macardent Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 Hi there so i leanred a thing or two about gigs and just realized my ex gf mighthave had gigs. We started going out about 8 months ago. She loved me dearly woud travel 3 hrs to see me for 1.5 hrs, she was too much into it would buy me presents and asked me for a promise ring which i gave her. We even decided our kids names. Let me say she is 20 and i am 22. Also at the same time her ex bf of 3 years was begging her to take him back and she told him off, and one if her best friends asked her out and she said no but she went clubbing with him and her sisters like 2 months later i didnt mind. Things were great then all of a sudden she started to get worried about her career she finished her nursing school but couldnt find a job also she started having some family problems, her mom got mentally sick or something. Still she'd call me erryday like 4 times. I was busy with school and work didnt really talk on the phone that much only saw her a few times a week. Then one day all of a sudden she started being distant wouldnt call me nor text. Anyways, we had this formal to go to and i bought her tickets and we went together. When there an okay friend of mine started telling people that he liked her snd stuff. She was distant at the formal too. So anyways she called me back when she got home i was out too a little drunk so she asked me what was that guy saying about me i was like so how do u know him she said she met him a club, i asked did u grind with him? She said probably and i dont care. I said i do t either, that night i broke up with her for 3 minutes only and when she called i asked her to come back she wouldnt and she started makng me beg for it, i did. She did come back ony to leave me 2 days later cuz i was acting a little possessive since she told me she had a coffee meeting with someguy who i never heard of and apparently its her sisters friend i got pissed and started asking questions, i said i wanted to see u today but u'd have a coffee date with some guy rather. She said i didnt ask her if i wanted to see her today she was pissed and said okay come right now. I went she cancelled the thing withthat guy we talked for half an hour and she said she doesnt wana relationship i dropped her back. Two days later she called to see how i was doing and said that we should stay friends i said i cant be ur friend and that i am busy i'll call her tomorrow. I called we talked and said that this is the first time in her life when she loves her self more. And that she really just want to be friends. She said she had to pee and i aksed her to call me back whe she is done. I waited for three hours she didnt, i called her again she didnt pickup.. I got pissed left her a voice mail saying that she is a slut for making me fall in lve with her and blah blah she cried i hate my self for that. A week later i called her and said that i am sorry shouldnt have done it, i dont know what happened to me i am really sorry, she said she forgave me but she cant forget it i asked her why she left me she said because i didnt standup for her when that guy talked **** about her. And that she doesnt want me to call her ever again she hates me as a person. A fe days later i called that guy and gave him a piece of my mind he said he wasnt the only she danced with she grinded 10 guys that i know. I called her said thats what u missd and thats whynu left me not because i ****ed up, she said it was a phase in her life and thats when i said thats all i wanted to hear from her that she is not like that anymore. She kept trying to say **** to hurt my ego and kept saying ohh did that hurt ur ego? Idk who fed her that low self esteem bullcrap but i seriously wanted her back. She was all like should i blockur number? And ohh that hurt ur ego?. After that i said idk why i called and that i was sorry and i hung up. 20 minutes later she called me back and said that she left her pipe at my place i said i didnt see it, she was like no i am sure its there so i said okay i'll look for it let u know. I called her back the next night said that i found it she said nvm i got another one. And hungup. I called her back half an hour later and said if i could just talk to her, she said she doesnt wana talk but she still did for 54 minutes. That conversation we had was so intense she kept insulting me and saying stuff like i am done with u *******s, i told her its not about my ego and i wouldnt call her if it was about my ego i love her and want to come back a better person in 2 years and marry her she said she doesnt wana give me dalse hopes. I asked if there was soemone else around she said no! She is not looking and she needs to find a job and have a sick mom and stuff and that she is working 36 hrs a week. I hung up telling her i am not a bad person and i said bye. 3 minutes later i called again it appeared she was on the pho e with someone else i said forgot to tell u something i said that the guy did t realytalk **** about her and that her friend was lying so be careful about her friend. Andi said bye and hungnup. Never called her again. Is that a gigs case? Do i have gigs? Or does she have gigs?
Laveli Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 So you broke up with her for 3 minutes, than asked her back and she made you beg for it? I think she has some issues outside of your relationship.... sadly true
ThatDudeXO Posted April 21, 2012 Posted April 21, 2012 (edited) You shouldn't be concerned whether it's GIGS or not. Only time will tell. Taking it as GIGS is only gonna give you false hope. Just go NC, move on and be the best person you can be. Also please try and make it easier to read by separating your paragraphs/sentences! It's hard to read! Edited April 21, 2012 by ThatDudeXO
rob_h Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Hey... So with GIGS the relationship that they go back to is usually one that originally lasted a significant time... Like 1.5 yr+ ones where there is a deep deep connection. How long between her breakup from her ex of 3 years was it before you started seeing her?
