snir.isl Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 hi, wrote here before... i broke up with my ex (sorry for my bad english btw) almost 3 months ago and i know its been hard for both of us and we both still have filling for each other but she says that she want to be alone right now and cant be with anyone even me but she dont deny the option that we may in the future start new thing.. by her words : " i know that now i need my time and alone space.. i dont know what ill feel tomoorow or in a month...but now i cant do it...i dont deny the option to start new thing with us as grown ups "... now we had recently a big fight that i said all the truth to her and always when we start discussing the issue she says " youre hearting me and youre pushing me away" because she knows im weak for that and that it will stop me for confronting her but this time i said it all and it was hard..the next day i got not siriously injured and she knew that im at the hospital and she didnt even call or text me if im fine... i decided to go NC and i was angry about she didnt care... and after two days she texted me "im sorry for not answering the last text i didnt now how you will react if i ask how are u after we fight..we must stop fighting and have to try to work things out and be at least " far " freinds because we have many mutual friends...i texted her "im fine thank you..it will be fine"... the next day i was surprised that she , for the first time after the break up, called me.. i picked up the phone and she told me that she is really sorry and feel really bad that she didnt call me that time i was at the hospital and she feel very bad at herself and its important for her to me knowing that she cares about me and she worries about me... i told her thats everything fine..she said "wouldnt it be akward at nati(my frined) birthday? how to we act? we hug?" i told her everything will work out and we should let the things flow... i made her laugh and wish her had a good time and we will meet at the birthday...yesterday and today was the birthday ... we went to a bar yesterday with some friends and we huged for hello and all night she tried to maintain no eye contact with me and we had a little talk if at all and we only laughed together a few times...its important to mention that she wear the dress i liked the most and the shoes i liked the most and looked stunning...i love her so much...my strategy was to play cool... that im fine with the situatuion... cause i already did the mistakes at the past and begged and pleaded for her to come back and she knows i want her...but i wanted to give her the impretion that everything is good and im fine and cool and light hearted...today i also did it and we had a little more laugh today but still she managed no eye contact but my friend said that she saw her sneaking looks at me when i didnt pay attention and she can see by her eyes that she still loves me... i know it but sometimes i doubt it because she act so happy and that everything fine altough i hear from people that she afraids that i will move on and wont be there if she wake up some day... in tuesday i should meet her again with my friends...what should i do? what my strategy need to be at the following month??next month i have birthday...i want her as my gift i love her so much and i regret every day that i let her go (who ever reads my last post knows the details that i broke up with her cause i though im hearting her...long story written here : http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/second-chances/321710-i-broke-up-her-i-realize-its-mistake) please help me...tell me how shold i act next to her and what my strategy need to be to get her back? im sure she still cares about me,have feelings for me but she is afraid i will do it again and hurt her again...please help she's all i want in this world...
Author snir.isl Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 please someone? there is an update... she contacted me and wanted to be sure that "we are at the same page" and that we need to be "far friends"...i Dont want to be her friend...i love her...i cant be her friend...what should i do?
Toru Posted April 23, 2012 Posted April 23, 2012 please someone? there is an update... she contacted me and wanted to be sure that "we are at the same page" and that we need to be "far friends"...i Dont want to be her friend...i love her...i cant be her friend...what should i do? Do what she asks. Be her friend. And if you can't do that, take a step back. No contact, etc. She said she wants her space and doesn't want to be with you. It sucks but you should accept and respect that.
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