not moving. I also approach them when they are walking right in front of me (either 'hey!' or just grab her hands) I don't like to see douche bags, thugs type of guys. If you see those guys then there should be women in skimpy clothes who are there just for attention. I don't do well with those types of women lol
threebyfate Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 H. was the nextdoor neighbor of close friends. The last few men were neighbors of which one was a friend of a friend. You can meet people anywhere, the minute you step out of the house.
OhHey Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Biking events, paths trails...... Laundromat..... Well if I were looking it would be.
johan Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Hokie, you should read that book that was popular a few years ago, if you want some ideas where to hang out. It's called Women Are From Venues, Men Are From Mars.
Kamille Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Hokie, you should read that book that was popular a few years ago, if you want some ideas where to hang out. It's called Women Are From Venues, Men Are From Mars. Marts, Men Are From Marts. Sheesh.
johan Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 Marts, Men Are From Marts. Sheesh. Quickie Marts. 1
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