Author macardent Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 (edited) Hey... So with GIGS the relationship that they go back to is usually one that originally lasted a significant time... Like 1.5 yr+ ones where there is a deep deep connection. How long between her breakup from her ex of 3 years was it before you started seeing her? She said that the amount of time was 7 months, they brokeup like 1.5 years ago before that and got back together but it was always on and off and then they just never got back again. He had a new girlfriend or something. After she was gone he came back to her tried to go to her work called her several times. One day she told him "please stop trying to contact me someone u treated so bad, why would u still want to hurt me or something". I gave her several chances to leave me whenever she talked about him a lot and said stuff like I miss him so much. I even asked her take a break and decide what she wants him or me but she came back 2 days later saying that she misses me and stuff. She always had a problem thinking I might break her heart or something. One Night when we were talking on the phone she said she'd never do for me what she did for her ex and I got pissed and said i know that HERNAME but don't rub it in my face and she explained to me that she really meant to say that if she does I'd start taking her for granted. And after a week she started being distant and all. But let me tell you this. Her ex announced in the whole world that she gives good blow jobs btw we are all brown people and it is seen as very disrespectful for a girl to be seen like that or that she is not a virgin. Also, she told me that she is over him, and hates him and done with him. Thanks for taking the time to answer. really means alot Edited April 22, 2012 by macardent
wilsonx Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 This is something you have to move forward on, no matter what she says go NC Her and her ex are spewing hot air at each other and both still love each other but dont realize it yet, you are going to be in a train wreck if you continue hanging out with her. She misses you as a friend is what she says when she says I miss you
Author macardent Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 This is something you have to move forward on, no matter what she says go NC Her and her ex are spewing hot air at each other and both still love each other but dont realize it yet, you are going to be in a train wreck if you continue hanging out with her. She misses you as a friend is what she says when she says I miss you They were seperated for 7 months before we started going out.. According to her she had a rebound, she went nuts did too much **** before she met me. But yeah there was no other guy.
Author macardent Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 Also i am thinking about calling her telling her that i know why she left me and that she is a cheater and stuff. And make her feel bad about leaving me for the guy who introduced her a slut to the whole world.
wilsonx Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 (edited) They were seperated for 7 months before we started going out.. According to her she had a rebound, she went nuts did too much **** before she met me. But yeah there was no other guy. She is in GIGS, you are a rebound(I call it a GIGS GUY/GIRL... this special type of rebound)... the whole she went nuts thing is a big key point. No matter what, you lose this if you continue. She left you 6 months later right? That equals a year, at the end of the year people in GIGS miss their ex so much its ridiculous. They always go and chase what they lost usually at the year time frame. Sometimes its 2 years. For her, its a year though. For me it was a year. For Rob_H it was a year. You do not want to be on the bounce with her, she will make your life hell http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/310393-she-did-again-here-we-go-again-merry-go-round-see-text This thread is another GIGS Rebounder, read it and see how much hell his life is. Do you want to be a apart of this? This guy went through hell for 4 months chasing her Edited April 22, 2012 by wilsonx
Author macardent Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 She is in GIGS, you are a rebound(I call it a GIGS GUY/GIRL... this special type of rebound)... the whole she went nuts thing is a big key point. No matter what, you lose this if you continue. She left you 6 months later right? That equals a year, at the end of the year people in GIGS miss their ex so much its ridiculous. They always go and chase what they lost usually at the year time frame. Sometimes its 2 years. For her, its a year though. For me it was a year. For Rob_H it was a year. Ohh wow i had 2 relationships in my life. Fell in love twice. I was a rebound for my first love that lasted a month. And now this girl this lasted 7 months. Thank you guys.
Author macardent Posted April 22, 2012 Author Posted April 22, 2012 She is in GIGS, you are a rebound(I call it a GIGS GUY/GIRL... this special type of rebound)... the whole she went nuts thing is a big key point. No matter what, you lose this if you continue. She left you 6 months later right? That equals a year, at the end of the year people in GIGS miss their ex so much its ridiculous. They always go and chase what they lost usually at the year time frame. Sometimes its 2 years. For her, its a year though. For me it was a year. For Rob_H it was a year. You do not want to be on the bounce with her, she will make your life hell http://www.loveshack.org/forums/breaking-up-reconciliation-coping/breaks-breaking-up/310393-she-did-again-here-we-go-again-merry-go-round-see-text This thread is another GIGS Rebounder, read it and see how much hell his life is. Do you want to be a apart of this? This guy went through hell for 4 months chasing her Woww.. Thanks a lot pal. That just opened my eyes. Been after wrong girls all my life meh..
rob_h Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Ohh wow i had 2 relationships in my life. Fell in love twice. I was a rebound for my first love that lasted a month. And now this girl this lasted 7 months. Thank you guys. Sorry man, its a tough tough pill to swallow. People in GIGS walk over and over whoever falls "victim" to them, without so much as a twinge of conscience. Its SH*T!!
HollyBolly Posted April 22, 2012 Posted April 22, 2012 Also please try and make it easier to read by separating your paragraphs/sentences! It's hard to read! Oh, God! You took the words right out of my mouth! I couldn't stand to finish reading it. Almost gave me a migraine.
Author macardent Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Oh, God! You took the words right out of my mouth! I couldn't stand to finish reading it. Almost gave me a migraine. Loll sorry guys, I was crying when I wrote that and was using my phone so yeah but thanks again for your support guys. I know I would probably do something stupid if we didn't have LS. As for your advice WilsonX I read that whole thread again and again throughout the night and I could totally relate things to that. I will continue this on that thread. Don't listen to what they say man you talk the right thing. You talk like a man like big brother figure or something. That's exactly what a dude with a broken heart needs to hear and man up. Thanks a lot dude.
Author macardent Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 Sorry man, its a tough tough pill to swallow. People in GIGS walk over and over whoever falls "victim" to them, without so much as a twinge of conscience. Its SH*T!! I knoww.. I wasn't even that much into her, I seriously wasn't. She wasn't my type. But I loved the personality which was fake, she was just trying to mirror me. Ohh well their loss, I been a sweet guy to both of them even her friends said I was the best she could ever have.
Author macardent Posted April 23, 2012 Author Posted April 23, 2012 So you broke up with her for 3 minutes, than asked her back and she made you beg for it? I think she has some issues outside of your relationship.... sadly true She did! Her ****in ex!, I tried to let her go in the past but she kept coming back. I think she only had a crush on me. Thanks a lot for ur help!
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