cheche Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 HI, I've been seeing this guy for a little over a month now. When we first started talking, we talked on a daily basis in some shape or form, usually by computer, because he his cellphone service only has free weekends (it's prepaid). He told me that he really cares deeply for me and wants a relationship with me. Well the third week into the relationship, he started having problems back home and had to move out. Now in the place that he resides, there is no internet so the only way we could chat is by text message. I don't have unlimited text messaging so I could only text him from the computer when I get the chance, and sometimes I can catch up with him and sometimes I can't. These past couple of weekends have ben hectic for him, first with the moving and then his phone got cut off for a few days. He also had to look for another job because he wants his own place. He just started one and I happy for him, but communication seems to be dwindling more and more, and I'm getting impatient. I expressed my concerns, and he told me was sorry about all this mess he was going through. He said he wants me to stick by him through these times, but he understands if I I leave, because he does not want to hold me back. I told him that I would stand by him, because I think he's worth it. However, it just so hard because I don't hear from him as much as I want to. I wish he could find a better way to communicate with me. Sometimes I feel like I have to go way out of the way to talk to him. Should I stay with this guy?
krbshappy71 Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 Can you guys talk on the cellphone instead of text messaging? I have trouble telling if someone is kidding/sarcastic/etc on text messaging, I tend to have more misunderstandings using that form of communication. How long does he plan to be long-distance from you? Is this indefinite? I have never tried to pull off the long-distance thing. I'm just suggesting you think about for how long you plan to do this, and perhaps talking on the phone would be a better avenue than this chat stuff. I've heard some real success stories but its just not for me, think about whether this is something you can handle. No sense in jumping in if you already know you would have trouble with it. My two cents, hope it helps.
dstnymusiq Posted June 19, 2004 Posted June 19, 2004 I think if you HONESTLY see potential in this as a relationship, you would be STUPID to throw it away when you seem to be the only real "stability" he has in his life at this point. The guy is going through some really rough times, prove to HIM that you're worth it by sticking in there with him and holding on, even if it seems there's nothing left to hold on to... if you really know there is... give it time! Things will work themselves out if it's meant to be... (hopefully)
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