USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 A lot of people ask what the best places are to meet men/women...and I'm not sure that's the best approach to meeting people. Don't base your approach on what others think or prefer...base them on your preferences and your strengths... Instead of meeting men/women at bars, night clubs, coffee shops, intramural sports, etc. that are the "normal" places that are propogated so frequently, people should go to places that they normally frequent...they are more likely to be open to meeting others, more likely to know the staff at the venue, and more likely to feel like a king or queen of that venue. The idea is that when you're more comfortable, you'll naturally be more social. This sort of social conditioning will do wonders for both your confidence and hopefully you're dating life. That being said, what venues, both social and non-social, are you most comfortable in? I'm definitely the most comfortable and able to meet people at casino table games...
Feelin Frisky Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Continuing education by far. Bars are a dead end totally as far as I'm concerned. Nightly curricular or extra-curricular activities like either classes or after hours meeting of trade association are places for grown ups trying to better themselves have opportunities to meet. 1
Anela Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I'm only ever a regular at two different bookstores, or the library. I tend to just enjoy going there with family, or someone I already know, though, just to relax.
Jane2011 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I'd say... -- coffee shops -- house parties -- places with couches (I'm so much more comfortable sitting on couches than on chairs) -- mellow bars/lounges with dim lighting and a relaxed atmosphere.
Woggle Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 The two places I had the most success was the boardwalk near my house and Washington Square Park in New York. I would say the majority of women I have dated I met at those two places. I met my current wife at the boardwalk.
Pyro Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 A concert venue I would say because I know that we at least have one thing in common from the start.
lino Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Continuing education by far. Bars are a dead end totally as far as I'm concerned. Nightly curricular or extra-curricular activities like either classes or after hours meeting of trade association are places for grown ups trying to better themselves have opportunities to meet. Agree. A concert venue I would say because I know that we at least have one thing in common from the start. Agree. I've always felt most comfortable meeting women at parties or functions where I knew at least a good chunk of the people there. Most women I've met were in a situation like that. Night clubs are great only for players really and the women who desire such guys. That's an excellent setting for those types, they can clean up every weekend like that if they want.
Pyro Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 I've always felt most comfortable meeting women at parties or functions where I knew at least a good chunk of the people there. Most women I've met were in a situation like that. Night clubs are great only for players really and the women who desire such guys. That's an excellent setting for those types, they can clean up every weekend like that if they want. Agree with the first part. I wouldn't count bars/clubs out completely.....last place to look IMO. Even the hardest workers need time off to have some fun.
lino Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Oh yeah, bars and clubs are great to have a drink and let off steam but I don't think they're a great place to find a girlfriend. If you just want to find a piece of a*s then they're ok for that
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Oh yeah, bars and clubs are great to have a drink and let off steam but I don't think they're a great place to find a girlfriend. The whole point of this isn't necessarily to find the best places to find a girlfriend...but to find the places you are the most comfortable and have the best time... You know how people are always going on about how you'll often meet the person of your dreams when you least expect it...? This is exactly how it happens...when you're in places where you're completely in your element...
Pyro Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 You know how people are always going on about how you'll often meet the person of your dreams when you least expect it...? This is exactly how it happens...when you're in places where you're completely in your element... Does this mean that LS is my element? 2
lino Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Ah ok, I understand. Well I guess for me it's definitely parties and functions then.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Does this mean that LS is my element? Correct. On LS, we can't see how short and hairless you are, and we can't hear how high-pitched your voice is. 1
Pyro Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Correct. On LS, we can't see how short and hairless you are, and we can't hear how high-pitched your voice is. :lmao: I can tell you that when I saw CE for the first time I did KISS her.
lino Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Should add that I feel most in my element out in the surf. Given a choice, that's my favourite place to be in the whole world Perhaps isn't the best place to meet women though
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Should add that I feel most in my element out in the surf. Given a choice, that's my favourite place to be in the whole world Perhaps isn't the best place to meet women though It may very well be the best place for you to meet women... Though you may be right...sounds like a male-dominated environment...
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 :lmao: I can tell you that when I saw CE for the first time I did KISS her. Did you get that grill yet? That might make you 2 for 5...almost halfway to become a REAL man!
Pyro Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Did you get that grill yet? That might make you 2 for 5...almost halfway to become a REAL man! We have had one of those George Foreman grills since we moved in here if that gets me any points towards becoming a REAL man.
AD1980 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Probably bar because if im piss drunk i sometimes break out of my shell and approach women
jobaba Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 A lot of people ask what the best places are to meet men/women...and I'm not sure that's the best approach to meeting people. Don't base your approach on what others think or prefer...base them on your preferences and your strengths... Instead of meeting men/women at bars, night clubs, coffee shops, intramural sports, etc. that are the "normal" places that are propogated so frequently, people should go to places that they normally frequent...they are more likely to be open to meeting others, more likely to know the staff at the venue, and more likely to feel like a king or queen of that venue. The idea is that when you're more comfortable, you'll naturally be more social. This sort of social conditioning will do wonders for both your confidence and hopefully you're dating life. That being said, what venues, both social and non-social, are you most comfortable in? I'm definitely the most comfortable and able to meet people at casino table games... I think in general it's more about the person than the venue. I love to drink and frequent bars often. But most women at bars aren't looking for men like me to hook up with. And it they're not looking to hook up, in general they're not looking to talk. But me and my ex used to have stoopid fun bar hopping all over the place and getting sloppy and idiotic. I'm also comfortable at music shops because I can play the guitar and I've NEVER met a woman at music shop who is a better player than me. So, that might be a good angle in the future.
jobaba Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Probably bar because if im piss drunk i sometimes break out of my shell and approach women Dude, you are funniest MFer of all time. Explain to me again how you can't get women.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 I think in general it's more about the person than the venue. I love to drink and frequent bars often. But most women at bars aren't looking for men like me to hook up with. And it they're not looking to hook up, in general they're not looking to talk. Again, the point is not to find the best places to "approach" women in the traditional sense...but to find the best places that you are most comfortable...and you'll find that you're "approaching" women without even thinking or realizing you're even talking to them...
AD1980 Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Dude, you are funniest MFer of all time. Explain to me again how you can't get women. I dont know i guess they dont appreciate the humor:D Oh well ill still be piss drunk
jobaba Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Again, the point is not to find the best places to "approach" women in the traditional sense...but to find the best places that you are most comfortable...and you'll find that you're "approaching" women without even thinking or realizing you're even talking to them... Nice, non-shallow women make me comfortable. And there's no real one place where they hang out.
Author USMCHokie Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Nice, non-shallow women make me comfortable. And there's no real one place where they hang out. Exactly! They don't necessarily all congregate in the same place. They are scattered all over the place living their life. The key is to do the same...you're bound to find them...
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